OPEN BAR: Top 10 things millenials hate about OB that we didn't know last week!

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

Remind me again why the floor is so wet?

RELATED REQUEST:  TELL NOBODY WHY THE FLOOR IS SO WET

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Okay, I... I mean, no... but....

[Don Coyote]

Remind me again why the floor is so wet?

I suspect it has something to do with the whole tentacles and face combination she has going on.

[Dubya]

Remind me again why the floor is so wet?

RELATED REQUEST:  TELL NOBODY WHY THE FLOOR IS SO WET

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Okay, I... I mean, no... but....

Screw all that. Tell us the awful truth.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

My dog might have salmon fever, but I can't afford antibiotics AND diagnostics, so I'm throwing $200 worth of antibiotics at it and hoping she lives.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Also she is hands-down absolutely the hardest to pill dog I've ever worked with, and I have to giver her eight pills a day.

[Dubya]

My dog might have salmon fever, but I can't afford antibiotics AND diagnostics, so I'm throwing $200 worth of antibiotics at it and hoping she lives.

That sucks. Hope she pulls through.

[POFP]

Holy fuck, Nigel. The last month for you has not been kind. I'm talking to all kinds of people right now that are having incredibly shitty luck, too.

My friend's tire blew on Wednesday. He lost control and swerved off into a ditch. The car flipped over and he may have broken a knuckle.

My girlfriend is incapable of avoiding trouble with her parents, so she almost got kicked out last night because they claimed to have looked through her phone messages and found "proof" that I snuck into their house during the night, several times. Which is complete bullshit. But they're so sure that I did that they're willing to make up any lie about it. They're paranoid psychos. The thing is, they're predictable, but she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice. If I wasn't at risk to get the cops called on me, I'd just ignore that situation. If she refuses help or to solve the problem, then I should be able to just ignore it. But it involves the accusation that I committed a crime. The thing is, it's all just threats. It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

And then there's another endless list of people with uninteresting, but unfortunate circumstances affecting their lives in the past month. Everything's just all-around stressful and shitty for everyone.

[Cain]

Ok, so pursuant to this conversation, I'm going to see about doing some streaming tonight, here.  Probably in an hour and a half or so, once I've drunk and eaten.

Mostly want to see if it will work or not.  If it works as it should, then there should be a chat where, if you're signed up, you can talk to me as I do stuff in real time.  Which would be nice.  Nicer than talking into a void when doing Youtube videos anyway.

Probably start off with some Mass Effect, but I might switch to Dishonored or Skyrim, depending on how it all goes.

OK, this appears to be working.  Please feel free to join the chat.

[Pæs]

It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice.

You sound like a terrible fucking partner here. The lack of respect you have for her sounds really atrocious. If someone told me their boyfriend felt the things you say you feel here, I would be telling them to leave. Quickly.

[POFP]

It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice.

You sound like a terrible fucking partner here. The lack of respect you have for her sounds really atrocious. If someone told me their boyfriend felt the things you say you feel here, I would be telling them to leave. Quickly.

It's not a feeling. It's a statement of fact. You can't fix a problem if you avoid stating its existence because it "makes you sound terrible."

I've been trying to help her become a more independent and powerful person. I'm trying to get her to think in a way that makes her less vulnerable. To do that, I have to point out, to her, the control mechanisms that cause her problems. I'm not rude about it. I'm blunt. But I'm not mean. She understands that. I don't tell her she's stupid. I just point out that her parents have a vulnerability that could make her life easier, and that she doesn't take advantage of it. I state the truth as I see it.

[Pæs]

Okay. I maintain that "She is stupid if she listened to me all her problems would be solved" is still worth examining as a potential problem even if you don't think you explicitly share that perspective.

[Eater of Clowns]

I'm with Paes and would like to add you're a dick and fuck you.

[Pæs]

I'm with Paes and would like to add you're a dick and fuck you.

Oh good. I'm understating how appalling I find the situation illustrated in that post because I've been reading r/relationships and am primed to see toxicity everywhere but that sounds super unhealthy to me.

[Chelagoras The Boulder]

Yea, I'm gonna hafta agree. Even if you have her best interests in mind, the way you presenting things doesnt sound supportive at all. Shes probably already on the defensive because of the pressure her folks are putting on her, so your "advice" is probably coming across as yet another attack, which is causing her to feel attacked on all sides, which will make her more panicked and less likely to calmly make a rational decision in any case. If you really want to help, you need to take another look at how you're communicating.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Holy fuck, Nigel. The last month for you has not been kind. I'm talking to all kinds of people right now that are having incredibly shitty luck, too.

My friend's tire blew on Wednesday. He lost control and swerved off into a ditch. The car flipped over and he may have broken a knuckle.

My girlfriend is incapable of avoiding trouble with her parents, so she almost got kicked out last night because they claimed to have looked through her phone messages and found "proof" that I snuck into their house during the night, several times. Which is complete bullshit. But they're so sure that I did that they're willing to make up any lie about it. They're paranoid psychos. The thing is, they're predictable, but she's too stupid to use that to her advantage. And she won't take any of my advice. If I wasn't at risk to get the cops called on me, I'd just ignore that situation. If she refuses help or to solve the problem, then I should be able to just ignore it. But it involves the accusation that I committed a crime. The thing is, it's all just threats. It's just a control mechanism that her parents are using on her. If she listened to everything I said, the problem would be fixed in a week. But she doesn't have enough self-control to react with reason. She's so emotional and vulnerable to manipulation.

And then there's another endless list of people with uninteresting, but unfortunate circumstances affecting their lives in the past month. Everything's just all-around stressful and shitty for everyone.

I appreciate the extension of sympathy, thank you.

I do have to say though, that while I realize that you are very very young, between this and an earlier post you made about your girlfriend and her relationship with her parents, and your relationship with both her and her parents, it sounds like you lack respect for her, and her parents, and her relationship with her parents, and it also sounds like you are rather manipulative and controlling, and that, honestly, you might just be the bad guy in the picture.