Dad's gonna be, pretty soon. I'm in NY, with the rest of the family, taking care of him in his final days. It cam on him fast: On Friday, he was working in front of his computer. By Sunday, he was bedridden and only occasionally coherent. I can say that he's in no pain. He sleeps about 20-22 hours a day. I'd like to think that this speedy decline is a positive thing, as he was only aware his brain was getting muddled for only a day or so.
I've said what I needed to say to him in private, and he smiled when I was done. That's all I could ask for. Now, we wait.
I'll be back in Boston on Monday if he decides he enjoys the rest (and the morphine), and then back to NY that weekend, or sooner if he decides to do the thermodynamic thing before that.
It should be noted that this whole thing has been made easier by accepting the disordered, random, and unpredictable events that come with a loved one dying. I am in no way sarcastic when I say, "Thanks, Eris."
LMNO
- keeping his shit together.
Love and hugs, LMNO. That's all I can say.
My thoughts go out to you and the Daddy LMNO. I hope that everything goes smoothly. Don't hesitate to give me a buzz if you need to talk or what not.
All the best, man.
All of the above, and most of the below.
+1
Good to hear you're weathering it well, and that you dad seems to be as well.
you've got my utmost respect and sympathy, LMNO.
I'm sorry for your loss, LMNO. He was one heck of a guy.
Best to you and yours.
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (deceased) on July 27, 2011, 10:47:27 PM
Dad's gonna be, pretty soon. I'm in NY, with the rest of the family, taking care of him in his final days. It cam on him fast: On Friday, he was working in front of his computer. By Sunday, he was bedridden and only occasionally coherent. I can say that he's in no pain. He sleeps about 20-22 hours a day. I'd like to think that this speedy decline is a positive thing, as he was only aware his brain was getting muddled for only a day or so.
I've said what I needed to say to him in private, and he smiled when I was done. That's all I could ask for. Now, we wait.
I'll be back in Boston on Monday if he decides he enjoys the rest (and the morphine), and then back to NY that weekend, or sooner if he decides to do the thermodynamic thing before that.
It should be noted that this whole thing has been made easier by accepting the disordered, random, and unpredictable events that come with a loved one dying. I am in no way sarcastic when I say, "Thanks, Eris."
LMNO
- keeping his shit together.
Aw, fuck. Sorry to hear this, LMNO.
Sorry to hear it, man. My thoughts are with you and we're here for you if needed.
I am so sorry.
We are here for you hon.
I'm truly sorry to hear this, LMNO. IMO, you are totally correct in being thankful that it's been a speedy process. For me, the pain of watching my father die was nothing compared to watching him slowly decline first, and watching him realize it and struggle with it as a person who had always taken pride in having a clear head and an intellectual bent.
From what you've shared with us about your dad, he was a friggin' giant and the world will be a poorer place without him.
I'm so sorry LMNO. If there is anything I can do! Take care and be safe in your traveling.
Sad news. It's good you, your dad and your family can be together at this time.
Comfort with each other.
Big hugs, LMNO, big hugs.
All the rest's been said.
Big hugs.
Very sorry to hear, LMNO, but glad to hear you're dealing with it okay. We're here if you need us.
I'm sorry to hear that man.
I'm glad you had a chance to say whatever it was that elicited that smile.
This sucks. I'm sorry.
Shit, LMNO, sorry to hear. :( I'm with ECH on the speedy process bit, but obviously biased by the situation with my own dad. At any rate, I have Monday off. If you need anything, you know how to find me. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts (and doing.. you know, the non-religious version of praying for y'all). <3
I'll lift a jar in your honour this weekend, L.
Quote from: ☄ · · · N E T · · · ☄ on July 28, 2011, 03:19:49 AM
I'm sorry to hear that man.
I'm glad you had a chance to say whatever it was that elicited that smile.
This. Going out with a reason to smile... I can't think of a better way.
{{{LMNO}}}
Sincerest sympathy man.
I'm so sorry, LMNO.
Pisser. Nothing to add except my condolences. :sad:
Sorry to hear.
Damn and damn.
You got to see him and talk to him. That's a lot when things go that fast.
Best regards LMNO.
warmest sympathies, man. Take care of yourself and your family
take care friend
Kai and I are thinking about you and your dad, LMNO. And we will be for the foreseeable future.
I'm sorry to hear this, LMNO. (hug)
Sounds like you're handling it well, but OUCH. All the best to you guys.
Sorry to hear, best to you and the family.
Just saw in the science news that lmnos dad passed yesterday. So sorry lmno. I hope you're holding up ok.
:( :(
Hang in there, L.
OH LMNO, I am so terribly sorry for your loss!!
I'm glad you were able to spend the last few days with him!
:cry:
Damn. Sorry for your loss, LMNO, and very glad you got to say your goodbyes.
:sad: sorry man...
Sorry to hear that. Always tough getting used to these things, even if you know it's coming.
For whatever it's worth LMNO, I'm sorry for what you have to go through, but at least was in way that let you come to peace with it. Best of luck to you.
We knew it was coming for a while, so it's easier to deal with. In case anyone wants to know more about him, this is currently the best obit: http://www.stonybrook.edu/sb/jhmarburger.shtml
I know it doesn't mean anything coming from a nameless faceless spag on the internet, but please accept my deepest sympathy.
You must be very proud to be so close to someone who left an impact like that.
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (life continues) on July 30, 2011, 04:42:26 PM
We knew it was coming for a while, so it's easier to deal with. In case anyone wants to know more about him, this is currently the best obit: http://www.stonybrook.edu/sb/jhmarburger.shtml
I've found his portrait in the Ward Melville Library.
Like I said, a heck of a guy. I hope I can accomplish a tenth as much in my upcoming scientific career.
Sorry dude.
My condolences, LMNO, meanwhile I'm rereading this:
http://www.principiadiscordia.com/forum/index.php?topic=20949.0
thoughts are with you and yours
best regards, tdh
My condolences, LMNO.
Sorry about your loss.
:sad:
Our thoughts are with you & your family.
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (life continues) on July 30, 2011, 04:42:26 PM
We knew it was coming for a while, so it's easier to deal with. In case anyone wants to know more about him, this is currently the best obit: http://www.stonybrook.edu/sb/jhmarburger.shtml
He sounds like he was a hell of a guy.
One of the final conversations he had about science and science advocacy:
Quote from: Jack MarburgerIf I had one piece of advice to offer on your topic it would be "focus on excellence and content." Spend time becoming the best that you can be in your chosen field. You don't have to be brilliant to be successful in science, but you do have to love what you're doing and do it reliably and without slick salesmanship. Passion comes through clearly and everyone loves to see it in action. A scientist who loves their work can motivate an entire laboratory and provide a spark that helps everyone be more creative and successful. When it comes to getting funding or having people support your ideas, nothing is more important that showing integrity, competence, and a passion for whatever you're doing. It also helps to know what your sponsor wants and to try to help him/her become successful. You want to know how your talents can help your sponsor succeed. If they succeed, you will succeed.
http://marketingforscientists.tumblr.com/post/7533781032/a-note-from-john-marburger
Emphasis mine.