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Open Bar: Subpoenaed by Congress, but still refusing to testify

Started by altered, November 21, 2019, 05:11:04 AM

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Faust

Took the plunge and nuked the facebook and reddit, trying to limit my time to feedly, hackernews and here, I find myself absentmindedly trying for them every so often but I was getting diminishing returns on them so I am going to try stay clean for a while.
I rarely post about personal stuff and I am unsure how to start: We have a baby on the way in April, this will be our first so I am expecting a lot of change after that but not worried about the feeding, nights etc, more worried about when they become mobile down the line and childproofing the house, turning it into less of a death trap.
At work I'm doing the system architecture and that has its ups and downs (making something is more fun then drafting how to make it), it looks like we might be expanding into the US, I've never actually been so I might be over once or twice when we are setting up on the ground, we'll be doing much the same as Ireland and the UK (demand side management for grid services, (moving MW around).
Playing Hollow Knight, this year has been great for games, film and TV not as much.
Sleepless nights at the chateau

LMNO

Congrats on the kid!  Sounds like you're doing all right. Good to hear.

Cain


Juana

"I dispose of obsolete meat machines.  Not because I hate them (I do) and not because they deserve it (they do), but because they are in the way and those older ones don't meet emissions codes.  They emit too much.  You don't like them and I don't like them, so spare me the hysteria."

altered

I got screwed. At the final hour.

I have a place lined up, I have roommates, I can PROBABLY get 2000 dollars to show up in three days time.

Edit posted too soon I'm kind of a mess:

What I can't find in three days is a co-signer. I have to back out and leave these people fuckin hanging and submit to homelessness again.
"I am that worst of all type of criminal...I cannot bring myself to do what you tell me, because you told me."

There's over 100 of us in this meat-suit. You'd think it runs like a ship, but it's more like a hundred and ten angry ghosts having an old-school QuakeWorld tournament, three people desperately trying to make sure the gamers don't go hungry or soil themselves, and the Facilities manager weeping in the corner as the garbage piles high.

Cain


altered

Quote from: Cain on November 26, 2019, 09:07:21 PM
Does no-one you work with fit the criterea?

It's more that no one I work with would dare legally attach themselves to someone with a HISTORY of CHRONIC HOMELESSNESS when it comes to paying rent. And I can't even blame them for that.
"I am that worst of all type of criminal...I cannot bring myself to do what you tell me, because you told me."

There's over 100 of us in this meat-suit. You'd think it runs like a ship, but it's more like a hundred and ten angry ghosts having an old-school QuakeWorld tournament, three people desperately trying to make sure the gamers don't go hungry or soil themselves, and the Facilities manager weeping in the corner as the garbage piles high.

Juana

"I dispose of obsolete meat machines.  Not because I hate them (I do) and not because they deserve it (they do), but because they are in the way and those older ones don't meet emissions codes.  They emit too much.  You don't like them and I don't like them, so spare me the hysteria."

altered

I was literally at the finish line, and they're lassoing me back to square zero.
"I am that worst of all type of criminal...I cannot bring myself to do what you tell me, because you told me."

There's over 100 of us in this meat-suit. You'd think it runs like a ship, but it's more like a hundred and ten angry ghosts having an old-school QuakeWorld tournament, three people desperately trying to make sure the gamers don't go hungry or soil themselves, and the Facilities manager weeping in the corner as the garbage piles high.

Cain

Quote from: nullified on November 26, 2019, 09:09:02 PM
Quote from: Cain on November 26, 2019, 09:07:21 PM
Does no-one you work with fit the criterea?

It's more that no one I work with would dare legally attach themselves to someone with a HISTORY of CHRONIC HOMELESSNESS when it comes to paying rent. And I can't even blame them for that.

Does it have to be an individual? I'm thinking that this is the kind of thing where HR could come in handy. After all, you want to keep working for them, having a stable living situation would help with that. If someone from HR agrees to sign off on it, everyone wins.

I had to give HR as my reference when renting in London, though my situation is slightly different in that I previously rented from the company I worked for. Still, it may be worth asking. For a company, it's nowhere near as big a risk.

altered

Not a reference.

Co-signer. If I can't pay rent for whatever reason (hit by a car or blow my check at the casinos) then they pay for me.

There's no way the company does that for me.
"I am that worst of all type of criminal...I cannot bring myself to do what you tell me, because you told me."

There's over 100 of us in this meat-suit. You'd think it runs like a ship, but it's more like a hundred and ten angry ghosts having an old-school QuakeWorld tournament, three people desperately trying to make sure the gamers don't go hungry or soil themselves, and the Facilities manager weeping in the corner as the garbage piles high.

Doktor Howl

Quote from: Faust on November 26, 2019, 12:07:04 PM
Took the plunge and nuked the facebook and reddit, trying to limit my time to feedly, hackernews and here, I find myself absentmindedly trying for them every so often but I was getting diminishing returns on them so I am going to try stay clean for a while.
I rarely post about personal stuff and I am unsure how to start: We have a baby on the way in April, this will be our first so I am expecting a lot of change after that but not worried about the feeding, nights etc, more worried about when they become mobile down the line and childproofing the house, turning it into less of a death trap.
At work I'm doing the system architecture and that has its ups and downs (making something is more fun then drafting how to make it), it looks like we might be expanding into the US, I've never actually been so I might be over once or twice when we are setting up on the ground, we'll be doing much the same as Ireland and the UK (demand side management for grid services, (moving MW around).
Playing Hollow Knight, this year has been great for games, film and TV not as much.

That's awesome, dude!
Molon Lube

The Johnny


ZZZ

I got back with an ex-girlfriend from 12 years ago... we initially broke it off back then cause we were both so retarded and low key addicts that we mistreated each other all the time (never ever physical nor psychological abuse, just chaos and unstability)... despite that she always found a way to keep in contact throughouht all these years, although i was for the most part respectfully dismissive, just going out to just literally talk or walk around once in a while without anything more.

But recently I broke it off with some long distance relationship that was going nowhere after 5 years, and I havent dated or wanted to date locally for about a year and a half (ive had my flings, just to state that im not an incel)... and I thought to myself, i must really mean something to her if shes been seeking me out for such a long time, moreso cause shes a bit deeper than me on the autism/introversion spectrum or however you want to call it... shes very pretty too, so she could easily pick out of the litter whatever she wants (im not fugly, but that's not what i would call my forte)... shes been single for like 3 and a half years, which she tells me is when her boyfriend hit her (it was the second relationship where that had happened to her).

So idk, what's you peoples input? Please
<<My image in some places, is of a monster of some kind who wants to pull a string and manipulate people. Nothing could be further from the truth. People are manipulated; I just want them to be manipulated more effectively.>>

-B.F. Skinner

Juana

I generally think that getting back together is a bad idea buuuut...are both of you in healthier places? Is she somebody you can sit down and have real conversations about what sucked last time and what to do differently this time? Are you the kind of person who can entertain those needed conversations? Has she processed the trauma from domestic violence?
"I dispose of obsolete meat machines.  Not because I hate them (I do) and not because they deserve it (they do), but because they are in the way and those older ones don't meet emissions codes.  They emit too much.  You don't like them and I don't like them, so spare me the hysteria."

altered

First of all, as someone on the autism spectrum:

No, just staying in touch with you means nothing of that sort. I get caught in rituals very easily. When I have a problem, only two or three people come to mind when it comes to helping me solve it, depending on the problem. Some people I talk to everyday, some I talk to once a year or less. It very rarely means anything except this is how I've put my life together.

That said, be blunt without being an asshole, and accept the first answer given at face value without putting too much emotional reaction into it. Anyone I know on the autism spectrum would kill to have people just say what they're thinking and not react overjoyed (uh oh am I being manipulated) or pissed off (uh oh I forgot how to human) when we respond in kind.

Edit: Also, the above.
"I am that worst of all type of criminal...I cannot bring myself to do what you tell me, because you told me."

There's over 100 of us in this meat-suit. You'd think it runs like a ship, but it's more like a hundred and ten angry ghosts having an old-school QuakeWorld tournament, three people desperately trying to make sure the gamers don't go hungry or soil themselves, and the Facilities manager weeping in the corner as the garbage piles high.