Etiquette guides disgust me.
Some friends of mine got married today and I wasn't invited to the wedding. I'm cool with that, I think weddings are a personal affair that have a lot of factors to consider in terms of cost, venue, family size, closeness of relationship, etc. I feel like we should be grateful for being invited rather than stilted if we aren't. I was invited for an after party and I'm trying to figure out what the custom is for gift giving for an after party. All I can find is a bunch of discussion forum questions where people say that after parties are tacky and your guests will feel insulted for not being invited to the event. It's fucking gross.