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I just hope to someday get to a point in the political process where the majority of voters aren't getting their political information from memes, tweets, and clickbait articles from US Uncut and Daily News Bin.

But that's unlikely, so I guess I'll just hide in a lab and try to understand the downstream effects of prenatal stress until climate change kills the oceans and starts a trophic cascade that culminates in the extinction of all mammals.

USUncut headline version of this post: "Hillary voters in favour of climate change, extinction of mammals!"

 :lulz:

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The critical element of mansplaining (the reason the tongue-in-cheek name stuck is because every woman has experienced it and it's so hilariously dead-on, if you've ever been on the receiving end) is the assumption, from out of the blue, that the person being explained to has no pre-existing knowledge of the subject even when it can reasonably be assumed that they know quite a bit; sort of like my friend explaining my cameras to me. MY cameras. Which I own, and use.

My favorite recent example, brought to my attention by the illustrious Alty, was a guy in line to see Deadpool explaining Deadpool's history to Gail Simone as she was also in line to see the movie. Because she is a lady, and this guy assumes that a lady in line to see Deadpool must not know anything about the character because that makes perfect sense. :?

Alty had to explain who Gail Simone was, because I am not a comics person, and then I LOLed and LOLed.

So an important element that I would love to get at is not only where the urge to share your knowledge comes from, but also from whence arises the assumption that the person on the receiving end, usually a woman, has no knowledge themselves.

Oh my god. Deadpool in his current portrayal wouldn't even exist without Gail, before that he had an underlying tone of dark comedy, but she's the one who actually made him funny. What a tool.

Here's a quote from Gail that sheds a bit more light than heat on the subject. She doesn't think the guy is a tool, just an over excited fan who wanted to burble about his hero, who he was waiting to see in a Movie.
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ABOUT THE DEADPOOL THEATER INCIDENT

Okay, Iím re-posting this because itís going to get buried in the actual massive thread of reblogs, which is up to 70k.
Hereís what happened. I mentioned that while I was in line to get tickets and popcorn at my local teeny town theater, the guy next to me started explaining who Deadpool was, because he just assumed I wouldnít know.

 http://archive.is/y7WQU


I know, I read all of that. The fact that she doesn't think he was being a tool doesn't negate the fact that it was absolutely classic mansplaining; telling a woman in line at a movie about the main character in the movie, assuming she simply doesn't know without asking. It doesn't make the guy a tool, it just means that he was mansplaining. The fact that it was Gail Simone just adds to the hilarity.


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I must admit I had to look Gail Simone up too. I don't really do comics but my partner insisted that we went to see Deadpool. If someone had buttonholed me then I wouldn't have known a thing, if they'd buttonholed my partner and gushed at her she would just have said "I know" and fan-squeed back at him about the movie. I guess that wasn't really an option open to Gail. I am also not totally convinced by her position, but you know she was actually there and she wrote the original tweet 'cos she thought the gutys behaviour was "cute" so I guess we should accept her opinion on this

I was struck by the sheer volume of hits I got from googling "gail simone & mansplaining" and the fact that they dated back over nearly a decade and since the Deadpool one isn't as clear cut as it originally seemed to be I thought this one was an interesting example:-
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Matt Damon Interrupts Successful Black Woman Filmmaker to Explain Diversity to Her

And the black filmaker on the receiving end of this?
 "Effie Brown, an experienced Hollywood producer and a black woman. She has produced seventeen feature films, including Dear White People" - you couldn't make it up.

Now that guy just might be a tool... but then again, mansplaining alone does not a tool make. Does being socially conditioned to explain things to women as if they are clueless make the individual a tool? I don't think so, personally.

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I just hope to someday get to a point in the political process where the majority of voters aren't getting their political information from memes, tweets, and clickbait articles from US Uncut and Daily News Bin.

But that's unlikely, so I guess I'll just hide in a lab and try to understand the downstream effects of prenatal stress until climate change kills the oceans and starts a trophic cascade that culminates in the extinction of all mammals.

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The critical element of mansplaining (the reason the tongue-in-cheek name stuck is because every woman has experienced it and it's so hilariously dead-on, if you've ever been on the receiving end) is the assumption, from out of the blue, that the person being explained to has no pre-existing knowledge of the subject even when it can reasonably be assumed that they know quite a bit; sort of like my friend explaining my cameras to me. MY cameras. Which I own, and use.

My favorite recent example, brought to my attention by the illustrious Alty, was a guy in line to see Deadpool explaining Deadpool's history to Gail Simone as she was also in line to see the movie. Because she is a lady, and this guy assumes that a lady in line to see Deadpool must not know anything about the character because that makes perfect sense. :?

Alty had to explain who Gail Simone was, because I am not a comics person, and then I LOLed and LOLed.

So an important element that I would love to get at is not only where the urge to share your knowledge comes from, but also from whence arises the assumption that the person on the receiving end, usually a woman, has no knowledge themselves.

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It was a good party because it was so weird.

I think a lot of us were in transitional places in our lives, and many of the former members transitioned out of using forums altogether. I had a lot of free time and money when I was first on the forum, and I think a lot of people had lots of free time so there was a lot of conversation, trolling, argument, drama, etc.

It was indeed the glory days of the board, and it was also happening just past the height of web forum use; all the really big forums I was on started to decline shortly thereafter.

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The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.


Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.

Yeah, that sounds uber bad. She's got one that's dark blue (Navy? Idk, I'm a dude.) with white polka dots and some lacy stuff on it. Looks pretty damn good. I'll get some info on the brand, etc. later and get back to yuh. She's a DDD and has mostly bad looking bras, but does have some pretty damn good ones. She usually doesn't have too much trouble finding the good ones, though.

It's not hard to find pretty bras in my size; Natori, Curvy Kate, and Freya all make very nice bras. It's just hard to find pretty push-up bras in my size because apparently most manufacturers assume that if our cups runneth over, we're never going to want to accentuate them.

Right?!  It's like they're all, "Oh, they're tits are probably pretty droopy and always have been cuz they're so big, they're probably used to it and we don't need to make pushup bras that size."

Also, I've never heard of those brands.  I'm going to check them out.

Amazon has really good deals on them sometimes. And they're super pretty.

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The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.


Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.

Yeah, that sounds uber bad. She's got one that's dark blue (Navy? Idk, I'm a dude.) with white polka dots and some lacy stuff on it. Looks pretty damn good. I'll get some info on the brand, etc. later and get back to yuh. She's a DDD and has mostly bad looking bras, but does have some pretty damn good ones. She usually doesn't have too much trouble finding the good ones, though.

It's not hard to find pretty bras in my size; Natori, Curvy Kate, and Freya all make very nice bras. It's just hard to find pretty push-up bras in my size because apparently most manufacturers assume that if our cups runneth over, we're never going to want to accentuate them.

I gotchya. I'm quite sure it was a push-up, but I'll find out for certain. I may have been unclear because I was speaking on the basis that specifically mentioned bras we were talking about were push-up.

Also, if it's not technically a push-up, they used a technique other than extra lower padding to... uhh... accentuate them. Her girls are definitely more accentuated in this bra than in her others.

Or maybe I have no idea what I'm talking about, and she simply got a DD bra instead and put it on the biggest clip setting, pushin' 'em up and out the lazy consumer way.

Also heard of the toilet paper trick (Am I remembering shit from romantic comedies now? FUCK).

Push up bras may be padded or not padded; they're just sewn so as to push the breasts up and together so you get cleavage.

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I wanted to own a bar for such a long time. A bar where there are no TVs, old country music overhead, and maybe very small, a bar and a row of tables behind it. Very, very soft, cushy stools. The Soft Stool.

Then I realized I hate being around drunk people when I'm not and sometimes when I am.

Bars without TV are the best kind of bars, and sorely needed around here. The Beech, the Free House, and the Red Fox are all TV-less, but that's what, three bars out of the 150 or so that are local to us?


I know it's a bit of a jaunt from where you are but I'm pretty sure I don't remember the Slingshot Lounge having TVs. Almost positive, because that was my go-to watering hole UNLESS I was trying to watch a sports on TV, then I had to go to Tom's.

The Slingshot is great, although way out of stumbling range. I think you're right about there not being TVs there.

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Parenthood is already hilarious.

I could FEEL all the testosterone drain from my body. All I want to do is lay on the couch with a baby on my bare belly and watch old disney animated movies or nature specials narrated by David Attenborough. I find myself suddenly enjoying classical music. I've been eating lots of salad.

I can't wait to see how my newfound mental state confuses my coworkers.

I also definitely need to work on getting out of the restaurant business for real this time. I know I'll probably have to suck it up for another 6 months to a year but it's definitely time to find something less stressful and less "this job will swallow your life whole". I find myself suddenly and starkly unwilling to devote that much of my time and energy to anything that isn't my family.

Yep, you nailed it; your prolactin levels are skyrocketing and your testosterone levels are falling in response as your body prepares you for papahood. It's awesome! It's amazing to me that for such a long time medical science assumed that only women have hormonal changes in response to becoming parents, when dads also have all these shifts that prepare them for nurturing and parental protection (prolactin also mediates protective behavior).

Family is so great. I'm glad you're enjoying yours. :)


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The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.


Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.

Yeah, that sounds uber bad. She's got one that's dark blue (Navy? Idk, I'm a dude.) with white polka dots and some lacy stuff on it. Looks pretty damn good. I'll get some info on the brand, etc. later and get back to yuh. She's a DDD and has mostly bad looking bras, but does have some pretty damn good ones. She usually doesn't have too much trouble finding the good ones, though.

It's not hard to find pretty bras in my size; Natori, Curvy Kate, and Freya all make very nice bras. It's just hard to find pretty push-up bras in my size because apparently most manufacturers assume that if our cups runneth over, we're never going to want to accentuate them.

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I wanted to own a bar for such a long time. A bar where there are no TVs, old country music overhead, and maybe very small, a bar and a row of tables behind it. Very, very soft, cushy stools. The Soft Stool.

Then I realized I hate being around drunk people when I'm not and sometimes when I am.

Bars without TV are the best kind of bars, and sorely needed around here. The Beech, the Free House, and the Red Fox are all TV-less, but that's what, three bars out of the 150 or so that are local to us?

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The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.


Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.


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BREAKING NEWS:

It is not so easy to find a push-up bra in larger cup sizes.

 :sad:

Nope.  I had the best luck with Victoria's Secret, their Angel Dreams Push-Up is AMAZING and equally EXPENSIVE.

I was eyeballing their stuff, I used to wear it all the time but haven't in a few years. I will probably end up giving them a try.

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I think there's a tendency to smother oneself, or at least what's know in the scene I run in as "titloaf".

I just want something that gives the appropriate degree of cleavage in a vintage swing-style dress. I usually prefer Natori but they're basically like, DD? We aren't helping you with that.

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BREAKING NEWS:

It is not so easy to find a push-up bra in larger cup sizes.

 :sad:

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