I'm not an overly sentimental person. But it is perhaps a mistake to neglect the importance of certain holydays, traditions, and other repeatable and value-driven, lunar-oriented frenzy. If you are outnumbered 7 billion to one, smile, right? And try to smile on time.
I used to hate that, now I just don't care.
But as my wedding approaches I find things are kinda hard to plan out when you don't stick to these basic traditions. Traditions are like markers made and shared so that people know where to go.
What is perhaps not so shocking is this silly little religion seems to be important enough to me that I think to myself, ''Eris probably wasn't invited to that wedding because the other gods remembered the parties she had actually attended and thought it best for all involved.''
Now what were THOSE parties like?
The hardest part is finding the right person to officiate the ceremony. People usually have a pastor or something, other go the judge route but, meh. Because of my state laws anyone can officiate, the trouble is there's no one here I WANT to do that.
In fact, the only sort of person is want to do it would be another Discordian. And I'd want them to put the heat on.
Is it silly to seek out ways to cram Discordianism in certain times in your life?
Do you ever do this?
Would you invite what you love most about this bullshit into the most important parts of your life?
Quote from: Alty on November 30, 2012, 08:01:17 PM
Is it silly to seek out ways to cram Discordianism in certain times in your life?
Do you ever do this?
Would you invite what you love most about this bullshit into the most important parts of your life?
In this particular case, I'd have to know what your SO thought about the whole thing.
Marriages are a funny thing. They're based on tradition, and for very, very good reason. Not saying you can't buck the tradition, but there should be a sound reason for doing so.
As for Eris, just leave one chair marked for her at the reception, if you know what's good for you.
I've talked with her about all of this, she's a very open-minded person. :)
She is most certainly committed to the having of the fun. Even when its not exactly fun.
ONE OF US ONE OF US.
Quote from: Alty on November 30, 2012, 08:08:14 PM
I've talked with her about all of this, she's a very open-minded person. :)
I'd question that very carefully. Find out what she
wants, not what she's
okay with.The ceremony is 99% for the bride. The other 1% would be for the mothers, in most cases.
I wrote our ceremony, and was very careful to include Eris without directly mentioning her. The text was about a balance of order and disorder, of a universe where the individual created a meaninful narrative, and had us setting things on fire, drinking, and smashing stuff (all in a tasteful manner, of course).
In short, make it something meaningful, and not just silly fun. That, you can leave to the reception. The ceremony should resonate.
What Roger & LMNO said.
As long as you are both on the same page with what you want to do, then, that's that. If you want to do traditional stuff, do it. Want to throw some Eris in, go ahead.
My one issue with (some) weddings and (some) traditions is partaking in something because you think you HAVE to, not because you want to. I've seen some having a traditional wedding and thriving on it, loving it, and others seem like they're just slogging through because it's expected of them, or "we only did x because we HAD to".
Granted if/when I get married I would want the people that I invited to feel included because, well, why else would I invite them? But it still boils down to what you (both) want.
Getting married is invoking Eris. Always. All weddings. No exceptions.
That is excellent advice all around.
Keep in mind, Roger, when I thought of killing a bear a primary focus of the ceremony she was enthusiastic. I also passingly said that it would be awesome and unlike anything other if YOU were to officiate it, and she said that would be super awesome. She has heard some of your voicemails.
I don't think I would have asked anyone to marry me if it wasn't a 50/50 split of what we both want, or near as we can get it.
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (life continues) on November 30, 2012, 08:25:58 PM
The ceremony should resonate.
This has me thinking about the whole thing differently, thank you.
Quote from: Alty on December 01, 2012, 12:09:15 AM
That is excellent advice all around.
Keep in mind, Roger, when I thought of killing a bear a primary focus of the ceremony she was enthusiastic.
YOU ARE UNWORTHY OF THIS WOMAN. SEND HER TO ARIZONA.