http://www.today.com/moms/pinterest-stress-afflicts-nearly-half-moms-survey-says-1C9850275
You know, there's so much low-grade horror in there, I honestly don't know where to begin.
QuoteWhile Glennon Doyle Melton's family photo looks idyllic, in reality, she said, she felt really sick that day, cried in the car on the way to the park, and had to bribe the kids to sit and smile for the picture.
I mean, examine that for a moment. Misery...for the sake of
looking good on a website.
Act Happy. Or else.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on May 09, 2013, 07:05:26 PM
http://www.today.com/moms/pinterest-stress-afflicts-nearly-half-moms-survey-says-1C9850275
You know, there's so much low-grade horror in there, I honestly don't know where to begin.
:lulz:
I have a Pinterest account with like 400 followers. I never check it or update it. I don't understand Pinterest
at all.
Quote from: M. Nigel Salt on May 09, 2013, 07:13:55 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on May 09, 2013, 07:05:26 PM
http://www.today.com/moms/pinterest-stress-afflicts-nearly-half-moms-survey-says-1C9850275
You know, there's so much low-grade horror in there, I honestly don't know where to begin.
:lulz:
I have a Pinterest account with like 400 followers. I never check it or update it. I don't understand Pinterest at all.
It's another set of unattainable goals for people who feel guilty for not being perfect.
It's a treadmill, and behind that treadmill is a nervous breakdown waiting for you to stumble.
If you aren't perfect and showing off how perfect you are, how are you going to inspire shame others into being perfect too? But then what if someone is MORE perfect than you? And you can't catch up!? That means YOU'RE the loser. OMG NO, NO NO!!
Life is just so hard.
Pinterest was useful for coming up with good cookie ideas, I'll give it that much.
My psycho ex-housemate is totally that kind of person. She used to do things that look good in pictures, like washing dishes with my kids (managing to break a whole bunch of my nicest, most expensive kitchenwares), baking with them (until they started telling her that they didn't want any cookies in order to get out of it), walking my dogs with them (until my pit bull pulled the leash out of her hand and tried to play with a terrified dachshund, inspiring the dachshund's owner to scream epithets at her and threaten her with a lawsuit), and taking them to the park (until they started avoiding her because they didn't want to go to the park).
Then she accused me of being a shitty mom because I didn't want to do any of that stuff. :lulz:
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on May 09, 2013, 07:15:28 PM
Quote from: M. Nigel Salt on May 09, 2013, 07:13:55 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on May 09, 2013, 07:05:26 PM
http://www.today.com/moms/pinterest-stress-afflicts-nearly-half-moms-survey-says-1C9850275
You know, there's so much low-grade horror in there, I honestly don't know where to begin.
:lulz:
I have a Pinterest account with like 400 followers. I never check it or update it. I don't understand Pinterest at all.
It's another set of unattainable goals for people who feel guilty for not being perfect.
It's a treadmill, and behind that treadmill is a nervous breakdown waiting for you to stumble.
This makes me want to start putting up pictures. Nigel-style. :lol:
QuoteShe's still a fan of the site, but she's learned not to let herself think that the artfully curated photos represent anyone's reality. "Pinterest is largely a site of unrealized dreams."
Andersen said she's heard other moms say self-deprecating things like, "It was just a little party, nothing I'd put on Pinterest" -- as if simply throwing an enjoyable kids' party isn't enough anymore.
Concern about being judged on the internet. If somewhere you choose to interact with is actively making you feel like shit why go there?
That's got to be the mark of a fool. It's a fucking social website, not the only job in town.
I wasn't even aware that Pininterest was like that. I think I have a few band pics and one or two other things in mine. Haven't been there enough to even NOTICE the baked goods. It does seem like a "women's" site though. I never get any notifications on my facebook page that guys pinned anything. That imbalance is probably why I don't bother...who needs an online version of "The View", Redbook or Lifetime? :x :x :x
Here is the thing about being a "perfect mom". Your house can be spotless and your cookie jar full and your craft room impeccably organized, you can make Martha Stewart dinners every night, take your kids to the zoo on Saturdays, etc etc etc, and it isn't going to make your kids happy or well-adjusted or even make them LIKE you.
What will is hanging out with your kids doing stuff THEY want to do, and talking to them about stuff that genuinely interests you. Don't fucking humor them if they're yammering on about a video game or TV show you have no interest in. They can tell. They can detect your boredom right through your facade of pretending-to-give-a-shit. So tell them you aren't interested in it because you don't play it or know anything about it, and see if you can find a subject that both of you are interested in.
That's it. The whole magic.
Oh, and have a fucking life and your own interests. People who devote EVERY IOTA OF THEIR PERSONAL BEINGS to their children are boring as fuck, and that translates to their own children ultimately being bored by them. If other people don't find you interesting, your kids won't either, so as soon as they're old enough to start wanting to spend time with interesting people, they won't want to spend time with you.
Gosh, it's almost like they're people!
Nigel, you are the best and all of your mom-ing is the best and anyone who says otherwise is obviously insane.
But not devoting EVERY IOTA OF YOUR PERSONAL BEING to making PRETTIER SHIT FOR THE SCHOOL CHRISTMAS PARTY THAN THE OTHER MOMS DID isn't PARENTING!!!!!
Fuck 'em. I made peanut butter brownies and sent 'em in cheap tupperware and every one of those ugly mofos got eaten. They picked the CRUMBS out.
Quote from: Queen Gogira Pennyworth, BSW on May 09, 2013, 07:29:48 PM
Nigel, you are the best and all of your mom-ing is the best and anyone who says otherwise is obviously insane.
Awww! :)
Quote from: stelz on May 09, 2013, 07:38:55 PM
But not devoting EVERY IOTA OF YOUR PERSONAL BEING to making PRETTIER SHIT FOR THE SCHOOL CHRISTMAS PARTY THAN THE OTHER MOMS DID isn't PARENTING!!!!!
Fuck 'em. I made peanut butter brownies and sent 'em in cheap tupperware and every one of those ugly mofos got eaten. They picked the CRUMBS out.
:lulz:
That's how to do it. Some people value style over substance.
Kids aren't dumb. They go for the substance, every time.
Social internet is an abomination. If anything, it makes me long for the time when the Deep Ones decide to reclaim California, because then Silicon Valley twerps will be sacrified to the Great God Dagon, rather than inflicting pointless status signalling and vanity publishing under the guise of "microblogging" and "picture sharing" on the internet at large.
We need to go back to the good old days of the antisocial internet.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on May 09, 2013, 07:09:43 PM
QuoteWhile Glennon Doyle Melton's family photo looks idyllic, in reality, she said, she felt really sick that day, cried in the car on the way to the park, and had to bribe the kids to sit and smile for the picture.
I mean, examine that for a moment. Misery...for the sake of looking good on a website.
That this has anything to do with the internet is incidental. It's just another expression of Americans placing unsustainable amounts of energy into our egos and image more than actually grappling with the realities that we're working longer hours for less pay, that our cheap goods are cheap because of cruelty, and that being a human goddamn being means that our emotions ought to include a wide range of feelings, even disturbing and uncomfortable ones.
this is genuinely creepy shit. :aaa: :eek:
The human psyche is a scary place.
Yikes. Society of the Spectacle, much?