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Women are made of much sterner stuff than we are.

I'll try not to bristle at the implication that I didn't already look into this. My information came from a practitioner of family law, but thanks for your input. The joint parenting plan still carries a designation of primary residential parent and secondary residential parent and even though both are considered legal custodial parents there are some important differences. I've been advised that I should not completely discount the "nuclear option", which would be to rent a room in Oregon for a month, take her there, and preemptively file in Oregon. I'm not inclined to do it, but the fact that an attorney familiar with case law in both states seems to think it's a reasonable option is telling.

Also, if it goes to court the state will sue me for child support by default because baby girl is on state health care. I'm perfectly willing to spend every last penny I have on my child but I don't at all like the idea of being required to just cut a check with no say as to how it's spent. I understand there are plenty of shitheads out there for whom such requirements are necessary for the child's well being. I am not one of them, and though her mom is a great mother, she doesn't always have long-term big picture stuff in focus as well as I do. If the state gets involved they won't, for example, allow some of my child support to be put into an interest-bearing account for the purpose of being maybe able to afford a few years of Montessori school at the start of her educational career.

Dpends on your definition of "ultimately", I guess. Some day we'll all be stardust again, so yes.

But in the short term, maybe not so much. I fear I may soon need a custody lawyer, and if you're a father in WA that's not a good spot to be in, legally speaking.

Oh, no. I thought WA was a coparenting state like Oregon is. I'm sorry to hear about that.

There's no actual joint custody in WA, they have you do a "parenting plan" that the court signs off on and even though you are both legally custodial parents the state designates one parent as the primary and one as the secondary. She'll be the primary by default and the primary can legally move out of state with the child with virtually no legal recourse for me. I will not have that same right. Oregon is MUCH more equitable in such matters.

Dpends on your definition of "ultimately", I guess. Some day we'll all be stardust again, so yes.

But in the short term, maybe not so much. I fear I may soon need a custody lawyer, and if you're a father in WA that's not a good spot to be in, legally speaking.

To be honest, I'd go back and finish him off myself in exchange for the rest of the day never happening so it's hard to be stoked about it.

I checked and apparently it was not a fatality accident. So I guess that's a win, at least.

Holy Fuck.  ECH, I don't know how this stuff keeps happening to you.

Mostly it doesn't happen to me, I just have a knack for being around when it happens to other people. Not sure if I'm just hyper-obsevant or if I've got my own personal entropy cloud that follows me around.

You know you had a shit day when the part where you were first on the scene of a horrific car accident and ended up spending several minutes giving mouth-to-mouth resuscitation to a probably dead guy was not even remotely the worst part of your day.

Man, seriously fuck this shit right in the ear. I'm ready to just walk deep into the woods somewhere and call it a fucking day.

If Peter Luger Williamsburg is still standing it wasn't me.

FTFM.

If Peter Luger is still standing it wasn't me.

The last week has made me kinda sorry I wrote Life During Wartime, and glad I never published the 3rd book.

Aww, man, I was still holding out hope for that too. I really liked that story.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/national/sanctuary-cities/

This is interesting because it shows:
1. An executive order can be wholly stupid and impractical and just sort of peter out.
2. This one doesn't exactly do what the label might have you believe.

"I'm curious to see exactly what he does in terms of this defunding of sanctuary cities because it doesn't make sense from a legal standpoint or a political standpoint," Torrey said.

It seems more for show than anything else.

As for the wall, I find it incredibly hard to imagine the GOP passing $15+ billion dollar legislation. Even with the most ardent, fervent right-wing whako base, this party must balk at such a huge price tag.

I could definitely be wrong about that.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/gop-leaders-back-at-least-12-billion-for-border-wall-153042941.html

I'd like to suggest "HateGoulash". In honor of you and your heritage.

Trump just reversed the DAPL executive order.

He threw Keystone XL in there too, for good measure.

I might just volunteer to take "Inserty".