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Started by Dalek, January 15, 2012, 02:46:09 PM

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Juana

#15
January 15, 2012, 10:17:44 PM
Quote from: Dalek on January 15, 2012, 07:26:10 PM
Thanks Nigel, I'm going to stay for a while. I'm feeling calm that I've got a job, scholarships and a place to go, I think anything else will arrange itself if I move out. I know that shit is bad, but I'm still going to try and fix things with talking (atleast I'm very good at talking to people :D) and I've got moving out sorted out, if I need to.
You talking to her to try to fix it isn't going to do much good.  She sees you as an enemy and as someone of lesser value than herself, so she'll get angrier, worked up, and then she'll dismiss you (trying to sabotage her, as a liar, or whatever). Just get out as soon as you can, ok?
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#16
January 15, 2012, 10:23:11 PM
Quote from: Secret Agent GARBO on January 15, 2012, 10:17:44 PM
Quote from: Dalek on January 15, 2012, 07:26:10 PM
Thanks Nigel, I'm going to stay for a while. I'm feeling calm that I've got a job, scholarships and a place to go, I think anything else will arrange itself if I move out. I know that shit is bad, but I'm still going to try and fix things with talking (atleast I'm very good at talking to people :D) and I've got moving out sorted out, if I need to.
You talking to her to try to fix it isn't going to do much good.  She sees you as an enemy and as someone of lesser value than herself, so she'll get angrier, worked up, and then she'll dismiss you (trying to sabotage her, as a liar, or whatever). Just get out as soon as you can, ok?

Seconded.
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#17
January 15, 2012, 11:54:45 PM
Get out, Dalekk.

You can still visit your Mom on your own terms when you have a separate living arrangement.
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Nast

#18
January 16, 2012, 12:30:55 AM
Oh gosh, Dalek, I'm really sorry for your home situation. I understand how painful it can be when your own parent, who is supposed to love and support you, attacks you in that way. Maybe you can make the situation more comfortable through talking by diffusing the tension, but don't think you can fix whatever resentment your mom bears (nor is it your job to do so). The abusive dynamic will always be there until she helps herself.

I don't know how it is in Bulgaria, but I know that at least in the US your school counselor is a good person to discuss what's going on in your home. It would be especially important to tell them that you're mom is threatening to pull you out of school; those sorts of things are their perogative to deal with.


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January 16, 2012, 12:44:03 AM
How does she "sign you off of school"?
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