On the knee-jerk.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Mmmm, spicy food! I'm making vindaloo.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

You know, I love the conversations we have here.

In one thread, there is a sometimes heated and sometimes poignant, but always educational, discussion of mental illness, abuse, and abandonment.

In another, keen social and political analyses.

In another, a hot and controversial battle between the madmen who would be Mexico.

[Jez]

For what it's worth, my crazy came on after marriage.  Basically, I'd been in one messed up situation or another since I was ten or so, and didn't really have time to process all of that crap until after I was married and things stabilized.

I would understand if my husband left, because I'm not the person he signed up for.  He's been good enough to stick around and help me deal, though.

My point is that it is entirely possible for the crazy to happen after marriage without any attempt at deception.

[Salty]

For what it's worth, my crazy came on after marriage.  Basically, I'd been in one messed up situation or another since I was ten or so, and didn't really have time to process all of that crap until after I was married and things stabilized.

I would understand if my husband left, because I'm not the person he signed up for.  He's been good enough to stick around and help me deal, though.

My point is that it is entirely possible for the crazy to happen after marriage without any attempt at deception.

That can be rough. That brain gets wired for shitstorms after a decade or two of them. Then when they stop, the brain keeps going. At least that's what it feels like. It takes time to undo strikethrough and replace, and some of it never leaves. That's life as a sack of meat.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Deception doesn't have to be intentional. Most of the time, it's just a survival skill that stops being adaptive once you're in a safe place.