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It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice.

You sound like a terrible fucking partner here. The lack of respect you have for her sounds really atrocious. If someone told me their boyfriend felt the things you say you feel here, I would be telling them to leave. Quickly.

It's not a feeling. It's a statement of fact. You can't fix a problem if you avoid stating its existence because it "makes you sound terrible."

I've been trying to help her become a more independent and powerful person. I'm trying to get her to think in a way that makes her less vulnerable. To do that, I have to point out, to her, the control mechanisms that cause her problems. I'm not rude about it. I'm blunt. But I'm not mean. She understands that. I don't tell her she's stupid. I just point out that her parents have a vulnerability that could make her life easier, and that she doesn't take advantage of it. I state the truth as I see it.

Holy fuck, Nigel. The last month for you has not been kind. I'm talking to all kinds of people right now that are having incredibly shitty luck, too.

My friend's tire blew on Wednesday. He lost control and swerved off into a ditch. The car flipped over and he may have broken a knuckle.

My girlfriend is incapable of avoiding trouble with her parents, so she almost got kicked out last night because they claimed to have looked through her phone messages and found "proof" that I snuck into their house during the night, several times. Which is complete bullshit. But they're so sure that I did that they're willing to make up any lie about it. They're paranoid psychos. The thing is, they're predictable, but she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice. If I wasn't at risk to get the cops called on me, I'd just ignore that situation. If she refuses help or to solve the problem, then I should be able to just ignore it. But it involves the accusation that I committed a crime. The thing is, it's all just threats. It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

And then there's another endless list of people with uninteresting, but unfortunate circumstances affecting their lives in the past month. Everything's just all-around stressful and shitty for everyone.

Remind me again why the floor is so wet?

RELATED REQUEST:  TELL NOBODY WHY THE FLOOR IS SO WET

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[Pathological Narcissist]

Is LuciferX a non-native English speaker? Because I don't want to shit on somebody for having a poor grasp of a second or third language, I just really really cannot understand what the fuck he's on about.

No, he just takes statements he can't understand as insults, or denigration, because he has ego issues. He also neglects to state his personal views and opinions as views or opinions, and instead, states them as universal facts. This is also because of ego issues.

After everyone takes the opposing side, he remembers to throw in the fact that his statements were, in-fact, views and opinions. He does this, without realizing it, because of the ego issues. You can't have an incorrect opinion or view, so his ego re-writes his paragraphs for him in E-Prime and with extra (Yet, twisted) pedantry.

How do I know this? Because I used to do the same shit. Maybe I still do the same shit. But admitting that you do it and seeing it in yourself and others is the first step to solving the problem. Believe it or not (This is at LuciferX) you don't need other people to help you with that problem, because I know you probably wouldn't let anyone try to fix that problem because you're so hateful towards the idea of someone who isn't you (Because everyone is lesser than you, right?) fixing you.

EDIT: Basically, this makes it seem as though Lucifer is disagreeing one moment, and switching directions the next. And when you're under attack when you have ego issues, you tend to kick your pedantry machine too hard, causing it to spit out the sludge you read by LuciferX half of the time. You start re-reading pieces of what you write, as you write it, and you throw different ideas into it in every cycle, causing loops of concept shittery. It's just what happens when your ego is desperate and you have a decent intelligence. Yeah, I said it, I have no doubt that he's intelligent. He just has some issues he needs to deal with before he'll start making sense.

Whoa, that was pretty incisive.

Thanks for the insight.

Thanks. When you spend years breaking your own tendencies down into a science, you start to recognize the patterns in others as well.

When you have the background that I do, and the years of experience in putting others down (As a small child, until about the age of 14, I was an awful bully.), it gets hard to look at yourself on any realistic level without feeling terrible. I have no doubt that he was also bullied and became a bully out of spite. But, the moment you realize your shit stinks just like everyone else's, and you're not actually enlightened beyond any of these "mere mortals," life gets sooooo much easier. And people get so much easier to deal with.

Another thing I realized eventually:

You gotta love the shithead that you actually are, not the one you imagine yourself to be. You got some baggage? You got some dirt? Oh well. No one is perfect. Forgive yourself, and move on. Nothing is irredeemable. I watched my mom tell my child molesting grandfather, that she forgives him for everything he did to her, just before he died. Ignoring your flaws is not a valid method of redemption.

TLDR: If you were ever interested in the process by which a Pathological Narcissist fixes itself, read above.

So, I tried looking that up in the V'th DSM and found myself quite nonplussed, what's the problem again?

Are you asking what problem exists with the disorder itself? Or are you asking where I see the disorder (Or parts of it) in you?

I think the reason many of us are eye-rolling is because we've mostly all had some practical experience of security work, or know someone who has.

Roger: cop, hired muscle.
Me: terrorism expert, occasional private security contractor
Junkenstein: works with explosives all day every day
ECH: experience on the "other side of the fence", so to speak
Faust: enough tech and programming knowledge to know about net security
NET: I think did some network maintenance style job, a while back?  not sure.
Paes: showed security flaws on some major politicians site in his country

And I'm sure I'm forgetting a few.

Plenty of real-world experience that I don't have would make my views a bit far-fetched. I kinda only have an observer's perspective, if that wasn't obvious. It's all completely understandable.

Good point. Now I owe the theater here an apology letter.

I'm sorry to hear about your dogs urethra.

That's very unfortunate Nigel. I hope it gets better soon 

As we decided when I first came to this board, I am preachy. It has its perks. But it also has its drawbacks. One of them is that I sound like an armchair enthusiast when I've still got lots to learn. I also romanticize things that can be upsetting to the average Joe/Jane. I know that that will cause some issues in understanding, sometimes. I'm still workin on it.

Just under a year until I've been on this Earth two decades. So I feel like I've got some time to be weird as fuck. At least for a little while.

Spoilsport.

I'm the one who has to clean up the mess. If motherfuckers won't even pick up their popcorn bags and throw them away, there's no way they would consider wiping up their gooey mess. I ain't havin it! 

Congratulations on all of that, Dok!



On a separate note, the other day at work, a teenage couple was caught having oral sex in one of the theaters by a customer. My cousin (assistant manager) goes in to stop them. The girl was sitting on the guy and making out with him when my cousin walked in. My cousin tells them to sit in separate seats and to stop being inappropriate. She comes out and tells me the story and says that she has to go in and check on them again in a few minutes. I tell her "Nah, clock me out. I got it. I'll take my break now. I'll sit in there."

"Oh, are you sure?"

"Yeah, I'll sit right next to'em."

So, I go sit next to them in the movie theater. They are obviously bored and feel awkward throughout the whole movie, considering the guy who just served their popcorn is sitting right next to the chair they were just mouth-fucking in (I am also blatantly looking into their direction every few minutes).

The girl pulls out her phone to send a text. I whisper over to her "No cell phones please, it's distracting." 

[#LIFEHACKING TIP 42069 -Murdering someone]

Literally everything in there is bad advice, even the AES thing is contentious, with most people saying don't use standards the three letter agencies were involved with, the one I see that seems to be the most popular at the moment is PGP.

As far as I know, AES is still an algorithm that still gives the NSA trouble. However, I forgot to specify that AES was the best for stored data, and that communications would be more effectively hidden by some other form of encryption system. I was thinking more in the realm of efficiency and bandwidth control, though. Until I just looked it up recently, I had no idea of the flaws AES creates when dealing with communications. Also, I was not aware of PGP's popularity at the time of writing this. Admittedly, I had no idea PGP even existed. Obviously this was poor research on my part.

#LIFEHACKING TIP 42069 -Murdering someone

If you want to murder someone, don't just rush out and do it. Get a job as a Crime Scene Investigator or something in Crime Lab.

With a lucrative new career as a forensic investigator you can enjoy the spoils of new found wealth and job fulfillment, this will make your initial gripe with that person seem insignificant and the need to murder redundant.

I feel like it would be fallacious to try and say that I intended to specify that CSI would be a good official career path if you wanted to make a career out of crime and murder, not if you just wanted to get rid of one person. It would probably sound like an ass-covering through hindsight. So I'll just let you have this one.

I'm just messing with you, I get what you meant with a lot of what you said, you just have a terrible way of phrasing some of it.

When I get into my fan-girl/enthusiast rants, I tend to leave out the info and phrasing that sells it. Or maybe that's my problem. Maybe I'm trying to sell it too much.

I know that I'm verbose with what I say, so I try to tone it down when I can. But sometimes, that just leads to me leaving out necessary information. When you, yourself, know what you're talking about, sometimes it's hard to prioritize information correctly. It makes it even harder when you're trying to be flashy and entertaining at the same time. I just gotta work on it.

At the same time, I don't wanna just throw out the fact that you might have some good points against what I said. Or that anyone has some good points, for that matter.

Idk man you just sounded like those arm-chair gun experts... who was that guy? The resident nazi we had? That waxed on about rifles, the models and calibers which also sounds like those guys with break-in fantasies about luring the intruder then killing them in some intricate manner and getting off legally clean.

Sort of a try-hard amateur expert-non-expert.

That's all there is to it.

I always feel like that. No matter how much time I spend looking into a subject, I always feel like I've just barely scratched the surface.

On top of that, I have to worry about getting too in-depth, which can cause some readers to zone out, as well as making sure I get precise enough for those who do know what I'm talking about.

You can be a  murder fanboi all you want, that doesn't mean you could get away with one, or advise someone else on how to. Keep in mind that people are getting convicted (and exonerated) all the time on the basis of evidence uncovered with technologies that didn't even exist when the crime was committed.

People get away with murder all the time, it's true. Not necessarily because they planned it perfectly, though. Planning is methodical, and method is predictable.

And that's not even delving into the psychology behind being a murder fanboi, which I can only speculate might arise from a very sad sense of disempowerment and helplessness. Most people don't feel that way, and hence may tend to find your hobby creepy, juvenile, and distasteful.

I think you misunderstood where my interests and obsessions lie. It's not about killing, with me. It's about figuring out how to bypass a system that's supposed to catch you doing it or keep you from doing it. Again, my hobby is security.

Some may ask themselves, "Why be on the offensive side of security?" And others may answer "Well, without the offensive side of security, we could never build security up." And then, the natural response is, "But if it weren't for offensive security enthusiasts, or people who are on the offensive, we wouldn't need security in the first place. You're contributing to the wrong side. You're adding more soldiers to the army that's destroying what we care about."

So, why do I like it? Because I see security as a set, or system of walls and enclosures. A maze, full of dead ends and loops. It feels pretty good to break things like walls. If you haven't done it before, I suggest you try it.

You see, I can't stand limitations. I like to think there are little vulnerabilities and holes in the walls of my reality, and in the walls of the world in my reality. If I'm gonna see what's outside of my reality, I gotta break through to the outside first, or at least take a peek through the holes. When making additions to a house, do we not have to put a door or opening in to make the sure the addition is functional?

To improve, or extend life, we must first understand death. If your goal is to survive, you must be familiar with the failure to survive. Maintenance of life is achieved through security. If you don't see the flaws in the security, or understand them, then your life will be limited. I see every death as a failure in security - A sign of a vulnerability. The end-goal, of course, is to make sure every person's security is 100% voluntary. Well, actually, my goal is to make sure that my security is voluntary. Note that I don't mean 100% infallible. You can't have life without death. They are two sides of the same coin. I just want my death to be my choice. Well, mostly.

[Sort of a try-hard amateur expert-non-expert.]

I'm just messing with you, I get what you meant with a lot of what you said, you just have a terrible way of phrasing some of it.

When I get into my fan-girl/enthusiast rants, I tend to leave out the info and phrasing that sells it. Or maybe that's my problem. Maybe I'm trying to sell it too much.

I know that I'm verbose with what I say, so I try to tone it down when I can. But sometimes, that just leads to me leaving out necessary information. When you, yourself, know what you're talking about, sometimes it's hard to prioritize information correctly. It makes it even harder when you're trying to be flashy and entertaining at the same time. I just gotta work on it.

At the same time, I don't wanna just throw out the fact that you might have some good points against what I said. Or that anyone has some good points, for that matter.

Idk man you just sounded like those arm-chair gun experts... who was that guy? The resident nazi we had? That waxed on about rifles, the models and calibers which also sounds like those guys with break-in fantasies about luring the intruder then killing them in some intricate manner and getting off legally clean.

Sort of a try-hard amateur expert-non-expert.

That's all there is to it.

I always feel like that. No matter how much time I spend looking into a subject, I always feel like I've just barely scratched the surface.

On top of that, I have to worry about getting too in-depth, which can cause some readers to zone out, as well as making sure I get precise enough for those who do know what I'm talking about.

No, the verbosity and detail are fine, most of us take an interest at breaking things down and seeing how they work, but we're all civilians here that aren't experts at such things, so its just ends up being reading about crime-fiction... and im sure we're capable of  outputting our creativity to better things.

Point taken. Kinda silly to point your creative effort into a field that you don't plan on working in. I never really thought of it that way.

Now I'm trying to think of a way to put the information into a format that reads like a security article. Security is what I'm interested in, mainly. I like breaking things down and seeing how things work. But sometimes, I get a little more of a rise out of the "breaking things down" part than I do the "seeing how things work" part.

I wanna be in a line of work that deals with security. Whether or not it will be about building it up (By analyzing it as it breaks down), or breaking it down for personal gain, is what I can't decide on.

Just a FYI for everyone, even talking about how to evade criminal detection techniques can be used against you as proof of intentional deception in a court of law.

I would totally be a defense lawyer if it didn't require amazing memory. Then I could get paid to use bullshit, fallacious precedents and arguments, instead of trying to be precise and accurate in debates on here for free.

[Sort of a try-hard amateur expert-non-expert.]

I'm just messing with you, I get what you meant with a lot of what you said, you just have a terrible way of phrasing some of it.

When I get into my fan-girl/enthusiast rants, I tend to leave out the info and phrasing that sells it. Or maybe that's my problem. Maybe I'm trying to sell it too much.

I know that I'm verbose with what I say, so I try to tone it down when I can. But sometimes, that just leads to me leaving out necessary information. When you, yourself, know what you're talking about, sometimes it's hard to prioritize information correctly. It makes it even harder when you're trying to be flashy and entertaining at the same time. I just gotta work on it.

At the same time, I don't wanna just throw out the fact that you might have some good points against what I said. Or that anyone has some good points, for that matter.

Idk man you just sounded like those arm-chair gun experts... who was that guy? The resident nazi we had? That waxed on about rifles, the models and calibers which also sounds like those guys with break-in fantasies about luring the intruder then killing them in some intricate manner and getting off legally clean.

Sort of a try-hard amateur expert-non-expert.

That's all there is to it.

I always feel like that. No matter how much time I spend looking into a subject, I always feel like I've just barely scratched the surface.

On top of that, I have to worry about getting too in-depth, which can cause some readers to zone out, as well as making sure I get precise enough for those who do know what I'm talking about.

I'll respond piecemeal while I get break times at work, or I will respond completely all at once much later on in the night. Either way, I'm getting mixed feelings on this one. I either a) Continue the debate through clarification of methodology for committing crimes - Something that appears to be morally objectionable to people on this board, or b) I let this go, swallow my pride, and just get laughed at for awhile. Decisions, decisions...

What are you doing?

Stating how to take precautions that enable you to do what DPR was doing WITHOUT going to prison for life. Also, I connected some of what the others stated to my purpose.

Was I too verbose and off-topic with this one? I do that sometimes, especially when it's about topics I'm obsessed with. 

the, they have a dogma to justify it.

Oh, I don't know of a PDF explaining the Swinger-type dogmatic justification. I was defining their "dogma" using what was stated in this thread: Their belief that everyone is actually polygamous.

Does that answer your question? Or am I missing something big/being fucking retarded? Because that happens sometimes.