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The Richard Nixon school of ballet and the arts / Re: Swingers
« on: May 26, 2015, 09:24:47 pm »
Just a small compilation for the lulz

1: I hate to say it, though it is abundantly clear, monogamy remains the path of least resistance to developing meaningful relationships.

2: Yea, I'm cool with a split too, however, the bolded is false beyond what you can conceive, Mnkay? :roll:

3: Really, honey, I think monogamy admits to more than that to which you or I may realize.

4: Right on.  The condescension is only proportional to the extent that you may have denigrated my understanding of the subject.

5: I tend to celebrate difference, and yes, that makes me quite alone.  For one, because monogamy admits the victory of love over any imaginary division we so delicately contrive.

6. Fine, I think we're ready for that ridiculously over-consumed punch-line:  given how I'm not yet equipped to do better, the best I can be is a serial monogamist.  That is not to say polyamory beats swinging, I just want to figure how holy a threesome needs to be in order to count for either, or, how fast can I switch between partners before I no longer qualify for monogamy.  But there I go, lowering the bar again, right?  Just say the word and I'm out.

Conclusion: I think its trying to communicate, what should we do?


But how can i pay for the overhead of this baby if i dont make it dance? Worst investment ever.

The Richard Nixon school of ballet and the arts / Re: Swingers
« on: May 25, 2015, 08:37:06 pm »
Ive heard of connections between sex addiction and swinging, which could explain the different behaviour of poly to swinging.

If this doesnt make sense i can elaborate.

Hm that actually kind of does make a certain amount of sense.

It's very different from polyamory, and the funny thing is that as a woman who has been openly poly for the last ten years I get approached by swingers a LOT, and somehow they don't seem to understand the difference -- like, a strange inability to grasp that actually I DON'T want to have sex with everybody all the time, and that I DO want an emotional, romantic connection with my partners. I can't tell you how many times swingers have tried to recruit me for group sex, which for me is an absolute turn-off, and when I say I'm not into that they react as if I'm merely suppressing my real desires to kowtow to societal expectations, and like I just need to be worked on a little more to get me to give in to my secret inner desires. Remind you of anything?

And yeah, as it happens, every member of the swinger community I've ever met has been white, and for the most part, straight except for the standard complement of married bi girls who want to have FMF threesomes.

Like, lets go back to definitions:

Polyamory and swinging generally are under the same umbrella term of "non-monogamous", but this happens for totally different reasons.

Polyamory: Multiple loves... its a quite ambiguous definition but the core is "love for several people" which might or might not imply sex with several people (as far as ive seen it does imply a sexual interaction with several people, but the sex isnt the core, but rather the BOND that is felt for several people)

Swinging: Having a single romantic partner which is interchanged in specific settings or events with another couple for the explicit purpose of sex, with the specific rapport promoting no special bond formed that could endanger each respective romantic couple. The emphasis is preserving the romantic stability of the original couples while allowing casual sex, and from what ive seen, the more serious and methodical swingers only interact with other couples, not singles.

Now, im no expert or experienced but, i see some parallels between the swinging community and the bdsm community in which theres toxic elements that are drawn to it for the wrong reasons (oh johnny such a purist), in which they fail to respect rapport (which is there for a reason) or issues of consent (because its getting in the way of this raging boner, or something).

So what do we get? Doms that dont respect the original contract of practices or safe words, and we get people that get off of the chaos that swinging improperly provides (love avoidance, etc).

There's paralels between sex addiction and drug addiction, which in the scope of relationships in which each is respectively used as a method of avoiding intimacy and tuning out.

TLDR: The swinger method and philosophy is an interesting thing on paper, but there's a bunch of assholes doing-it-wrongtm to create artificial chaos in their sick relationships or find it a good place to get rapey.

The Richard Nixon school of ballet and the arts / Re: Swingers
« on: May 25, 2015, 06:19:50 pm »
Ive heard of connections between sex addiction and swinging, which could explain the different behaviour of poly to swinging.

If this doesnt make sense i can elaborate.

Doing boring stuff with interesting people can be fun. IOW you need to open yourself to interact and bond with others.

Or Kill Me / Re: Depression Makes the World Narrow
« on: May 07, 2015, 09:56:50 pm »
i havent been so swell lately and i can identify with this, one just starts to feel indifferent and apathetic about everything, like everything is useless, pointless and meaningless because everything is going down the drain either way. One misses friends, but theres no energy to do a happy dance and one doesnt want to infect them with the abyss. Paragraphs after a couple of sentences just become alphabet soup.

Roam the streets at 3am on a unicycle with a megaphone screaming "GOBBLE GOBBLE GOBBLE GOBBLE GOBBLE"

54  NSFW?

motherfucker, now it shows up on my facebook ads!!!!!!!!  :argh!:

Orgone? Isn't that the substance with a negative mass that is released when burning stuff?

No wait, that was Phlogiston. I got them confused.

I'm only posting in this thread because I should be working.

Orgone is jizz-magical fuel that creates heat, one crazed psychologist made a machine and ran tests with Einstein, and he got raided by the FDA and died in prison.




Techmology and Scientism / Re: Only public scientific sources
« on: March 30, 2015, 07:44:11 pm »
You seem to have a fetish fir the word "forge" and derivatives.

And I hope this doesn't offend you but your thoughts seem disparate, have you been taking your pills?


Rhetorical, its all Obama's fault, amirite?  :whack:


complain only when something like this happens, im surprised none mention it

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