Spagbook

[notathing]

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

NP,
I've known at least half a dozen old gay couples that had been happily married for many years living a good life.
So, it can't be too rare...  just keep chugging along!



Iptuous
--(says the schmuck who was actually lucky enough to find and marry his highschool sweetheart, so has no idea about dating....)

As far as I can tell it's not at all rare... it's the majority of gay men and women (younger and older) that I know. They just fall "under the radar" by being totally normal people with nice middle-class domestic lives and having dinner parties and being regular folks instead of falling into some lame "lifestyle" pigeonhole.

[E.O.T.]

I DON'T THINK

         there's gonna be an absolute here, but yeah, mostly "bears" who're into the "bear" "culture", are about the whole 'loveyoucuzyeroverweight/outtashapeandHAIRY' aspect. I think "twinks" are more for the "daddy" psychological types, the complex fetish thing. "bears" as an identity have evolved/ devolved into regular guy let's fuck cuz we're regular guys. It wasn't always that way but now we've got shit like "otters" and other categories I don't want to comment on because they're the equivalent to a "or kill me" rant as subject.

ALSO

         at my favourite "gay" watering hole the guys obsess over body hair A LOT & since it's "home to the Oregon Bears" and narry a twink is to be seen, I'd have to conclude that generally bears don't care for twinks.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Why do all the bears I've seen at strip shows have tiny penises?

[E.O.T.]

Why do all the bears I've seen at strip shows have tiny penises?

IT MAY BE

          a proportional thing, but I know what you mean, it's like finding 75cents worth of quarters somehow stuck to the butt of a fat hog.

BEAR PORN

          the only NOT hot gay porn. Although I haven't seen any good "twink" porn either.

[BabylonHoruv]

Must be a different context for twink then because I meant it as mild teasing.  The usage I have heard of the word is attractive perhaps somewhat effeminate gay male.  Sort of the gay version of a metrosexual.  Also usually thin (not like unhealthy skinny, just thin as opposed to husky) and not at all hairy.

If I am mistakenly calling NP gay when he is not I apologize, misremembering, but the pics I have seen he looks attractive, not overly masculine, and hairless.

Thats it! More Gym for me I am usually clean shaven on the face though. But I do have body hair - dont you worry about that

Aw, thanks for the compliment

(And yes don't worry I'm gay - I don't think I would of been insulted if I wasn't)

The so called self-identifying Twinks I've seen are mostly effeminate, plastic looking shits who don't care what they do - and go too far with letting their identity become solely based on their sexual orientation ..My original comment was very biased! Haha.

Just personally, I don't like to associate with the scene at all. I get asked if I go to the clubs alot and which spots I hit - but I'm not the casual sort.

If I go out, its to have good laughs with friends. Not for a random fuck.

Makes sense to me.  Identifying yourself primarially by who you fuck is about as silly as identifying yourself by the drugs you do.  I hadn't realized twink was tied up with that to that level.  My reference actually came from Kevin Smith, who is apparently a "Bear" as far as looks go (large and hairy) and he was bemoaning the fact that he is straight because if he were gay he'd be getting all the hot little twinks.

Do bears go for twinks? I always seem to see them paired off with their own kind. Let's ask the expert: hey EOT,  do twinks and bears crossbreed?

I believe it was more that twinks went for bears (in Kevin Smith's version anyways) The twinks (the ones that go for bears anyways) also being called cubs.

[Rococo Modem Basilisk]

I got the impression that BMI was typically inversely proportional to penis size. That said, I got that idea from television, and television cannot be trusted.

[BabylonHoruv]

I got the impression that BMI was typically inversely proportional to penis size. That said, I got that idea from television, and television cannot be trusted.

That would be funny if true as you could get a bigger penis by starving yourself.

[E.O.T.]

Must be a different context for twink then because I meant it as mild teasing.  The usage I have heard of the word is attractive perhaps somewhat effeminate gay male.  Sort of the gay version of a metrosexual.  Also usually thin (not like unhealthy skinny, just thin as opposed to husky) and not at all hairy.

If I am mistakenly calling NP gay when he is not I apologize, misremembering, but the pics I have seen he looks attractive, not overly masculine, and hairless.

Thats it! More Gym for me I am usually clean shaven on the face though. But I do have body hair - dont you worry about that

Aw, thanks for the compliment

(And yes don't worry I'm gay - I don't think I would of been insulted if I wasn't)

The so called self-identifying Twinks I've seen are mostly effeminate, plastic looking shits who don't care what they do - and go too far with letting their identity become solely based on their sexual orientation ..My original comment was very biased! Haha.

Just personally, I don't like to associate with the scene at all. I get asked if I go to the clubs alot and which spots I hit - but I'm not the casual sort.

If I go out, its to have good laughs with friends. Not for a random fuck.

Makes sense to me.  Identifying yourself primarially by who you fuck is about as silly as identifying yourself by the drugs you do.  I hadn't realized twink was tied up with that to that level.  My reference actually came from Kevin Smith, who is apparently a "Bear" as far as looks go (large and hairy) and he was bemoaning the fact that he is straight because if he were gay he'd be getting all the hot little twinks.

Do bears go for twinks? I always seem to see them paired off with their own kind. Let's ask the expert: hey EOT,  do twinks and bears crossbreed?

I believe it was more that twinks went for bears (in Kevin Smith's version anyways) The twinks (the ones that go for bears anyways) also being called cubs.

NO, HONEY

          "cubs" are just 'little' "bears" and are also mostly "bottoms"

ONLY IN

          Kevin Smith's fantasies

[E.O.T.]

I got the impression that BMI was typically inversely proportional to penis size. That said, I got that idea from television, and television cannot be trusted.

THAT WAS

          what Aurora was banking on when she asked Sasquatch if everything grew in proportion when he changed into the beast

TELEVISION

          -I didn't know that was still out there

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Must be a different context for twink then because I meant it as mild teasing.  The usage I have heard of the word is attractive perhaps somewhat effeminate gay male.  Sort of the gay version of a metrosexual.  Also usually thin (not like unhealthy skinny, just thin as opposed to husky) and not at all hairy.

If I am mistakenly calling NP gay when he is not I apologize, misremembering, but the pics I have seen he looks attractive, not overly masculine, and hairless.

Thats it! More Gym for me I am usually clean shaven on the face though. But I do have body hair - dont you worry about that

Aw, thanks for the compliment

(And yes don't worry I'm gay - I don't think I would of been insulted if I wasn't)

The so called self-identifying Twinks I've seen are mostly effeminate, plastic looking shits who don't care what they do - and go too far with letting their identity become solely based on their sexual orientation ..My original comment was very biased! Haha.

Just personally, I don't like to associate with the scene at all. I get asked if I go to the clubs alot and which spots I hit - but I'm not the casual sort.

If I go out, its to have good laughs with friends. Not for a random fuck.

Makes sense to me.  Identifying yourself primarially by who you fuck is about as silly as identifying yourself by the drugs you do.  I hadn't realized twink was tied up with that to that level.  My reference actually came from Kevin Smith, who is apparently a "Bear" as far as looks go (large and hairy) and he was bemoaning the fact that he is straight because if he were gay he'd be getting all the hot little twinks.

Do bears go for twinks? I always seem to see them paired off with their own kind. Let's ask the expert: hey EOT,  do twinks and bears crossbreed?

I believe it was more that twinks went for bears (in Kevin Smith's version anyways) The twinks (the ones that go for bears anyways) also being called cubs.

I think that bear/twink crossover only happens in porn. The only twinks I see are of questionable sexuality, and partnered up at hipster bars, or the few non-hipster neighborhood bars where they hope the alterna scene is minimal enough that people might actually notice them and comment on how outlandish they are in their girlpants.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Of course, I haven't really coasted the gay bar scene since I was in my early 20's, which was before every bar on the West Coast became a "guess if I'm gay" bar.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

However, from IRL, it has been my impression that opposites RARELY attract.

[E.O.T.]

However, from IRL, it has been my impression that opposites RARELY attract.

CLASSICALLY, HOWEVER

          they do, and they're called enemies

FURTHERMORE

          on the 'Kevin Smith' thing, -that nerdtastic world view of having no fucking actual experience of real life yet being author to way too many titles is what makes so much of comics fail so hard. Yes Kevin, SOMEONE wants your wasted middle-aged body and they resemble an eleven year old. IN YOUR DREAMS.

[BabylonHoruv]

However, from IRL, it has been my impression that opposites RARELY attract.

CLASSICALLY, HOWEVER

          they do, and they're called enemies

FURTHERMORE

          on the 'Kevin Smith' thing, -that nerdtastic world view of having no fucking actual experience of real life yet being author to way too many titles is what makes so much of comics fail so hard. Yes Kevin, SOMEONE wants your wasted middle-aged body and they resemble an eleven year old. IN YOUR DREAMS.

Well hell, if you are gonna have fantasies they might as well at least be good ones.