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also also, getting Irish citizenship leads to EU citizenship, which can lead to me moving to anywhere within the EU, which is a plus.

also the immigration process seems like less of a headache. tho compared to how immigration works here, the bar is basically in Hell.

While I wouldn't trade Ireland for the US under any circumstances, Ireland is far from perfect, we have an awful housing shortage that started about 6 years ago and has gotten worse and worse, new home to buy costs are extortionate, and trying to find an over priced place to rent is incredibly difficult.

If you have someone to stay with you'll be fine, but you'll be facing a hard time trying to get anywhere otherwise.

Politically we are more stable, health care is cheaper than the USA but you still generally want to have insurance, there's plenty of work going round, but every country has its problems, just do your research is all I'm saying

well part of the plan is to seek out this Land Grant program I've heard about where they'll give you money to fix up an existing neglected property. so there the option to fix up a place nice enough to live in or flipping it to rent or buy a place for myself. also I'm pretty sure This One Asshole I Hate already got a place in Italy, and i'm not risking being anywhere near that fuck.

I remember when i was younger, whenever i would watch No reservations with Anthony Bourdain, thered sometimes be a scene where he sits down with an American expat and they would talk about the local culture and cuisine etc, and id wonder what would make a person just up and leave their country of origin. Like yeah people immigrate worse countries for better ones, or to escape wars and genocides, but what made all these comfortably middle class people fling themselves all over the globe to get away from America in particular?

I am now 34. anthony bourdain has been dead for several years now, and i no longer wonder. I get it. I completely get it. I get it to such a degree that I have bought what No Reservations was trying to show me about life in other countries. After this last election i don't feel any loyalty to this place, and i realize i haven't for years now. If someone were to call me a patriot I don't know how id feel, but probably offended in a weird way? I have never once seen my government actually solve a problem in my lifetime and i'm beginning to see that i probably never will and so i have decided that this country is no longer my circus and its salvation no longer my monkey.

this is all to say that I have decided that I have decided to move to Ireland sometime next year. Guess i'm just trying to find a place to talk about this that isn't social media. Apologies if this is in the wrong subforum.

anytime you are communicating something to a human being that would otherwise be impossible to express, you are Doing An Art. everything else is frippery.

Sorry to hear about you having the plague, Dok.

update: i landed a job. Shit doesn't seem as shit as it did last week.

hey I'm back guys.

the last oh, 2-3 years have been absolute dogshit. My mom has been falling prey to romance scams, has given thousands to this asshole, and our recent attempts to have her conserved have failed. This is before even touching on the SAGA of the emotional strain this whole thing has had on my immediate AND extended family. i am now looking to move out and leave her to her own devices ASAP.

It really is.

hey yall, still alive somehow. Spent pretty much this entire year living in a bad Mexican soap opera. I'll probably go into more detail when i have more spoons.

Good to see you.

But it's worth mentioning this board is a misery fest at the moment, so you are once more in a Mexican soap opera.

Altered is having a rough go, my mother just went into hospice care, and Scribbly (previously known as Demosquid) is also not dancing any fandangos. CNO seems to be doing alright.

And aside from one or two pinealists, that's all that's left.  Everyone else drifted away (by which I mean "ran") when wossername's ring wasn't properly kissed.

Damn, I'm sorry to hear everyone is going through it. Sincerely, I hope the best for you all

As for me, well in a nutshell, my dad allegedly raped my mom at the end of 2022 and my family has been slowly falling apart for a year and change now. This is made worse by the fact that my mom is a narcissist and is pushing everyone away even as she relies on us to help maintain her health. My dad has fucked off to Arizona to live with my sister and leave the rest of us to clean us their collective mess. This might be slightly more than a nutshell, but I'm also leaving out a lot of WILD shit, including my mother trying to sell my other sister's wedding gown, and also insisting on driving despite an expired license and cataracts. I might make a thread about it, idk.

hey yall, still alive somehow. Spent pretty much this entire year living in a bad Mexican soap opera. I'll probably go into more detail when i have more spoons.

Friends, allow me to I produce you to Miss Tonkotsu Sinclair

https://youtu.be/1BVC3FvaGww

Hey, update on my earlier more unhinged post above
*I was going a bit nuts at the time, but I'm working on it
*New job is working out so far, least shitty experience I've ever had working retail
*Friend's new philosophy is pretty interesting actually. Wouldn't mind posting some of it here to see what y'all think.

Yeah, that adds up.

hey everyone, I'm back. Update on what's been going on with me:
*been coming to terms with the fact that my dad is an abusive, manipulative narcissist
*my mom is either also a narcissist or has narcissistic abuse syndrome (neither of them will go to therapy so this is mostly armchair diagnosing)
*trying to help my mom separate from my dad, as I fear he's only gonna get worse as he gets older (highlights include him demanding apologies from my mom's brothers who died of cancer)
*I'm trying out He/they pronouns these days
*I've now got COVID for the second time
*I just got a job working at Bevmo that will hopefully help me move the fuck out of this house
*getting back into Podcasting, as well as dipping my feet back into magic/witchy shit and gardening and whatever my ADHD decides i can focus on atm
*helping my friend figure out how to start a non-hierarchical religion of her own invention.
*looking into getting Mexican citizenship to hopefully escape *gestures vaguely at the US in general*

Also, Altered, always nice to find a fellow poly person, glad you're finding meaningful connections/getting laid!