Doing everything exactly opposite from "The Mainstream" is the same thing as doing everything exactly like "The Mainstream." You're still using What Everyone Else is Doing as your primary point of reference.
I also really don't want to get involved (despite it all looking like a misunderstanding from the outside, frankly), but Nigel has kinda disappeared and I wonder if anyone knows for sure that it's not because of a medical emergency?
She was on fb earlier, seemed to be ok.
I'm thinking maybe there's more going on then we know about? Or maybe all the stuff going on for her got to her. You know her pattern of behavior better than I do, but this doesn't seem very much like her usually.
No, I did read those threads. I'm a bit appalled by the barrage of texts. I'm just saying, in long terms behavior patterns, that doesn't seem, to me, to be terribly Nigel-y and she's under a fair bit of stress lately. But you've known her for longer than I have, so I could be wrong. *shrug*