I think Blackfoots alright.
Look, I got into PUA because it was the first thing I had ever seen that actually broke it down and said 'this is how you approach a woman'. Stellas right when se says men who are good with women don't need it, but it's not a crime to be bad with women.
Now everyone is also right when they say PUA is feral bad shit. But the only other place, honestly, that I've seen that gives genuinely good relationship-how to meet people socially kind of advice is here. So I can appreciate the reason people lean towards PUA. I actually wander into the mystery forum periodically to insult people or offer non-slimy advice to guys who are actually nice guys who just don't understand how to talk to women, and sometimes I actually come across genuinely good advice.
Luna, its easy to say 'be yourself' but for a lot of guys being their natural selves is kind of mumbling and avoiding eye contact while feeling inadequate and feeling ready to be brushed of as soon as some 'jerk' comes by. So things like making eye contact, projecting confidence, looking sharp etc... A lot of guys just don't know how to do this. I'm pretty social and I still barely cope with five minutes of slow talk
I'm not trying to dedend PUA. Everyone here is correct when they characterise it as slimy manipulative sludge water. But I think in this regard Blackfoot is just me a few years back, not really knowing how to deal with a social or romantic situation intuitively, not having anyone else who actually breaks down the process into comprehendible detail. I definately don't mean to their off at you Luna because Be Yourself IS good advice, but to someone who doesn't understand themself or the social process, it's not useful.
Best advice I ever got;
-girls aren't being approached every minute of every day. The only time you will get shot the godawful fuck down for just making conversation is when you're one of many dumb drink guys.
-make eye contact and smile
That's it. And I'm aware I'm going to sound stupid but it took me YEARS.
Anyway, point is, I don't think Blackfoots a sleazy wannabe pickup artist, I just think that he's still working his stuff out. And actually this forum in particular is full of people who give great advice so it's not a bad place to start.