You see, he's convinced these people are out to get him. I mean, yes, they are, he's a rich a powerful guy, and people do hate him for that, as well as for some of the deals he has screwed them on (fairly or unfairly, he can be....unreasonable at times). The thing is though, these people who are out to get him, they're not very dangerous. In fact, they're mostly very weak and talk him down to avoid confronting their own problems. If my friend had to get into a conflict with them, he'd win easily, and they know that. He doesn't though. I go along with it, mostly, though sometimes I try and point this out to him. Whenever I do though, he stops listening to me, or starts on strange speeches about how everything has changed and we can't live in the past anymore, play by the old rules.
The state of “having people after you” is always associated with self-importance; its another way of expressing “I affect their lives so much”. Hes attributing importance to his enemies, so that by parallel, his importance is inflated too. Think of all the conspiracy nutjobs with paranoia “omg, the government is tapping my phone calls and monitoring all my activity” (which there is a truth behind it, but they aren’t watching you specifically, they are watching EVERYONE, which unfortunately for them, makes them less “special”.)
He's also got some real image problems. He thinks he's still healthy and strong as he ever was and believe me, back in the day, this guy could keep up with the best of them. But now, his muscle has gone to flab, and he eats unhealthily. He's nowhere near as rich as he thinks either, in fact, lately, he lost a whole bunch of money on some very risky deals, money that wasn't even his in the first place. The debtors are being good about it, but they don't have to be, not if they didn't want to, or they didn't respect the guy. But anyway, health. He's convinced his doctor is a genius, too. And to be fair, he's not a quack, but he isn't exactly Gregory House either. He also charges him way too much, like twice what any other healthcare plan would, but he just waves his hand and says "I'm willing to pay for quality".
He’s denying reality in order to be able to keep his self-esteem “if I don’t see the fatness in me, it does not exist”. Very much well too in respect to his money “if I pretend I didn’t lose money, I didn’t lose it after all”. With respect to his doctor “I pay for quality” translates to “hey man, if you don’t care about your health, keep going to your peasant doctors that will fuck you up, I can afford to spend money on my health, and so be it.”; he assumes the inflated price of the doctor is a measurement of his quality of practice, and that if he pays more, that makes him better as a person too. Paying more as status.
He also has an overinflated sense of machismo. Like I said, we were a pair of lads, back in the day. But now....he's convinced he's still the toughest guy on the block, despite some very small players managing to get a rise out of him whenever he wants. These guys are nimble, too. They goad and mock him, and then he lashes out - never managing to hurt them, but likely slugging some poor passerby who wasn't even involved - and then they mock him for his failure. He broods over these guys, obssesses about getting pay back, one day.
Machismo is a form of over-compensation. If one didn’t fear the others “wreaking havoc in his territory” he wouldn’t respond so harshly.
He used to have some neat toys though. He'd sometimes have things the rest of us didn't even know existed yet. You know, state of the art hi-tech gadgets, top quality computers and the rest. He's still convinced he does, of course, and doesn't seem to notice that everyone else around him is upgrading, while he's stuck in the past. He's still better, but probably not for much longer, unless he takes his thumb out of his arse and starts doing the same.
Im not sure how to interpret this part; maybe this is just a personal jab. Anyhow, the part of him thinking he owns state of the art technology without updating it for years, is also denial of reality.
He also acts really irrationally, at times. I mean, above and beyond all this. I think there is something really wrong, inside his head. He'll insist everything is fine, even when he should be in massive pain. I mean, I've stuck a needle in him once, and he didn't even flinch. Didn't feel a thing. His now obese body doesn't seem to bother him, he doesn't get back pains and apparently doesn't notice when he is out of breath from the exertion of walking up the stairs. He really thinks everything is fantastic and, apart from his very rich diet, which has contributed to his health problems, he isn't. He'll make choices which do absolutely nothing good for him, which hurt himself even more, and he'll be totally convinced that not only is this the best course, but that everyone who says otherwise is acting out of jealousy, or some hidden motive. Even his closest friends. Even me.
Feeling pain and denying it is a big part of machismo. That’s why a lot of males in machismo prevalent societies (like Mexico), die of prostate cancer; because they refuse to acknowledge their pain and disease, because disease is for women and pussies.
You see now, why I think my friend has gone insane. The problem is...I let him. I saw the warning signs, but I didn't want to say anything. At times, I even bought into his childish delusions. We were the kings of the world, everything we touched turned to gold, and we had right and good on our side. Only, we're not, it doesn't and they're not. I think we need help, both of us. But we've used up all our goodwill a long time ago.
If you think you have similar problems as his, a start would be not attributing his problems to your “I let him do it”, because not everything he does depends on you.