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I honestly think this is one of the most brilliant culinary tricks I've ever seen. I'm in complete awe.

On that note, has anyone here seen my bike?

Did you leave it outside?

I always do.

On that note, has anyone here seen my bike?

Oh yeah, unflounced. Thank/blame Roger. And don't even think of talking to me about it.

I just had a ridiculously attractive woman (think female version of the Dos Equis guy) tell me that I was "Food Rambo".

I think that might be the highest compliment anyone has ever paid me.

Fucking magnets.

How do they work?

You'd think this shit would stop surprising me eventually, but once again something I loved so dearly has become something that just reminds me of my biggest failure.

So. Peace out, PD. It's been a wild ride these last 13 years. We had some times, huh?

ECH, I wanted to add that if I ever come across like a jerk because I disagree or contradict you about something, in the matter of child custody and coparenting in particular, I just want you to know that I am 100% in your corner and anything I say regarding this is because I want you and your kid to have the best possible outcome.

No worries, I understand that I am not in an objective head space about this shit right now and I actually really appreciate you being a voice of reason especially since you have experience with this shit. So thank you!

I just worry that it's easy to cross the line from venting about a shitty situation to sounding like some goddamn MRA asshole and I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't even remotely veering into that territory. I'll support that child above and beyond what's just necessary whether a court tells me to or not, but I'm a primate and I prefer the illusion of control y'know?

Didn't someone also send some of Roger's stuff to his former boss?

I'd hate to think we should all start scrubbing our posts.

I'm assuming it's the same person. There can't be 2 separate people that butthurt and awful.

And yeah, I get that ultimately I am responsible for the consequences of my own actions. Thing is, the "actions" this is presumably a consequence of never actually happened in real life the way they did in the narrated version. That was the one thing I took artistic license with because when I wrote it the real way it seemed like a chunk of moralistic dissonance in an otherwise perfectly noir-ish real-life story.

Joke's on me and I can't stop laughing.

Nah, at least my kid's mom is a great mom. But I feel like if she's gonna put herself in a position where she has to do school full time and work to pay bills that I'm better equipped to do most of the childcare right now. Also the part where I want things to remain amicable and for us both to be involved in the kid's life daily or almost-daily and I'm TERRIFIED that she's planning to move out of state when the school year is over.

As for the mole, well, if I can't follow the trail of crumbs I'll just nuke my shit from orbit and never log in again. Too little, too late, since it's apparently already cost me my family and my child a stable loving 2 parent home. So I hope you feel really good about yourself, whoever you are.

In related news, it turns out that somebody here has either been forwarding things I have written here to my child's mother or has been linking her to pages with my content.



Somebody is gonna get to see what "full potato" looks like.

No matter what people's principles are when they come to other people, everybody makes exceptions for themselves. Everybody believes that they are, and deserve to be, treated like the exception.

I assume that's directed at me, I think I may not have made myself understood very well. I don't view myself as any sort of exception, I view WA's way of dealing with this stuff in the legal system as antiquated and inflexible. I'd be going for full custody if I were in a state where I had a fighting chance at it, and not out of spite or butthurt but because I really just want what's best for my child and think I am currently in a better situation to provide that for her financially and emotionally.

I do, but the reality is that no matter what I'll be the one spending nearly 100% of the money on the kid's day-to-day living expenses even if she's only with me 3 days of the week. And I've been completely financially supporting her and babymamma since she was born. Got no problem with that. But I shouldn't have to pay for rent and bills of someone who's decided to voluntarily break up a family unit and put themselves in a financially precarious position. If she can't keep a roof over her own head she's always welcome in my home, but I'm more than willing to have full custody of the kid so fuck equating her questionable choices with my child's necessities. Basically, I'm willing to spend every last penny supporting that kid but I'm not trying to have the state tell me to cut a monthly check for babymamma support.

I get why the system is set up the way it is, but there's no reason it can't be flexible enough to recognize the difference between me and some deadbeat shitweasel.

It's cool that you've been able to talk with a lawyer about this stuff. I've had to suck it up and not see my children very often because I haven't been able to afford one.

Instead I've been channeling my rage into learning software engineering and web technologies. Within a few years I'm going to have full custody of both kids and their mothers are going to suddenly know how I've felt for years.

I'm going to continue to try the diplomatic route so there will be a long email trail of evidence when I finally can afford to bring the motherfuckin ruckus. Best of luck man. I really hope things work out better for you than they did for me.

I'm fortunate to have a friend in the field, but he's not in my immediate area so the advice is free but that's all I get. I'll have to find a local shyster and pony up some scrill if it comes to that.

Sucks you got boned. Good on you for staying reasonable and taking the care to compile a paper trail.