A few thoughts on the big feminism discussion blowup.

[Juana]

Pretty good analysis, I think, and a good lesson for us all. I'll try to keep it in mind.

[East Coast Hustle]

I like this, but I have to disagree with the bit about understanding when other people find humor offensive. IMO, if someone else finds humor offensive, that is completely 100% their problem. There may be times when trying to inject humor into a conversation is not particularly appropriate, but the humor itself is not and should not be the problem.

I'm not saying humor in general.  I'm saying that when someone makes a point they've obviously put a lot of thought into, it's humiliating as hell to have it appear to be dismissed with a one-liner.  It's not the JOKE that's offensive, it's the casual or seemingly casual dismissal of their effort.

Gotcha. We were saying the same thing, I just didn't notice you were saying it. Which seems to dovetail nicely with the OP.