Open Bar: We're going to build a bar, and make the drinks pay for it!

[Cainad (dec.)]

Oh, and our beautiful healthy baby girl was born Friday morning. 6lbs 12oz, 19 inches long, fortunate to mostly look like her mother.

Hooray!

[P3nT4gR4m]

Congrats ECH!

[Junkenstein]

Good Stuff ECH. Do a good job.

[The Wizard Joseph]

Congratulations ECH!

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ECH - tip of the hat and congrats!


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On the home front, my computers are becoming unable to deal with all this fritzy HTML5 and whathaveyou.  That would have been acceptable, however, they're also all constantly crashing and requiring deep ram resets that have me dis/reassembling the machines multiple times for them to even respond, at all, to a hard boot.  I may fade away slightly as I tear them apart to figure some kind of solution.  Currently force-feeding them a few megabytes, I dunno.  Stupid computers.

[East Coast Hustle]

Parenthood is already hilarious.

I could FEEL all the testosterone drain from my body. All I want to do is lay on the couch with a baby on my bare belly and watch old disney animated movies or nature specials narrated by David Attenborough. I find myself suddenly enjoying classical music. I've been eating lots of salad.

I can't wait to see how my newfound mental state confuses my coworkers.

I also definitely need to work on getting out of the restaurant business for real this time. I know I'll probably have to suck it up for another 6 months to a year but it's definitely time to find something less stressful and less "this job will swallow your life whole". I find myself suddenly and starkly unwilling to devote that much of my time and energy to anything that isn't my family.

[rong]

sweet sweet caysh

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I got to read that page for 10 secs before browser crash, seemed like healthy fun

ECH:  Looking glorious!  (please to remember adding deh protein to der leafy greens = moar energy?)

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I mean, I can embody my Holy Name™ and generate tears and shit stains, but I thought we were trying to avoid that shit?

It's a nostalgia thing, man.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Parenthood is already hilarious.

I could FEEL all the testosterone drain from my body. All I want to do is lay on the couch with a baby on my bare belly and watch old disney animated movies or nature specials narrated by David Attenborough. I find myself suddenly enjoying classical music. I've been eating lots of salad.

I can't wait to see how my newfound mental state confuses my coworkers.

I also definitely need to work on getting out of the restaurant business for real this time. I know I'll probably have to suck it up for another 6 months to a year but it's definitely time to find something less stressful and less "this job will swallow your life whole". I find myself suddenly and starkly unwilling to devote that much of my time and energy to anything that isn't my family.

Yep, you nailed it; your prolactin levels are skyrocketing and your testosterone levels are falling in response as your body prepares you for papahood. It's awesome! It's amazing to me that for such a long time medical science assumed that only women have hormonal changes in response to becoming parents, when dads also have all these shifts that prepare them for nurturing and parental protection (prolactin also mediates protective behavior).

Family is so great. I'm glad you're enjoying yours.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I wanted to own a bar for such a long time. A bar where there are no TVs, old country music overhead, and maybe very small, a bar and a row of tables behind it. Very, very soft, cushy stools. The Soft Stool.

Then I realized I hate being around drunk people when I'm not and sometimes when I am.

Bars without TV are the best kind of bars, and sorely needed around here. The Beech, the Free House, and the Red Fox are all TV-less, but that's what, three bars out of the 150 or so that are local to us?

I know it's a bit of a jaunt from where you are but I'm pretty sure I don't remember the Slingshot Lounge having TVs. Almost positive, because that was my go-to watering hole UNLESS I was trying to watch a sports on TV, then I had to go to Tom's.

The Slingshot is great, although way out of stumbling range. I think you're right about there not being TVs there.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.

Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.

Yeah, that sounds uber bad. She's got one that's dark blue (Navy? Idk, I'm a dude.) with white polka dots and some lacy stuff on it. Looks pretty damn good. I'll get some info on the brand, etc. later and get back to yuh. She's a DDD and has mostly bad looking bras, but does have some pretty damn good ones. She usually doesn't have too much trouble finding the good ones, though.

It's not hard to find pretty bras in my size; Natori, Curvy Kate, and Freya all make very nice bras. It's just hard to find pretty push-up bras in my size because apparently most manufacturers assume that if our cups runneth over, we're never going to want to accentuate them.

I gotchya. I'm quite sure it was a push-up, but I'll find out for certain. I may have been unclear because I was speaking on the basis that specifically mentioned bras we were talking about were push-up.

Also, if it's not technically a push-up, they used a technique other than extra lower padding to... uhh... accentuate them. Her girls are definitely more accentuated in this bra than in her others.

Or maybe I have no idea what I'm talking about, and she simply got a DD bra instead and put it on the biggest clip setting, pushin' 'em up and out the lazy consumer way.

Also heard of the toilet paper trick (Am I remembering shit from romantic comedies now? FUCK).

Push up bras may be padded or not padded; they're just sewn so as to push the breasts up and together so you get cleavage.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

The girlfriend complained of the same thing a lot, Nigel. Pretty sure Choppa's suggestion was mentioned at some point in conversation shortly before the issue was resolved.

Yeah, but have you seen their styles this year? <shudder> Neon yellow and pink... WTF.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), not all of their styles come in DD, either, so I was weeding through fugly after fugly hoping for a hit on the non-fugly. I may yet find something good, but I actually prefer more upscale brands like Freya.

Yeah, that sounds uber bad. She's got one that's dark blue (Navy? Idk, I'm a dude.) with white polka dots and some lacy stuff on it. Looks pretty damn good. I'll get some info on the brand, etc. later and get back to yuh. She's a DDD and has mostly bad looking bras, but does have some pretty damn good ones. She usually doesn't have too much trouble finding the good ones, though.

It's not hard to find pretty bras in my size; Natori, Curvy Kate, and Freya all make very nice bras. It's just hard to find pretty push-up bras in my size because apparently most manufacturers assume that if our cups runneth over, we're never going to want to accentuate them.

Right?!  It's like they're all, "Oh, they're tits are probably pretty droopy and always have been cuz they're so big, they're probably used to it and we don't need to make pushup bras that size."

Also, I've never heard of those brands.  I'm going to check them out.

Amazon has really good deals on them sometimes. And they're super pretty.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I am going to complain about this here because I can't complain about it anywhere else because it makes me sound ungrateful and might hurt people's feelings.

I have one friend who texts me every day to ask "How are you doing today?". Several others text me every few days with the same question. The net result is that not a single day goes by without having to answer that question at least twice.

The problem is that the answer is never going to be "OK" or "good", and every time they ask, I think about it, and if I was doing kind of OK somehow, it pulls me out of OK and sends me back to bad. If I'm not in an OK space I can't really answer honestly. These people are not equipped for that. Most therapists aren't equipped for it. I don't mind them checking in but I want them to stop asking me how I'm doing. I want to stop having to carefully formulate answers that don't include how many hours I have been thinking about things they don't want to hear about.

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At the risk of hurting feelings, I think it's fair to say that your's may have priority.  You are right, they are probably not equipped, which should come as no surprise to them.  If you did not feel like communicating this to people, that should be more than understandable.