The closer we get to Monkey's 2nd birthday, the more explosive his tantrums get. Is this a normal thing?
Yes. They have to get it out now. Mostly it's frustration at not being able to communicate their specific needs and/or emotions. Also, they just want to know what it feels like and how far they can go before you bring the hammer down. This testing will be your life for the next few years.
Good, then.
He was screaming so angrily in time-out that he actually made himself choke a bit. But he stopped after a few minutes, so I think he's learning.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 29, 2009, 11:33:40 PM
The closer we get to Monkey's 2nd birthday, the more explosive his tantrums get. Is this a normal thing?
Yes. Absolutely normal. Spank his ass each time, problem will go away.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 30, 2009, 01:16:05 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 29, 2009, 11:33:40 PM
The closer we get to Monkey's 2nd birthday, the more explosive his tantrums get. Is this a normal thing?
Yes. Absolutely normal. Spank his ass each time, problem will go away.
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Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 30, 2009, 01:16:05 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 29, 2009, 11:33:40 PM
The closer we get to Monkey's 2nd birthday, the more explosive his tantrums get. Is this a normal thing?
Yes. Absolutely normal. Spank his ass each time, problem will go away.
I have been, and it works.
:lulz: that pop on the pamper spooks em
once mine hit about 4 yrs old he learned that spankings suck. he saw how upset it made me to have to do it and then all it took was a look, a finger pointing and a "please don't make me do this. i don't want to have to spank you." spoken through the teeth.
When disciplining my kids, I always have a big smile on my face, so they know that the misery is all theirs.
Sometimes I laugh.
Obviously, they've been too big to spank for 10 years or so, but I always wear a big grin when I mete out the extra housework, groundings, removal of power cords, etc.
Hah. :lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 30, 2009, 05:12:28 PM
Hah. :lulz:
Yep. I haven't raised my voice since they were 5 or so. Never let the little bastards see you sweat. No matter how pissed off you are, SMILE while you lower the boom.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 30, 2009, 05:15:47 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 30, 2009, 05:12:28 PM
Hah. :lulz:
Yep. I haven't raised my voice since they were 5 or so. Never let the little bastards see you sweat. No matter how pissed off you are, SMILE while you lower the boom.
I'm actually getting better at not showing angry when doling out the punishments. Practice makes perfect, right?
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 30, 2009, 05:03:58 PM
When disciplining my kids, I always have a big smile on my face, so they know that the misery is all theirs.
Sometimes I laugh.
Obviously, they've been too big to spank for 10 years or so, but I always wear a big grin when I mete out the extra housework, groundings, removal of power cords, etc.
Oh this works GREAT for 10 and up. :lulz:
Yes, this is normal but that doesn't mean this behavior should be tolerated. You should make sure they understand that screaming and crying is not going to get them what they want. You should reward them when they effectively communicate and when they kick and scream if they don't calm down just let them go until they're through. I've never spanked my kid, never really had to. When I take a serious tone he listens.
Every kid is different, so whatever works to tell them the behavior is unacceptable and they need to find an alternate form of communication is key. Letting them get away with it early on just to shut them up is the mistake I see A LOT of parents make. My kids got removed from ANY public scene, right away, and if it wasn't a swift swat to the butt, it was something else benignly physical that showed them we were paying attention, but not in a good way.
I'm not a parent, but I'm taking notes in case shit happens.
Just thinking about it makes me want to pressure them into being good at all the things I like. It is a dissonant feeling though, because I hate when my parents do that.
I was lucky with my daughter as a toddler, she wasn't much for tantrums but in all my friends kids it seems to get pretty common around age two, more so in boys than girls.
Physical discipline works on some kids and not on others, I'm sure you know way better than anyone else what reaction it gets from your kid.
I intend to get my kids to understand and accustomed to the 48 rules of power as soon as possible and think about what discipline strengthens those characteristics.
Have fun being put in a home at 55.
Whether that's bad really depends on the quality of the home. The place where my 84 year old grandmother is, is pretty fecking swote and I wish I'd be at such a place when I'm 84.
Homes in America have a reputation for being pretty terrible. They're basically treated like livestock, to hear it from some oldsters.
Quote from: Felix on January 03, 2010, 08:18:50 PM
Homes in America have a reputation for being pretty terrible. They're basically treated like livestock, to hear it from some oldsters.
I live in ireland, they CANT put me in a home
Welcome to the terrible twos!
I miss my monkey... He's with his daddy until tomorrow.