Dating For Dinner

[hooplala]

So there's this young lady in Toronto who is dating guys just to eat in nice places, and writes a blog about it: hxxp://restauranttipsfromaserialdater.tumblr.com

I'm torn between being disgusted by her cruel manipulation of strangers, and being bowled over by such an obvious, yet genius, idea. 

Surely she can't be the only person doing this, but how many advertise it?  Her face is ALL over that blog, so she's not exactly hiding... and in one of the posts she admits to getting busted by a guy who knew she was talking about him online.  People in town are foaming at the mouth...

Thoughts?

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

So there's this young lady in Toronto who is dating guys just to eat in nice places, and writes a blog about it: hxxp://restauranttipsfromaserialdater.tumblr.com

I'm torn between being disgusted by her cruel manipulation of strangers, and being bowled over by such an obvious, yet genius, idea. 

Surely she can't be the only person doing this, but how many advertise it?  Her face is ALL over that blog, so she's not exactly hiding... and in one of the posts she admits to getting busted by a guy who knew she was talking about him online.  People in town are foaming at the mouth...

Thoughts?

It's definitely not novel (I can't recall who now, but I read a bio of a girl in NYC in the 60's who said that she was so broke that sometimes the only time she ate was when men took her out to dinner so it because sort of a survival strategy for her and other girls she knew), but in this era it seems kind of a dick move.

[hooplala]

So there's this young lady in Toronto who is dating guys just to eat in nice places, and writes a blog about it: hxxp://restauranttipsfromaserialdater.tumblr.com

I'm torn between being disgusted by her cruel manipulation of strangers, and being bowled over by such an obvious, yet genius, idea. 

Surely she can't be the only person doing this, but how many advertise it?  Her face is ALL over that blog, so she's not exactly hiding... and in one of the posts she admits to getting busted by a guy who knew she was talking about him online.  People in town are foaming at the mouth...

Thoughts?

It's definitely not novel (I can't recall who now, but I read a bio of a girl in NYC in the 60's who said that she was so broke that sometimes the only time she ate was when men took her out to dinner so it because sort of a survival strategy for her and other girls she knew), but in this era it seems kind of a dick move.

True.  And I think I might be more inclined to rally behind her if she was entertaining or well written, and this was fodder for quality.  But, as it is, it seems to be more about grandstanding than anything else.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

  Having read her blog, I am confused. Is she really a shitneck or is this her blog persona? Is she really exploiting men for meals or is it all a set up for her blog?

Either she's a giant asshole or she's very creative...

[hooplala]

This is what I can't decide at the moment, so I brought here for the verdict from PD.com.

At the moment I'm leaning toward creative shitneck.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

This is what I can't decide at the moment, so I brought here for the verdict from PD.com.

At the moment I'm leaning toward creative shitneck.

I think you may have it.

[Demolition Squid]

I've got to admire the balls of it. Even if I think the idea is skeezy, she's thrown it out there for the world to see, and presumably she expected it to blow up and her face to be all over it.

There's a certain amount of courage to that. I wouldn't have the guts myself, that's for sure.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I've got to admire the balls of it. Even if I think the idea is skeezy, she's thrown it out there for the world to see, and presumably she expected it to blow up and her face to be all over it.

There's a certain amount of courage to that. I wouldn't have the guts myself, that's for sure.

Yeah exactly. She's blogging it, so she certainly didn't intend for it to remain secret. She's already been busted, but she's keeping on doing it.

I will confess that when I was younger there were times when I essentially escorted for dinner. It was in the open, though; I was like, if you need a nice-looking lady on your arm for the evening, I'll totally provide charming conversation and impress your coworkers if you provide dinner and drinks.

That's really hard to do now, though, because people assume you're saying you're a prostitute.

[Junkenstein]

seems related, was making the rounds yesterday:

http://www.carrotdating.com/

Messaging may get her interested, but bribery will get you a date. Don't waste time contacting countless singles in hopes that one will say "yes." The Carrot Dating app gives you the power to date your first choice, not settle for only the ones who replied.

Random article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/carrot-dating-app-accused-of-sexism-8894665.html

An online dating app has been attacked as sexist and even accused of encouraging prostitution.

Carrot Dating, developed by an MIT graduate, allows men to 'bribe' women into offering them dates with everything from jewelry to a tank full of petrol. Users wanting to get the romance going can even offer prospective suitors plastic surgery.

The idea behind the app is that users 'dangle a carrot' in exchange for getting women to go out with them, according to its creator Brandon Wade.

The app, with its unashamed promotion of bribery, has been likened by the US news website Business Insider to exchanging money for sex.

Business Insider's Christina Sterbenz wrote, "through Carrot Dating, users (but really men)... can buy credits to send "gifts" to other users ... so they'll agree to a first date. That sounds quite like an activity illegal in most of the continental US — prostitution."

"Aside from being blatantly sexist, Wade's app clearly won't build the chemistry needed to fall in love.

"In fact, this problematic app is teaching men that women are greedy idiots who can't see through blatant and pathetic misogyny.

"For the record, if you offer a woman a present in exchange for a first date, then you're implying she can be bought, much like a hooker.'

There's a rare level of tragedy here.

[hooplala]

Thing is, it's hard to feel very sorry for the guys. They seem pretty unconcerned that she can't remember their names or what they look like... Seems like most of them are in this for something too, so it could be simply quid pro quo.

[Faust]

She is using being busted and the publicity in the exact same way, in the first few posts she is invited to go on local radio and feature in a magazine.

It is such an obviously dickish thing to post the details of the targets online. If it was just about the food then then go for it, it's not like the guy gets nothing he has the evening of company and conversation which is enough to pick a lot of guys out of a rut or depression.

But the fact that she is leveraging the publicity makes it feel very exploitative, I haven't read through the dinner reviews yet, If she is humiliating the guys/girls she goes on dates with than it is very unfair.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

seems related, was making the rounds yesterday:

http://www.carrotdating.com/

Messaging may get her interested, but bribery will get you a date. Don't waste time contacting countless singles in hopes that one will say "yes." The Carrot Dating app gives you the power to date your first choice, not settle for only the ones who replied.

Random article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/carrot-dating-app-accused-of-sexism-8894665.html

An online dating app has been attacked as sexist and even accused of encouraging prostitution.

Carrot Dating, developed by an MIT graduate, allows men to 'bribe' women into offering them dates with everything from jewelry to a tank full of petrol. Users wanting to get the romance going can even offer prospective suitors plastic surgery.

The idea behind the app is that users 'dangle a carrot' in exchange for getting women to go out with them, according to its creator Brandon Wade.

The app, with its unashamed promotion of bribery, has been likened by the US news website Business Insider to exchanging money for sex.

Business Insider's Christina Sterbenz wrote, "through Carrot Dating, users (but really men)... can buy credits to send "gifts" to other users ... so they'll agree to a first date. That sounds quite like an activity illegal in most of the continental US — prostitution."

"Aside from being blatantly sexist, Wade's app clearly won't build the chemistry needed to fall in love.

"In fact, this problematic app is teaching men that women are greedy idiots who can't see through blatant and pathetic misogyny.

"For the record, if you offer a woman a present in exchange for a first date, then you're implying she can be bought, much like a hooker.'

There's a rare level of tragedy here.

I am fascinated by the skewed little microcosm that is a window to. I have known three women who I think would absolutely go for something like that... all of them bizarre little mercenaries with a trail of chewed-up exes behind them. I am talking about some of the worst women you could ever hope to spend time with; perfectly pretty and charming and sweet on the surface, but scary-amoral underneath. So you end up with guys who don't know how to meet women normally, or who don't want to date the women they would normally meet, and they end up dating girls who are essentially sociopaths, who inevitably in the end get bored and cruel and leave them more damaged than they found them, and even more convinced that women are these inhuman creatures fueled solely by greed, so this crazy, creepy cycle perpetuates.

[hooplala]

She is using being busted and the publicity in the exact same way, in the first few posts she is invited to go on local radio and feature in a magazine.

It is such an obviously dickish thing to post the details of the targets online. If it was just about the food then then go for it, it's not like the guy gets nothing he has the evening of company and conversation which is enough to pick a lot of guys out of a rut or depression.

But the fact that she is leveraging the publicity makes it feel very exploitative, I haven't read through the dinner reviews yet, If she is humiliating the guys/girls she goes on dates with than it is very unfair.

She certainly isn't overly flattering.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

She is using being busted and the publicity in the exact same way, in the first few posts she is invited to go on local radio and feature in a magazine.

It is such an obviously dickish thing to post the details of the targets online. If it was just about the food then then go for it, it's not like the guy gets nothing he has the evening of company and conversation which is enough to pick a lot of guys out of a rut or depression.

But the fact that she is leveraging the publicity makes it feel very exploitative, I haven't read through the dinner reviews yet, If she is humiliating the guys/girls she goes on dates with than it is very unfair.

Oh, she is a complete asshole about it. And she talks openly about how 2's and 3's will pay for anything. It's a little 

[Faust]

Gross.