This is going to be painful, but you really have to nail down the pragmatic, functional reasons she Fuckin Hates Boston.
I dunno how much she buys into all the Rationality stuff, but if you can "taboo" any phrase that resembles "I just don't like it" and ask what it functionally is she doesn't like, that might clear some stuff up.
I know. And that's a little hard to hammer out.
I mean, if Massachusetts is still on the table, we're both happy, I just need to figure out what her Bay State parameters are, and see if they're compatible with mine.
I also have to figure out what my deal is now that I'm like, well, I could do this and that would would be cool...
I think my main thing with Boston is that while people may come and go, there's a sort of stability to it. It's not the place so much as the groups of people.
For example, I can't remember the last time we met up. I like that that possibility is there because I consider you my friend. I enjoy your company. I also enjoy the company of other people who live in Boston. If you left Boston, well, that's on you, and I wish you the best, but if I leave Boston, I leave everyone. Part of the reason I suggested maybe Chicago is that we already had friends there and friends that were soon to move there. Part of the reason I am ok with moving to Ireland is because the other half of my family is there, even though I had no previous inclination to move there on a permanent basis (I figured a summer-winter retirement deal).