Hey look, I'm not the only one....

[Freeky]

Sorry, everyone. Just killed a bottle of wine, and am feeling a bit melancholy. And I think I spelled that wrong, too.

Long story short. I retract the passive/aggressive post. Kids are awesome. We can't have them.

LMNO
-bitter.

Don't be sorry.

Not being able to have kids with miscarriages on top of that is an unimaginably painful thing to have to deal with—your bitterness seems completely valid.

Cut yourself some slack, Alphapance.

Also totally this. 

[Phox]

Sorry, everyone. Just killed a bottle of wine, and am feeling a bit melancholy. And I think I spelled that wrong, too.

Long story short. I retract the passive/aggressive post. Kids are awesome. We can't have them.

LMNO
-bitter.

I'm right there with you, LMNO. We should form a "can't have kids and bitter about it" club. (We won't invite Nigel and Freeky, but shh. Don't tell them. It'll be cool).

Zero,
Full of terrible ideas.

[Luna]

This hit me really hard last night.  Not sure why, the fact that I wasted a decade plus of my life on the NYEX, putting me past the age where having kids runs a good chance of having the kids born fucked up is something I've been simmering on for over a year, now.  Don't know why it boiled over last night, but, goddamn it, it hurts.

[Suu]

Can't have kids.

Not bitter.

Get to spoil pretty niece, fill her with sugar and send her mom with mommy, instead. 



-Suu
That aunt.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I don't regret the monkey, but I wish I'd discovered bipedalism and FUN before him.

Never regret children. They make you a stronger person.

Well, shit. I was too young when I was old enough, and several miscarriages after we figured it out, I guess we're just hoping for robots.

LMNO
- guess the childless just aren't as worthy.

That's just God messing with the genepool.  LMNO has no offspring, but those Duggan dumbfucks get to have 20 or so.

[Dysfunctional Cunt]

I want to be a part of a couple.  I'm really tired of being alone.   

[East Coast Hustle]

I feel incredibly fortunate to have found someone who, rather than causing me to ask if I can visualize myself with them for the rest of my life, makes me feel as if I could not possibly visualize myself WITHOUT them for the rest of my life.

And, of course, I still end up spending 6-8 months of the year "alone", several thousand miles from that person.

Don't get me wrong, I fucking LOVE my job, but that aspect of it is its own special kind of hell. And it also means that someday (probably pretty soon) I'm going to have to choose between my career and having children.

[Luna]

I feel incredibly fortunate to have found someone who, rather than causing me to ask if I can visualize myself with them for the rest of my life, makes me feel as if I could not possibly visualize myself WITHOUT them for the rest of my life.

You're a lucky man, dude.  That's a rare thing.

The job/time away/children thing sucks, yeah, but...  It's nice to know that's out there.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I feel incredibly fortunate to have found someone who, rather than causing me to ask if I can visualize myself with them for the rest of my life, makes me feel as if I could not possibly visualize myself WITHOUT them for the rest of my life.

And, of course, I still end up spending 6-8 months of the year "alone", several thousand miles from that person.

Don't get me wrong, I fucking LOVE my job, but that aspect of it is its own special kind of hell. And it also means that someday (probably pretty soon) I'm going to have to choose between my career and having children.

I envy you that!

On one level, I thought I'd found that... the one person I've known who made me feel not-lonely. But too much other stuff was wrong, or just plain missing.

I am very independent on many levels, which can make me a difficult mate for people who need someone to be joined at the hip... but I'm also very domestic and not cut out for solitary life. It makes me crazy. When people say things like "she just needs a good man to settle her down" they're talking about people like me. In the absence of having that domestic anchor, I go out and get all crazy, but it's not because that's what I want, it's because I don't have someone at home to focus on and do shit with so I find ways to distract myself.