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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #15 on: June 05, 2012, 02:38:51 am »
Shouldn't #4 be rephrased as Loving self for the benefit of others?

I am not sure I'm on board with typifying these "types of love" at all.

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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #16 on: June 05, 2012, 02:48:08 am »
How about "Love for the sake of nookie"?

Because it would be inaccurate to leave that one out.
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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #17 on: June 05, 2012, 04:36:04 am »
Shouldn't #4 be rephrased as Loving self for the benefit of others?

I am not sure I'm on board with typifying these "types of love" at all.

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I sort of agree with the idea that it's needless to typify love. But it does provide a good model for stopping and saying 'hey what's going on with my life' especially if you're not great at really understanding your own thoughts and feelings.
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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #18 on: June 05, 2012, 04:39:50 am »
Shouldn't #4 be rephrased as Loving self for the benefit of others?

I am not sure I'm on board with typifying these "types of love" at all.

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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #19 on: June 05, 2012, 04:40:57 am »
How about "Love for the sake of nookie"?

Because it would be inaccurate to leave that one out.

That would be #1 and/or #2 ... although I'd like to see it for #3.  "I will do you for your own good"


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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #20 on: June 05, 2012, 04:44:28 am »
Shouldn't #4 be rephrased as Loving self for the benefit of others?

I am not sure I'm on board with typifying these "types of love" at all.

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I sort of agree with the idea that it's needless to typify love. But it does provide a good model for stopping and saying 'hey what's going on with my life' especially if you're not great at really understanding your own thoughts and feelings.

I don't think it's NECESSARY to typify it...I'm just doing it because I enjoy these types of ideas.  For the fun of it. :)

The positive side effect, I've found, was dropping a sense of guilt I've felt whenever I'd try to improve myself.  I always felt it was 'selfish' but now I see the benefit of doing that...

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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #21 on: June 05, 2012, 05:57:55 am »
It's okay and interesting to organize information about behavior patterns. But if you commit too seriously to a certain number and order of Types, then you're ill-prepared to respond to the reality of an ever-changing and fluctuating spectrum of human behavior/feelings.

The positive side effect, I've found, was dropping a sense of guilt I've felt whenever I'd try to improve myself.  I always felt it was 'selfish' but now I see the benefit of doing that...

It's true, improving yourself in a proper manner will, in a roundabout way, help others.
Then again, if you see the benefit of improving yourself because it helps others, then you are actually valuing the sake of the others. :P
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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #22 on: June 06, 2012, 04:05:30 am »
It's okay and interesting to organize information about behavior patterns. But if you commit too seriously to a certain number and order of Types, then you're ill-prepared to respond to the reality of an ever-changing and fluctuating spectrum of human behavior/feelings.

That's a good point. I can think of many occurrences in my life and in others' where I've seen an abundance of structure weaken that primal sense of spontaneity.  See: Aneristic Illusion etc etc.

The positive side effect, I've found, was dropping a sense of guilt I've felt whenever I'd try to improve myself.  I always felt it was 'selfish' but now I see the benefit of doing that...

It's true, improving yourself in a proper manner will, in a roundabout way, help others.
Then again, if you see the benefit of improving yourself because it helps others, then you are actually valuing the sake of the others. :P

I don't think that's so bad.  I'm about thirty-one now and for the past year I've decided it was time to finally formulate my own Purpose (perhaps even to a higher ideal ... but that just sounds kinda silly).  I call it my Master Plan (perhaps that's even sillier).  And something I've recognized as a component to that is a certain degree of service to others.  Maybe that's just the father in me.

One thing that does seem to make sense is that without others, I don't think I'd have quite the same sense of self (if any) that I do.  And so removing others from that equation, I'd also be removing a key component to my own sense of self. 

So why not? They say if you want to learn something really well, teach it.  Sounds like a good plan to me. :)

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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #23 on: June 06, 2012, 06:00:12 pm »
How about "Love for the sake of nookie"?

Because it would be inaccurate to leave that one out.

That would be #1 and/or #2 ... although I'd like to see it for #3.  "I will do you for your own good"


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Okay i was trying to be funny and just realized that could possibly be rape if not done in a consentual light hearted way. lol..

nm me, i just worked like 12 hours...

And even if it isn't, glands like mine need THEIR OWN definition of love.
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Re: Four kinds of love
« Reply #24 on: June 06, 2012, 06:33:39 pm »
I don't think that's so bad.

I didn't mean to say it's bad. Just pointing out a slight paradox.
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