PICS VIII: 10% LARGER THAN PICS VII

[LMNO]

I don't have kids, so that sounds kind of fucked up to me.


Remember, I don't have kids, so my perspective is most likely off

[P3nT4gR4m]

I've heard equally strong arguments for both sides. Glad I don't have kids. Don't have to make that call.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I don't have kids, so that sounds kind of fucked up to me.


Remember, I don't have kids, so my perspective is most likely off

Compassion is a learned behavior.

[Sir Squid Diddimus]

I don't have kids, so that sounds kind of fucked up to me.


Remember, I don't have kids, so my perspective is most likely off

Compassion is a learned behavior.

This.
Now mind you, I am not ok with someone physically harming a child. EVER. But a tap on the bum hurts their feelings, and therefore they don't do the thing that made mommy hurt their feelings. Followed by an explanation of why mommy had to hurt their feelings, and that they should never do the thing, teaches them valuable life lessons. AND, as Rog says, compassion.

[Reginald Ret]

I think spanking is neither horrible or neccesary.
Having taken the middle ground i now expect to be attacked by both sides.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I think spanking is neither horrible or neccesary.
Having taken the middle ground i now expect to be attacked by both sides.

Everyone hates a fence sitter.

[Eater of Clowns]

I think spanking is neither horrible or neccesary.
Having taken the middle ground i now expect to be attacked by both sides.

Everyone hates a fence sitter.

As an activity though it probably leaves more of a mark than spanking.

[Reginald Ret]

I think spanking is neither horrible or neccesary.
Having taken the middle ground i now expect to be attacked by both sides.

Everyone hates a fence sitter.

As an activity though it probably leaves more of a mark than spanking.

You have discovered my kink.

[PopeTom]

Do I even WANT to ask what "gray-biromantic" is?

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I don't have kids, so that sounds kind of fucked up to me.


Remember, I don't have kids, so my perspective is most likely off

Compassion is a learned behavior.

Hmmm

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

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This is exactly why I never joined any mommy groups, or really have friends with kids.
I fucking hate other parents and the way they act.

"What did you do when your son acted like this?"
"I spanked him"
"Oh I can't do that to little Katie, I just think it would have too many long term psychological effects"
"My kid turned out fine. I turned out fine. You got spanked, remember?"
"Yes but my little Brycer is different"
"FUCK YOU IN YOUR DUMB FUCKING FACE YOU STUPID CUNT"

I don't have friends with kids.

I have noticed a disturbing trend - mind you, this isn't based on an actual study or anything - that kids who never get spanked wind up completely without compassion.

I think that if you don't associate pain with bad acts, then there are no bad acts in your mind.

There is research on this, and this is not correct.

I am not saying that you must not spank. I am just saying that spanking doesn't create compassion.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I don't have kids, so that sounds kind of fucked up to me.


Remember, I don't have kids, so my perspective is most likely off

Compassion is a learned behavior.

Hmmm

I'm gonna stick the standard disclaimer in, here.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

There is research on this, and this is not correct.

That's about par for the course.   

I am constantly amazed at the sheer quantity of incorrect information I have stored.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

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This is exactly why I never joined any mommy groups, or really have friends with kids.
I fucking hate other parents and the way they act.

"What did you do when your son acted like this?"
"I spanked him"
"Oh I can't do that to little Katie, I just think it would have too many long term psychological effects"
"My kid turned out fine. I turned out fine. You got spanked, remember?"
"Yes but my little Brycer is different"
"FUCK YOU IN YOUR DUMB FUCKING FACE YOU STUPID CUNT"

I don't have friends with kids.

This is exactly why I hate the other mommies. Extremists and assholes who all think they've found the one magical formula for raising perfect children, and as long as they adhere perfectly to their superstitious little rituals nothing  bad will befall their little snowflakes, and they won't turn out to be failures or assholes.

The fanatical extremism drives me insane. There are some pretty basic things that parents should and shouldn't do with their kids, and the rest of it really doesn't matter that much.

1. Don't be abusive (or abused).
2. Good basic nutrition all around for moms and kids.
3. Go easy on the drugs and alcohol.
4. Bond with them, be present, and be responsive to their needs.
5. Provide consistent and secure structure for their lives, including discipline

If you've got those five items covered, whether or not you spank is really pretty much beside the point. Just figure out what works for you and your family, and do that.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I'd really like to add "don't be poor" but really it's more like "society, don't let people be poor, it's bad for kids".