I'm Running Out of Thyme!!!!

[AFK]

Ever since kiddo #2 joined the WHN compound, time has become a very precious and scarce commodity.  We realized, when we signed up for this commitment, that this would be one of the results.  And we also know it will seem like no time before the boy is older, needing less help, and we'll be longing for the crazy mornings and early evenings we are currently experiencing.  But man, it's just non-stop around here.

You wake up, you shower, you feed yourself, the boy wakes up, he needs to be fed, the girl wakes up, she needs her Kellogs Corn Pops, now it's time to get the wife up, oh, gotta make my lunch, gotta make the girl's lunch, gotta go get dressed, gotta go get the girl's clothes, the boy needs a new diaper, wants to eat a little more, needs clothes, time to pack bags......oh yeah it's garbage day....oh fuck, the cats have to eat too.........
....and somehow we manage to cram all of this in the space of an hour and a half. 

It's the crazy part of being a parent, married to the other parent, both having 8:30-4:30 jobs, which we have to have so we can afford the food, the clothing, the shelter, the cats, the toys and games, the lawnmower, the washer and dryer, but yet, it leaves so little time to have real family time, let alone any hobbies I used to be into.  Let alone having regular dates with my lovely wife, who is an awesome mother by the way.  My days feel like they are constantly filled with work, professional and domestic.  There's not a lot of time to just....be.

I'm 35 this year, and there are days, I really look forward to 55.  Not because I want to get rid of my kids.  I love my kids.  They are great, smart, and funny kids.  They are truly making my life much more enriching than it would be without them. 

But, I'm also looking forward to a late summer day, 20 years from now, when my wife and I get home from work.  We put some burgers and veggies on the grill.  Pour some pink lemonade....and just.....be.....

[Dysfunctional Cunt]

Ever since kiddo #2 joined the WHN compound, time has become a very precious and scarce commodity.  We realized, when we signed up for this commitment, that this would be one of the results.  And we also know it will seem like no time before the boy is older, needing less help, and we'll be longing for the crazy mornings and early evenings we are currently experiencing.  But man, it's just non-stop around here.

You wake up, you shower, you feed yourself, the boy wakes up, he needs to be fed, the girl wakes up, she needs her Kellogs Corn Pops, now it's time to get the wife up, oh, gotta make my lunch, gotta make the girl's lunch, gotta go get dressed, gotta go get the girl's clothes, the boy needs a new diaper, wants to eat a little more, needs clothes, time to pack bags......oh yeah it's garbage day....oh fuck, the cats have to eat too.........
....and somehow we manage to cram all of this in the space of an hour and a half. 

It's the crazy part of being a parent, married to the other parent, both having 8:30-4:30 jobs, which we have to have so we can afford the food, the clothing, the shelter, the cats, the toys and games, the lawnmower, the washer and dryer, but yet, it leaves so little time to have real family time, let alone any hobbies I used to be into.  Let alone having regular dates with my lovely wife, who is an awesome mother by the way.  My days feel like they are constantly filled with work, professional and domestic.  There's not a lot of time to just....be.

I'm 35 this year, and there are days, I really look forward to 55.  Not because I want to get rid of my kids.  I love my kids.  They are great, smart, and funny kids.  They are truly making my life much more enriching than it would be without them. 

But, I'm also looking forward to a late summer day, 20 years from now, when my wife and I get home from work.  We put some burgers and veggies on the grill.  Pour some pink lemonade....and just.....be.....

I understand exactly how you feel +1 child -1 adult 

Keep that light you are looking forward too at the end of the tunnel in your mind and these next few crazy years will go by fast.  Then enjoy the next segment of toddlerhood and elementary age.  Once they hit teenagehood, eh well, personally I just drink once they go to bed!

[Iason Ouabache]

Sounds like you are working overthyme but keep at it and you'll be an old sage in no time.

[tyrannosaurus vex]

TELL ME ABOUT IT.

But I guess this is what parenting is about. It's an adventure, just not a fun one like getting shot at by guerrillas in the dead of night in an inhospitable jungle.

The constant grinding and repetition gets to me some days, and other days I love it. I can't predict how I'll feel ahead of time, and that is some consolation for the fact that I'm blowing through years of my life like this, stuck on autopilot, barely awake enough to notice red traffic lights, let alone having time to stop and ponder big questions or smell the flowers.

It's crazy. That's all I can say.