Ok, so I feel like giving myself a head-ache

[Cuddlefish]

Define "Love."

One definition (none of this "there are different types of love" stuff)

GO!

[Cain]

A kind of chemical reaction in the brain that people spend far too much time obsessing about.

[Cramulus]

BUTTS LOL!!!

[Captain Utopia]

Patterns of input (people or things) which mirror aspects of your animus/anima.

[AFK]

When you go though childbirth and child-raising and are still hot for each other and don't want to kill each other.  

[Cuddlefish]

Patterns of input (people or things) which mirror aspects of your animus/anima.

Jung, eh? A little unsuspected...

[Adios]

Love is not clinical.

It's caring about another person that you do about yourself. It is chaotic compatibility and comfort. It is wanting to be with someone, for the rest of your life and to sit on a porch in your gray hair days. It is hurting when they hurt and feeling good when they do. It is seeing a beautiful and having someone by your side to share it with.

Love is about allowing yourself to attach yourself to another person.

[Cuddlefish]

Love is not clinical.

It's caring about another person that you do about yourself. It is chaotic compatibility and comfort. It is wanting to be with someone, for the rest of your life and to sit on a porch in your gray hair days. It is hurting when they hurt and feeling good when they do. It is seeing a beautiful and having someone by your side to share it with.

Love is about allowing yourself to attach yourself to another person.

But just one person? That, to me, does not seem to be in the nature of "love."

[Adios]

Love is not clinical.

It's caring about another person that you do about yourself. It is chaotic compatibility and comfort. It is wanting to be with someone, for the rest of your life and to sit on a porch in your gray hair days. It is hurting when they hurt and feeling good when they do. It is seeing a beautiful and having someone by your side to share it with.

Love is about allowing yourself to attach yourself to another person.

But just one person? That, to me, does not seem to be in the nature of "love."

For me personally when I give myself it is all of me. I could only love one person so deeply. To try to fit another in that space would only end up detracting from the relationship.

[Captain Utopia]

But what if both you and the other person also felt the same way about a third person?  What about a child?

[Cuddlefish]

Love is not clinical.

It's caring about another person that you do about yourself. It is chaotic compatibility and comfort. It is wanting to be with someone, for the rest of your life and to sit on a porch in your gray hair days. It is hurting when they hurt and feeling good when they do. It is seeing a beautiful and having someone by your side to share it with.

Love is about allowing yourself to attach yourself to another person.

But just one person? That, to me, does not seem to be in the nature of "love."

For me personally when I give myself it is all of me. I could only love one person so deeply. To try to fit another in that space would only end up detracting from the relationship.

Which I can respect. However, things get confusing when the same person that defines love in that way also says you should love your family, friends, etc.. I jiust think it's funny that people are expected to love "one another" or "their neighbor," but as soon as a relationship enters the equation, they renege their initial assertion and claim that there's only love enough for ONE person...

[Adios]

But what if both you and the other person also felt the same way about a third person?  What about a child?

Now you are going to a different place. I love my children and grandchildren with all my heart. But they are moved away now, as it should be. In spite of the OP stating no nonsense about different kinds of love, the truth remains that there are different kinds of love. Children, friends, family can always hold a place in your heart, just not the same place your spouse does.

[BadBeast]

Love is what's left when all  motives and preconceptions are swept aside, to remind us that there is more to life than just us.
Love is Eros, + Thanatos, in perfect harmony.  When the equation is balanced, the cliche, "All you need is Love" ceases to be just a platitude, or a Hippy cop out, and becomes a Mantra of such infectious magnitude, it can bring whole Wars, to a grinding halt, for a quick game of footy.

[Cuddlefish]

Please, correct me if I'm mistaken, but wouldn't the claim that there are different types of love, cheapen other types of love?

"I love only you, my wife." "I love you, my friends."

But I thought you said you loved only me? You may love me, but you love others more.

MaYbe I'M nOt gettinG it...

[BadBeast]

Please, correct me if I'm mistaken, but wouldn't the claim that there are different types of love, cheapen other types of love?

"I love only you, my wife." "I love you, my friends."

But I thought you said you loved only me? You may love me, but you love others more.

MaYbe I'M nOt gettinG it...

You're talking as if there was a limited supply of it. There isn't. It is endless, and all permeating. You can't hoard it up, and dole it out to your favourite people, you don't give love, you feel it, and see it in others. But you can't give it, because it doesn't lend itself to conditions like "Yours", or "Mine".