Unlimited family butthurt thread

[Juana]

It's good to have backup!

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Definitely. I also realize now that part of the butthurt was "jesus is kev going nuts?"

im a very quiet guy in person. Internet and/or booze changes that but irl im actually a shy and reserved kind of guy. No one in my extended family has seen me lash out before.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

As a late comer to this debacle, I'd like to say that the text message exchange read like your godmother/aunt is baffled and bewildered at your failure to capitulate to her adult directives. She's having trouble accepting that you're all grown-up. Like her! Only more articulate! And, y'know, with reasons for the shit you say.

You're not respecting your elders, Twid. Tsk-tsk. Try the father line and report back. :P

I've been out of contact with my entire family, except for monthly-ish e-mail exchanges with my mom for 10 years and it's reached a point where she's resigned to it and I'm unloading baggage without dumping it on her.

I think that's a really big part of it. As far as my generation goes, I'm the second born. My cousin, who I've been mentioning here (not the heroin addict but his sister) is the first born. And she told me yesterday "I had to explain to my mother (the same aunt who was called a bitch) that we aren't a clump of babies, but real people who have positions on things and who get offended by shit"

It reminds them of their own mortality and how things have changed and they aren't changing with 'em. Some day, that will be you. And that's the part that makes us bitchy. Because we know some day we're going to be arguing with our descendants and wondering what the fuck those bastards have been smoking.

She actually made a pretty interesting argument-

Our generation will never be able to totally agree on anything. We're incapable of groupthink like theirs. We're too used to being plugged in. We're too selfish to agree with everyone else. And that's a good thing.

It is. When I analyze that, I think:

"never be able to totally agree on anything" = forced to live with a multiplicity of competing opinions within a single peer group.

"incapable of groupthink like theirs" = everyone must come to their own independent decisions and must rely on critical thinking skills rather than simply accepting the group norm

"too used to being plugged in" = more connected to a wider group of friends and family than recent past generations, have a stronger sense of our place in community and our responsibility within said community

"too selfish to agree with everyone else" = have a stronger sense of our own individually informed and developed sense of right and wrong, don't simply unquestionably agree with what has been dictated to us as right or wrong

Yeah, I would say that she's totally right, on all counts.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Definitely. I also realize now that part of the butthurt was "jesus is kev going nuts?"

im a very quiet guy in person. Internet and/or booze changes that but irl im actually a shy and reserved kind of guy. No one in my extended family has seen me lash out before.

It's not bad to have that reputation, because then often people take you seriously when  you do speak up.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

My cousin is a smart cookie. And her support in all of this was very much appreciated.

I told her what was up with my crazy facebook check ins and what do you expect from someone who worships chaos. She said the worships chaos bit made her proud.

Hmmm. Maybe i should give her a pope card along with a xmas card.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

My cousin is a smart cookie. And her support in all of this was very much appreciated.

I told her what was up with my crazy facebook check ins and what do you expect from someone who worships chaos. She said the worships chaos bit made her proud.

Hmmm. Maybe i should give her a pope card along with a xmas card.

Awww that's cute!

[Nephew Twiddleton]

[purplefraggle]

Yoodles, Eldest cousin of twiddledeedee here. Kev, seriously, could you come up with something normal for a name? I know I am chiming in a half-holiday too late but I've been busy with my own BS and my brother's BS and getting a kitten that tried to commit suicide by jumping off a desk. I'm glad you worked things out with Di to the point where you are comfy. Switch hitting uncle...if it is the uncle who took us bowling and ran off to Cali, did you ever hear the story of his flamingly gay friends coming to Buddy's funeral? One guy was wearing a bright red silk cape and carried a walking stick. My mother thought the cardinal was at the funeral.
And, you can be his reincarnation all you want but I am the kid that he always wanted (red head, named Mary, and saner than my namesake). Well, that last part is my own addition but I grew up hearing that he always wanted a daughter just like his wife and I was born a year after he passed so it must have been a sign and blah blah blah...why do you think I'm afraid of that family? I don't want to turn into my namesake. But, you can turn into Buddy. From what I hear, he was the bee's knees.
I might lose my dole benefits at the end of the month but we'll have to get together and behave like some sort of family soon. I promise not to make you drink so much that you puke all over a bar bathroom again.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Mary! Yay!

So uh...

Two switch hitting uncles i guess then but i had my suspicions about him myself.

As for name- nephew twiddleton is a combination of a fake trolling character i came up with plus mockery of religious titles. And that was in fact a very pukey day.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Also that must have been one hell of a sight! Ill have to ask your mom about that.

[purplefraggle]

TWO??? Heaven's to Betsy! Oldest Uncle or the one I won't speak of? It can't be the Captain, really?

[Nephew Twiddleton]

The one we wont speak of. If the captain was it would be a huge surprise and more than a little amusing

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Also you dont know that.

but apparently he was with a dude when he died.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Welcome, Twidcousin!

[Juana]

^^^ That!