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#61
I heard about this over the weekend.  This chick certainly took it to the wall!
#62
Quote from: 'Kai' ZLB, M.S. on November 30, 2011, 03:59:16 PM

I think it's pretty screwed up that wearing a dress at all was a matter for a beating.

It is screwed up.  It's beyond screwed up.  This classic case of fear cuts to the quick, doesn't it?  It was shocking to me at the time, which shows you how sheltered I grew up.  My own dad's pretty alpha, but he wouldn't beat a child or his mother for wearing a fucking dress...esp seeing how happy the kid was in it.

I tell you what though--when I worked in the preschool in the afternoons, I knew to take the dress off of him 4-5 mins before his mom came to get him.  He still got to wear it, and gaze at himself in the little handheld mirror that came along with all the playset stuff.  He'd build blocks in the dress and sometimes wear a crown with it.  And we let him.  Until we knew it was close to the time he had to go home.  :)

Yes, I was an old hand at subterfuge back in the day.
#63
Quote from: Iptuous on November 30, 2011, 04:03:20 PM
Quote from: Jenne on November 29, 2011, 03:11:08 PM
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His mother came in and picked him up one day and yelled and screamed at me.  Said that if his father ever knew he dressed up in dresses at school, he'd beat his child, her then ME.  I stared at her.  And then I hated her.  I couldn't believe this kid, this beautiful boy, was in the hands of these monsters.  I mean, she was trying to be funny about it, but to me, it's not a joke.  That kid was on his way to being fairly screwed up if wearing a dress for play was a matter for a beating.

for clarification... was she joking about the beating thing, or did you get the impression that it was an actual possibility?


I don't think the guy would have come after me, no, but he'd have complained to the management/school owner.  And yes, she probably would've caught hell along with her son. 

Still pisses me off to this day, and this was 16 years ago.
#64
Another homerun.  Thanks, Rog.
#65
I'd also like to posit that whole family intervention is not an easy avenue nor is it always feasible, either.  Consider the resources it takes to do that.  Consider how inadequate most of our public works programs are.  Now apply that to cases like these.  How many families would the state be "raising" now?  You want to talk about overstepping boundaries...there you go.

As always, I go back to my usual bailiwick:  EDUFUCKINGCATION.  If we had a better system, it would reach the families in a more equal way such that this sort of seive wasn't necessary as often.  If people LEARNED at school and then had it reinforced at home what is good for them, what biology has taught us about fat, sugar, and exercise...then this problem would go a long way to being prevented.
#67
Two vast and trunkless legs of stone / Re: Spagbook
November 30, 2011, 01:41:42 PM
Quote from: Nph. Twid. on November 30, 2011, 09:20:47 AM
Quote from: Luna on November 29, 2011, 10:09:38 PM
Oh, Twid...  I feel inspired.

I still want to know how and why I have a friggin' green bow tie.

The suit I can accept.

The bow tie though? Seriously, no clue where that came from.

The Leprachaun League.  They deposit them in your drawers as the Irish sleep and dream of shamrocks, warm beer and whiskey...
#68
Aneristic Illusions / Re: Occupy
November 29, 2011, 08:53:18 PM
You are not that old, Mr. Roger.

I think I'm 4 years younger than you, so quit it.
#69
Aneristic Illusions / Re: Barney Frank to retire.
November 29, 2011, 08:50:23 PM
This is why our generation is so very jaded, to hearken back to another fread.

Every hero we had who was human or is human has clay feet.

And then we blame ourselves for even expecting greatness anymore.
#71
This was great in a very sad way, Rog.  :(  You have a gift, my friend.

I loved Happy Days...
#73
When is it prudent then?  What time frame suits you best?

Here's what I see:  a lot of Monday-morning quarterbacking ITT.  Like it or not, there ARE people out there invested in the child's interests and seeing him un-become a statistic.  I cheer those folks on if they are led by doing right by him.  And again, I see no indication this hasn't gone on.

Meanwhile, a year later, his mother's still overfeeding him to death.
#74
I totally feel ya, Dudette!
#75
Quote from: Nph. Twid. on November 29, 2011, 03:56:11 PM
So, the religious stuff and the bits circled in crayon....

I'm still confused.

It's done its work just fine then.