Dear Internet: How to get your dick wet without raping anybody

[Meunster]

If one can't figure out how to treat women as human, one must start at zero.

Become a friend of a woman. A REAL friend. Someone who honestly respects and honors her, and not just because she's a woman. No expectations, no obligations. When you can consider her an equal, you're ready to take the next step.

impossible, because patriarchy.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

There is nothing actually wrong with expressing that you are interested in a person. People do it all the time, and if it doesn't work out they get over it. It's pretty normal to be attracted to friends. The problem occurs when that is the only thing you see in that person, and when a rejection leads to resentment.

I have been there, and I would be very much surprised if most people haven't. I remain in love with a friend, and we are both aware of it, and when we see one another we enjoy each others' company and talk about trivialities like any two people do.

Your results may vary. Your male friend's advice may be the best one, because as a third party he probably has a better assessment of the situation.

Very common: http://www.principiadiscordia.com/forum/index.php?topic=36875.msg1359314#msg1359314

Yeah! I think by "they get over it" I really meant "it continues to burn for years and casual conversations feel like you're screaming and puking up your soul but it's a good feeling because it's messy and it reminds you that you're human."

I really did not convey that part properly.   

A lot of my friendships have an undercurrent of "I'll always be kinda in love with you". Some are exes, some are people I started to date but it didn't go, some are people I've never dated and never will.

Romantic love is not exclusive to romantic relationships.

[Chelagoras The Boulder]

huh, never really thought about it like that Nigel. That's an interesting idea. During high school i tended to have that fucked up mentality of trying to turn every female friend i had into a girlfriend, so when i realized how messed up that was I compensated by i guess trying to put a strict delineation between females friends and romantic prospects, which is probably counterproductive, since some of the best relationships come from friendships. Your concept provides a good middle ground.

[hooplala]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TM2RUVnTlvs

"Football isn't about rape!  It's about violently dominating anyone that stands between you and what you want."

[LMNO]

I love Amy Schumer.

[Cainad (dec.)]

There is nothing actually wrong with expressing that you are interested in a person. People do it all the time, and if it doesn't work out they get over it. It's pretty normal to be attracted to friends. The problem occurs when that is the only thing you see in that person, and when a rejection leads to resentment.

I have been there, and I would be very much surprised if most people haven't. I remain in love with a friend, and we are both aware of it, and when we see one another we enjoy each others' company and talk about trivialities like any two people do.

Your results may vary. Your male friend's advice may be the best one, because as a third party he probably has a better assessment of the situation.

Very common: http://www.principiadiscordia.com/forum/index.php?topic=36875.msg1359314#msg1359314

Yeah! I think by "they get over it" I really meant "it continues to burn for years and casual conversations feel like you're screaming and puking up your soul but it's a good feeling because it's messy and it reminds you that you're human."

I really did not convey that part properly.   

A lot of my friendships have an undercurrent of "I'll always be kinda in love with you". Some are exes, some are people I started to date but it didn't go, some are people I've never dated and never will.

Romantic love is not exclusive to romantic relationships.

Yeah... yeah. That. All of this.

[Doktor Howl]

There is nothing actually wrong with expressing that you are interested in a person. People do it all the time, and if it doesn't work out they get over it. It's pretty normal to be attracted to friends. The problem occurs when that is the only thing you see in that person, and when a rejection leads to resentment.

I have been there, and I would be very much surprised if most people haven't. I remain in love with a friend, and we are both aware of it, and when we see one another we enjoy each others' company and talk about trivialities like any two people do.

Your results may vary. Your male friend's advice may be the best one, because as a third party he probably has a better assessment of the situation.

Very common: http://www.principiadiscordia.com/forum/index.php?topic=36875.msg1359314#msg1359314

Yeah! I think by "they get over it" I really meant "it continues to burn for years and casual conversations feel like you're screaming and puking up your soul but it's a good feeling because it's messy and it reminds you that you're human."

I really did not convey that part properly.   

A lot of my friendships have an undercurrent of "I'll always be kinda in love with you". Some are exes, some are people I started to date but it didn't go, some are people I've never dated and never will.

Romantic love is not exclusive to romantic relationships.

Whole buncha this.  I'm devoted to my wife, but there's like a dozen other women I love.