A word about self-improvement.

[Salty]

I am way into self improvement. That's, like, the very best part about life, being a better human than you were the day before. It is one the primary motivators in my life, the need to do and be and act better.

Since turning 18 or so I have fundamentally altered the way I eat, sleep, talk to people, use my body, give my resources to people, among other things. I constantly try to improve on those improvements. I have many outrageous goals and hopes and dreams and am generally, despite my grouchy personality, am very enthusiastic about life.

That said, there comes a point, while developing your self, that you hit a wall. Sometimes you hit a cliff. Sometimes the cliff hits you.

Often you can experience a physical affliction that limits your physical ability, sometimes you can experience physical afflictions that limit your mental ability.

Sometimes you are a certain way and that will never change...

For example, I will never, ever stop:
- forgetting where I put my wallet/keys/smokes/paperwork/file. This has been this way since I was a teenager. My mother is like this. Every relationship I have ever had I have warned people about it and told them they can get upset about it but they'll be doing that a lot.
- forgetting what I was talking about mid-sentence.
Same as above.
- being chatty.
I have stopped this, and can again, but I don't want to because in am naturally chatty. In fact, I very naturally never SHUT UP. I can talk about anything anywhere anytime with anybody for as long as my jaw functions. I have gone near to the end of this ability.
- return my library books on time.
Its like I do it on purpose. I cannot stop this from happening. Even if I go years doing well I will fuck it up at some point.

These are just Things That Are, and I suspect every person who is honest with themselves will admit they have something similar. Even people who excel at bettering them selves.

[Salty]

Immediately after writing and posting this my mother handed me a report card from my time in a German school, I'm the 3rd grade.

It says, in the notes

Alty shows interest, enthusiasm, and cooperation. He could improve his organizational skills, however.



Oh yeah, I'll get right on that.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

How does "chatty" need improvement?

[Salty]

Some people don't like it.

Some people are assholes.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Some people don't like it.

Some people are assholes.

I don't cater to assholes.  THEY can change.

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

I've seen my chattiness sometimes overcome my ability to listen. That does create problems I have to consciously work to avoid.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I may be chatty in bursts, but mostly I'm quiet. I'm a pretty good listener, I think.

Too much chatty drives me crazy, because I feel like the other person is constantly demanding my attention. You don't do that J-dogg, no worries there.

Basically, I don't think of chattiness as a personality flaw that needs improvement, I think of it as a personality style that is or is not compatible with other people's personalities.

Me, I have a problem with clutter. It's hard for me to realize that I should just throw things away, so I end up with too much stuff hanging around.

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

I may be chatty in bursts, but mostly I'm quiet. I'm a pretty good listener, I think.

Too much chatty drives me crazy, because I feel like the other person is constantly demanding my attention. You don't do that J-dogg, no worries there.

Basically, I don't think of chattiness as a personality flaw that needs improvement, I think of it as a personality style that is or is not compatible with other people's personalities.

Me, I have a problem with clutter. It's hard for me to realize that I should just throw things away, so I end up with too much stuff hanging around.

I do it when I'm nervous. First dates...AAAUGH! Still haven't heard comedy girl's story about meeting Les Claypool! CHATTINESS!

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I may be chatty in bursts, but mostly I'm quiet. I'm a pretty good listener, I think.

Too much chatty drives me crazy, because I feel like the other person is constantly demanding my attention. You don't do that J-dogg, no worries there.

Basically, I don't think of chattiness as a personality flaw that needs improvement, I think of it as a personality style that is or is not compatible with other people's personalities.

Me, I have a problem with clutter. It's hard for me to realize that I should just throw things away, so I end up with too much stuff hanging around.

I do it when I'm nervous. First dates...AAAUGH! Still haven't heard comedy girl's story about meeting Les Claypool! CHATTINESS!

You should ask her tonight, and that way I can hear it too.