While we're here...
Why do men who have sex with men have no sense of...and this going to sound, well, gay but, romance? Where's the cleverness? The playing with words and sweet-talk?
Why does the old conservative gay pastor send me messages on FB to the tune of "I masturbated to giving you a rimjob the other night, when are you going to let me do that again?" No dinner. No "Hey it's been awhile how are you doing?" No.
Just straight into the nasty. Which, don't get me wrong, I enjoy doing but...
It was the same with the furry.
Welcome to the beautiful world of being approached as a sex object. The only reason women don't get that shit 24/7 is because we shut it down, hard. Guys still try it though. However, just as is true with straight guys in their approaches to women, the vast majority of gay men (as opposed to men who have sex with men, who are an overlapping but slightly different demographic IME) prefer a more dating-oriented, romantic approach to their relationships. A common complaint I've heard from gay friends is about guys who just want to get down to business; one friend said sadly, of the man he was seeing, "It's like I'm just the thing that happens to be attached to my penis". My thought is that you just have to nip that shit in the bud, refuse to tolerate it, and in doing so narrow your dating field to the guys who want the same kind of things you do... which is the quiet majority.
So, my advice, if it's romance you're looking for, would be to look for guys who are looking for a relationship, rather than just sex. Unless you just want sex. Or put an ad out that says something like "I'm not looking for one true love right now, but it's not all about sex; I want candlelight dinners, cuddling and movies, languid make-out sessions. I want to gaze into your eyes as we make sweet, tender love" or some shite like that.