OK JUST KIDDING.
But it has crossed my mind more than once that he is hot hot hot and it always makes me a little uncomfortable to even have that thought. But then I was thinking, what would be the social ramifications of dating a stepsibling? It's not like we were raised together; I didn't even meet him until I was 20. So, it's not actually technically incest. So, why does it still seem so weird to think about it?
It's not just the genetic similarities that make it incest (at least in my mind). It's also the fact that you were raised together.
And also the fact that if you did, I really wouldn't know what to make of the situation. It would be a continuous loop for me trying to figure out what is up with that. Now imagine if it's you thinking the same loop, and actually being part of it too.
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
I already know that legally, it's not incest. But it vaguely creeps me out that I find my stepbrother attractive.
There's no shared DNA with a step-sibling. It may or may not be creepy depending on cultural mores and whether you were raised together in childhood or not, but it's definitely not incest.
Personally, if I had a super-hot step-sister who I hadn't ever even met until adulthood, well, I'd be on it like white on rice.
Of course, I was raised in a culture with minimal incest taboos. They all thought I was weird because I wouldn't have sex with any of my cousins, even the hot ones.
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:29:11 AM
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
Ah. Well, at that point, I think it's basically the title of step-brother that makes it weird. I guess if one found themselves seriously considering it, they could ask their parents for a courtesy temporary divorce and un-adoption if adoption by step parent is applicable?
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:39:02 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:29:11 AM
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
Ah. Well, at that point, I think it's basically the title of step-brother that makes it weird. I guess if one found themselves seriously considering it, they could ask their parents for a courtesy temporary divorce and un-adoption if adoption by step parent is applicable?
I am not asking my dad if I can fuck my stepbrother. We're like, 40.
I'd say don't be too worried about it. Recalling my by-now probably outdated psych classes, people tend to adhere to incest taboos when they're raised as siblings regardless of actual genetics. Siblings who have been separated since birth might find one another sexually attractive, while adopted kids tend not to see their genetically dissimilar siblings as potential mates. I'm too tired to cite sources, so anybody who wants to support or refute this point, please feel free.
On a side note, there are 18th/19th century pamphlets that argue that it's incest for a widower to marry his deceased wife's sister. This shit ain't simple and probably never has been.
Edited because I'm tired and was inadvertently redundant when I first posted.
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:41:18 AM
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:39:02 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:29:11 AM
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
Ah. Well, at that point, I think it's basically the title of step-brother that makes it weird. I guess if one found themselves seriously considering it, they could ask their parents for a courtesy temporary divorce and un-adoption if adoption by step parent is applicable?
I am not asking my dad if I can fuck my stepbrother. We're like, 40.
It was meant to be humorous.
I can't find anything logically wrong with the scenario. If there are no legal implications/genetic implications and you barely see each other, you're basically casual acquaintances. I personally wouldn't go for it, but that's just me.
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:48:43 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:41:18 AM
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:39:02 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:29:11 AM
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
Ah. Well, at that point, I think it's basically the title of step-brother that makes it weird. I guess if one found themselves seriously considering it, they could ask their parents for a courtesy temporary divorce and un-adoption if adoption by step parent is applicable?
I am not asking my dad if I can fuck my stepbrother. We're like, 40.
It was meant to be humorous.
As was my reply. :)
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:59:33 AM
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:48:43 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:41:18 AM
Quote from: Nephew Twiddleton on June 09, 2011, 12:39:02 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 12:29:11 AM
We weren't raised together; I didn't meet him until I was 20.
Ah. Well, at that point, I think it's basically the title of step-brother that makes it weird. I guess if one found themselves seriously considering it, they could ask their parents for a courtesy temporary divorce and un-adoption if adoption by step parent is applicable?
I am not asking my dad if I can fuck my stepbrother. We're like, 40.
It was meant to be humorous.
As was my reply. :)
It struck me as such, just wanted to cover my bases just in case. :wink:
Quote from: Rip City Hustle on June 09, 2011, 12:33:52 AM
There's no shared DNA with a step-sibling. It may or may not be creepy depending on cultural mores and whether you were raised together in childhood or not, but it's definitely not incest.
Personally, if I had a super-hot step-sister who I hadn't ever even met until adulthood, well, I'd be on it like white on rice.
Of course, I was raised in a culture with minimal incest taboos. They all thought I was weird because I wouldn't have sex with any of my cousins, even the hot ones.
The captain of the basketball team and the head cheerleader, in my high school, were first cousins. They were engaged until she got pregnant and disappeared to have an abortion and be shunned by everyone under the sun. He went off to college.
Quote from: Your Mom on June 08, 2011, 11:58:59 PM
OK JUST KIDDING.
But it has crossed my mind more than once that he is hot hot hot and it always makes me a little uncomfortable to even have that thought. But then I was thinking, what would be the social ramifications of dating a stepsibling? It's not like we were raised together; I didn't even meet him until I was 20. So, it's not actually technically incest. So, why does it still seem so weird to think about it?
I don't have any step-siblings so this is just conjecture, but if I had a hot stepbrother that I didn't meet until I was 20, I don't think I'd feel any familial connection to him and probably wouldn't hesitate to date him.
Quote from: Aloe on June 09, 2011, 04:35:41 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 08, 2011, 11:58:59 PM
OK JUST KIDDING.
But it has crossed my mind more than once that he is hot hot hot and it always makes me a little uncomfortable to even have that thought. But then I was thinking, what would be the social ramifications of dating a stepsibling? It's not like we were raised together; I didn't even meet him until I was 20. So, it's not actually technically incest. So, why does it still seem so weird to think about it?
I don't have any step-siblings so this is just conjecture, but if I had a hot stepbrother that I didn't meet until I was 20, I don't think I'd feel any familial connection to him and probably wouldn't hesitate to date him.
I didn't at first, but that was 20 years ago... the conditioning of thinking of him as my "stepbrother" and not "a hot guy my dad knows" is pretty entrenched now. It's funny though; if it was my dad's girlfriend's son, it wouldn't even be an issue. It's purely psychological.
The problem with dating your step brother is that if it ends badly you will still have to see each other and that might be awkward
I think it's fine.
Quote from: The Fred ⊂(◉‿◉)つ on June 09, 2011, 08:46:59 AM
The problem with dating your step brother is that if it ends badly you will still have to see each other and that might be awkward
That's the only real qualm I'd have with it.
I think the weird thing is that you have to explain that you didn't grow up together repeatedly.
"OH, SO HOW DID YOU MEET?!"
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"Oh we're brother and sister"
*tounges*
Quote from: Slyph on June 09, 2011, 10:59:05 AM
"Oh we're brother and sister"
*tounges*
"VERY FUNNY GUYS."
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"COME ON, TELL THE STORY WHILE I ABUSE THIS FISH."
Dating is out of the question, family bonds etc.
Occasionally sleeping with is fine, No genetic ties and didn't meet until 20 he's just some guy you know.
I don't know if this "Can We Date?" chart (http://www.themorningnews.org/images/TMN-CanWeDate.png) has been posted here, before.
It says no if your parents are still married to each other, probably for the reason that Fred mentioned.
You want to date someone you're not genetically related to? Ick.
Remember kids, you can only ensure the purity of the gene pool through dating blood relatives. If Ancient Egyptian Royalty taught us nothing else, it taught us this.
Quote from: Cain on June 09, 2011, 02:53:16 PM
You want to date someone you're not genetically related to? Ick.
Remember kids, you can only ensure the purity of the gene pool through dating blood relatives. If Ancient Egyptian Royalty taught us nothing else, it taught us this.
:squick:
Hm. No "squick" emote. Maybe this...
(http://www.smileyvault.com/albums/CBSA/smileyvault-cute-big-smiley-animated-005.gif)
Quote from: Cain on June 09, 2011, 02:53:16 PM
You want to date someone you're not genetically related to? Ick.
Remember kids, you can only ensure the purity of the gene pool through dating blood relatives. If Ancient Egyptian Royalty taught us nothing else, it taught us this.
My name is Charles II of Spain, and I endorse this.
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One of my best friends was in a relationship with a girl whose parents were in jail.
They broke up. But she remained friends with the family.
Later, the girl desperately needed insurance, so my buddy's mom adopted her (even though she was 19 at the time).
Later, my buddy was banging his sister.
That's really only the tip of the iceberg as to how Jerry Springer that particular situation got, but yo, that shit really happens!
My buddy came home one day and found his mom and his adopted sister / ex girlfriend had gone through his stuff and found some VHS tapes. It was some dirty-ass porn. So when he came home, they were sitting on the couch, watching his porn together and laughing.
He said it was one of the most disturbing moments of his entire life.
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 05:02:20 AM
Quote from: Aloe on June 09, 2011, 04:35:41 AM
Quote from: Your Mom on June 08, 2011, 11:58:59 PM
OK JUST KIDDING.
But it has crossed my mind more than once that he is hot hot hot and it always makes me a little uncomfortable to even have that thought. But then I was thinking, what would be the social ramifications of dating a stepsibling? It's not like we were raised together; I didn't even meet him until I was 20. So, it's not actually technically incest. So, why does it still seem so weird to think about it?
I don't have any step-siblings so this is just conjecture, but if I had a hot stepbrother that I didn't meet until I was 20, I don't think I'd feel any familial connection to him and probably wouldn't hesitate to date him.
I didn't at first, but that was 20 years ago... the conditioning of thinking of him as my "stepbrother" and not "a hot guy my dad knows" is pretty entrenched now. It's funny though; if it was my dad's girlfriend's son, it wouldn't even be an issue. It's purely psychological.
Yeah if you've known him with the title of "stepbrother" for 20 years now, I can see where that mental connection to him as family has been made.
Off topic - I've seen pics of you and definitely did not think of you as being 40. lol
Haha, thanks!
I say no, it's too soon for both of you and will only cause problems in the long run. Unless you see yourself building and maintaing a relationship with this guy?
Quote from: Khara on June 09, 2011, 03:54:35 PM
I say no, it's too soon for both of you and will only cause problems in the long run. Unless you see yourself building and maintaing a relationship with this guy?
No, clearly I'm not actually going to date him. But all else aside, I think the only reason it slightly sketches me out to think about it is the word "stepbrother".
Quote from: Your Mom on June 09, 2011, 04:04:41 PM
Quote from: Khara on June 09, 2011, 03:54:35 PM
I say no, it's too soon for both of you and will only cause problems in the long run. Unless you see yourself building and maintaing a relationship with this guy?
No, clearly I'm not actually going to date him. But all else aside, I think the only reason it slightly sketches me out to think about it is the word "stepbrother".
I can understand that.
I think the point about having to see him on a regular basis even if things kind of turned sour is a pretty valid point.
The whole scenario brings back memories from my cultural anthropology class when we talked about different concepts of incest. I specifically remember when we talked about how in some cultures you are not considered related to half-siblings if they are half siblings via your father. It made me think about my own half-sisters and wonder "Would I hit it?"
I decided to quit thinking along those lines before I got myself into trouble. I was ruled far too much by my libido at that time... :oops: