For My People: WHY I am a great big jerk.

[Pergamos]

I was thinking about exactly this not too long ago. Among the wide variety of things that are fucked up about the way society treats women, the fact that a woman may have to resort to accepting the label of "bitch" just so she can justify drawing a line in the goddamn sand once in a fucking while is gross.

Weirdly enough, when a man does that, it's called "not being a bitch."

So the definition of what being a "bitch" is changes depending on what's most degrading to women.

Don't kid yourself. A guy does it he's called a cunt or a fucking bastard. Woman does it at least she's called something that's her own gender. The trick, for either gender, is to take the label and own it. Some whiny little fuck totally loses their shit at me and resorts to "you're nothing but a cunt" I've won. Fuckhead has finally worked me out. Do not fuck with my beach scribbles or you'll find out just how much of a cunt I'm more than happy to be.

Well that's probably a matter of whom you're telling to not cross your line.   If someone's being inconvenienced or not getting what they want because of a line drawn (by a man), then they call him a cunt.

An outside observer will more likely praise the man for not "being a bitch," i.e. for not rolling over and submitting.

Maybe it's just a difference in colloquialisms across the pond, or I'm just being obtuse about what I mean (totally possible). Calling a man a bitch here implies that he is weak and submissive, while calling a woman a bitch implies that she is being selfish and/or obstinate.

Now there's a bit of context-based language I'd hate to have to explain to a non-native speaker.

My social group uses bitch, when referring to a man, to imply that he is whining a lot.  A guy who lets himself get pushed around is usually a pussy (no less mysoginistic, just different words in different places I guess)

[Cainad (dec.)]

I think we're mostly on the same page, especially in that many derogatory terms for both men and women are words that refer to females or feminine traits. Regardless of your gender, people will use female-specific insults to attack behavior they don't want to see from you.

So fuck 'em. Buncha twats.

My social group uses bitch, when referring to a man, to imply that he is whining a lot.  A guy who lets himself get pushed around is usually a pussy (no less mysoginistic, just different words in different places I guess)

Sounds familiar to me. "Bitching" seems to be a pretty universal synonym for whining, too.

[Cardinal Pizza Deliverance.]

Great post, Roger. I'm going to take it to heart and work on my jerk-fu.

[Anna Mae Bollocks]

Words are wack.

Besides "bitch", there's "dog".

"He's a dog" = he fucks around a lot. Men cheer and women "better watch out".

"She's a dog" = she's unattractive. Good for a one-off but that's it.

"Bitch" is a female dog when you're talking about actual dogs, but not people.

Dog woman is OK for one-off sex if nobody knows about it. If she goes through a lot of men who do this, she's earned the "slut" moniker.

"Slut" is the living equivalent of a jack rag.

"Bitch", OTOH, TURNS YOU DOWN.

Contemporary english makes my head hurt.

[P3nT4gR4m]

on the other hand we have

Dick, prick, wanker, tosser - gender specific insults that only apply to men

but, yeah, I'm backing out before this turns into another feminism clusterfuck. Board has only just settled down after the last one 

[Cainad (dec.)]

on the other hand we have

Dick, prick, wanker, tosser - gender specific insults that only apply to men

but, yeah, I'm backing out before this turns into another feminism clusterfuck. Board has only just settled down after the last one 

Dick and prick sometimes come up here, but wanker and tosser are distinctly British-sounding to most American ears, and therefore don't come across as real insults.

Saying someone's being a dick is common enough, though. So our Insultosphere isn't purely misogynistic. It's just deeply tied into gender/sex for some reason.

[Junkenstein]

I once worked for a chap that only allowed nothing stronger than "idiot" as he had once been sued, successfully, rightfully, for racism.

We got rather creative every time he left the room.

[P3nT4gR4m]

on the other hand we have

Dick, prick, wanker, tosser - gender specific insults that only apply to men

but, yeah, I'm backing out before this turns into another feminism clusterfuck. Board has only just settled down after the last one 

Dick and prick sometimes come up here, but wanker and tosser are distinctly British-sounding to most American ears, and therefore don't come across as real insults.

Saying someone's being a dick is common enough, though. So our Insultosphere isn't purely misogynistic. It's just deeply tied into gender/sex for some reason.

Gender/sex, excretory function and mental health I'd say were the mainstay with body shape and smell picking up the slack

[Doktor Howl]

Hi, my name is The Good Reverend Roger, and I'm a great big jerk.  People often ask me WHY I'm a jerk, but I usually just crap all over them in response, because...Well, "jerk".  But today, I thought I'd make my case for why I'm a jerk, and why many of YOU should be jerks.

1.  I am not required to tolerate passive-aggressive backhanded sniping.  If you wish to tell me that I'm a fucking jerk, just DO IT.  There's no need to follow me around making snide little comments, like a great big pussy.  Nobody should have to put up with that.

2.  God KNOWS I hate people, and he put me on a planet with 7.3 billion of you assmonkeys.  I should be compensated for this.

3.  I am old and cranky.  I take pills to maintain even the semblance of civility that you fuckers have experienced.

4.  I am ALSO the most compassionate, caring, and kindly bag of shit you jackasses will EVER see, once you're out from under the wing of your parents.  Compared to the bosses, co-workers, and/or university professors you are about to experience, I am the next thing to Mahatma fucking Gandhi.  Just think of me as your introduction to what's waiting for you around life's corner, holding a bat with a nail through it and giggling like a low-grade moron.

5.  The English have a saying, "Keep being their cunt, and they'll keep fucking you."  WORDS TO LIVE BY.

6.  The poet ee cummings once wrote "There is some shit I will not eat."  ALSO WORDS TO LIVE BY.

7.  As you get older, if you CAN'T be a jerk to people who run up to you DEMANDING it, you will get ulcers, high blood pressure, heart problems, and you will begin to resemble a door mat.

8.  Jerks don't get bothered much.  "Reasonable people" are life's chew toy.

9.  As you get older, your capacity to listen to the tales of woe from dumbfucks will diminish.  Do not fight this, or you will be the crying towel for every useless son of a bitch that comes down the pike, whimpering excuses as to why their fucked up life isn't their fault.

10.  FUCK 'EM IF THEY CAN'T TAKE A JOKE.

That is all.  You may now return to your regularly scheduled Holist thread.

Venomously yours and SHUT UP,
TGRR

Fun fact:  In the five years since I wrote this, 300,000,000 additional primates have been added.

[Pergamos]

And most of them are jerks.

[hooplala]

2013 seems like a lifetime ago.

[MMIX]

2013 seems like a lifetime ago.

No, 300,000,000 lifetimes actually <cut&run>

[Junkenstein]

2013 seems like a lifetime ago.

No, 300,000,000 lifetimes actually <cut&run>

That's not even counting the clones.