Religious faith has a demonstrated psychological benefits for humans. I don't know exactly how to compare the amount of good it does to the amount of harm, but it's definitely something our brains seem to want.
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Show posts MenuQuote from: navkat on March 13, 2012, 05:23:35 PM
I'm not insulted. I know what was meant.
Yes, revisionist truth patterns concern me as being a little more serious than poor self-esteem issues.
Quote from: AnnaMaeBollocks on March 13, 2012, 04:59:26 PM
Of course not.
Your bf is exhibiting a symptom though. Which isn't a diagnosis but it's a pain in the ass, I lived with somebody who revied everything.
Quote from: AnnaMaeBollocks on March 13, 2012, 04:37:48 PMQuote from: Queen Gogira Pennyworth, BSW on March 13, 2012, 01:06:18 PM
I try to keep in mind how easy it is for people to re-write or screw up their own memories without realizing it. The Boyfriend has an awesome story about a wedding he went to, and literally not one part of it actually happened the way he remembers.* Also, I happen to have the kind of shitty memory where I can say something to someone and be asked immediately afterwards what I just said and have no fucking clue. So I guess maybe I'm more forgiving than I ought to be just from being fucked up myself.
*But it's an awesome story, and the groom in question has agreed that it's far more entertaining to tell it that way
That's symptomatic of a disorder.
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html
"The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. It can be trivial (e.g., about what they want for lunch) or it can be serious (e.g., about whether or not they love you). When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! They will contradict FACTS. They will lie to you about things that you did together. They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy. "
Quote from: NoLeDeMiel on March 13, 2012, 01:31:14 PMQuote from: Queen Gogira Pennyworth, BSW on March 13, 2012, 01:06:18 PM
I try to keep in mind how easy it is for people to re-write or screw up their own memories without realizing it. The Boyfriend has an awesome story about a wedding he went to, and literally not one part of it actually happened the way he remembers.* Also, I happen to have the kind of shitty memory where I can say something to someone and be asked immediately afterwards what I just said and have no fucking clue. So I guess maybe I'm more forgiving than I ought to be just from being fucked up myself.
*But it's an awesome story, and the groom in question has agreed that it's far more entertaining to tell it that way
When it get's resolved with a hearty laugh all the way around, that's one thing. When it gets a rage reaction because "HOW DARE YOU FUCKING CALL ME A LIAR, YOU'RE THE LIAR!" you can be sure it's something else.