Myself and the Motherfucking Messiah/scruffy Scots oik are moving because we are sick sick sick of housemate drama.
EVERY THIRD PERSON HERE HAS BEEN A NIGHTMARE!
I had a tumblr meltdown with moving anxiety earlier. We're moving, deposit is safe, as the official deposit scheme from the govt is in my name after the fiasco of moving in here. Using my old landlord to get this place and paying out all the cash to secure it, then having it paid back has despite the initial grumble, worked out in this new improved
TM fucked up situation in my favour. As does the medical letter that the doc has promised me.
Friday, we thought he was moving out. Now, he wants to stay.
For this the useless sack of feed tube needs_
This is the draft list I came up with
Quote2 new housemates (in full time work)
Raise new deposit and first month's rent in full because new deposit scheme form and such will be needed, as the current one is in my name and non-transferrable.
get new internet
new mattress
fridge freezer
microwave
kettle
kitchen kit
pay back debt to Steve (minus any deposit paid)*
change supplier details for utilities and council tax on 1st October
lounge furniture (outside of anything we leave behind)
this currently stands at approx £300
This is pee my pants fucking hilarious. I don't even think he'll manage to get the landlords permission to start with, and I'd feel like an utter dick passing him off onto some other poor schmuck. The boy is a walking money pit, has history of domestic abuse and shirks all housework.
needless to say today is the day that I find out that one of my freinds of a friend (my femininja friend Joy's friend..) is looking for somewhere to live and as they (not sure which pronoun they prefer..) are looking for somewhere to live, and is in a living with an ex type situation. but with a housemate that doesn't want to budge. Similar values and gets on with your friends in a new housemate is a close second to no housemate, even if the intertubes have been the sole form of communication.
Oh and I have to look for work at the moment too. Which is great when you are too stressed to concentrate. I did manage to hash out the transferrable skills list though, which is a small victory.
and on a day like today, I'll take the small victories and "well at least the bottom line and my ass is covered money wise."
Current predictions for me and Payne are that feed tube is going to crash and burn spectacularly.
More news after the agent's meeting with us tomorrow.
Guy is literally busting my balls here.
:lulz: You've got to keep us updated on this, Pixie. Sounds like a trainwreck in progress.
Quoteand on a day like today, I'll take the small victories and "well at least the bottom line and my ass is covered money wise."
I would count that as a large victory or at least a regular size one.
Also whenever you call your housemate feedtube I still think of this:
(http://i41.tinypic.com/2d17ka8.jpg)
Feedtube needs to raise £500 for first month's rent and deposit and find .
to pay Payne £450 plus any bills minus any deposit paid.
and to replace all the white goods and electricals, except the cooker, and replace his mattress.
and we will be taking the internet.
landlords agent (rather lovely lady. Reminds me of a decade-younger Asian version of my mother) laid out what we need to do, and is amicable about the whole deal and not all about the money. A lot about the money, but not all.
We need to dissuade him is the thinking of myself, payne and the landlord's agent Mrs V (reading between the lines of what the lady said.)
She is coming back in 10 days to find out if we have managed it or chris has managed to find 2 people with furniture, electricals and the deposit and first month's rent.
Really hoping he realises the enormity of what is going on and how much me and Steve have invested in this going off without a hitch.
I am in anxiety mode again.
Quote from: Pixie on August 20, 2013, 11:26:12 PM
Really hoping he realises the enormity of what is going on and how much me and Steve have invested in this going off without a hitch.
I am in anxiety mode again.
Will he be able to fuck this up for you, or will you guys be OK even if he totally fails?
FFS what a asshole.
Quote from: TALK TO ME ABOUT YOUR GENITALS on August 20, 2013, 11:34:26 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 20, 2013, 11:26:12 PM
Really hoping he realises the enormity of what is going on and how much me and Steve have invested in this going off without a hitch.
I am in anxiety mode again.
Will he be able to fuck this up for you, or will you guys be OK even if he totally fails?
if he's unable to find new folks and all the other shit that goes with that money wise me and Payne will lose the deposit and be liable for 2/3 of the rent here.
Quote from: Pixie on August 20, 2013, 11:54:50 PM
Quote from: TALK TO ME ABOUT YOUR GENITALS on August 20, 2013, 11:34:26 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 20, 2013, 11:26:12 PM
Really hoping he realises the enormity of what is going on and how much me and Steve have invested in this going off without a hitch.
I am in anxiety mode again.
Will he be able to fuck this up for you, or will you guys be OK even if he totally fails?
if he's unable to find new folks and all the other shit that goes with that money wise me and Payne will lose the deposit and be liable for 2/3 of the rent here.
Oh FUCK. Crossing my fingers!
I HAVE POSITIVE FUCKING NEWS FOR A CHANGE.
assbag is leaving, and whether or not we get the new gaff, there is a friend of a very good friend who is a feminist that needs a new place to live and works part time. I've offered to help with any rent assistance paperwork needed and whichever way the wind blows looks like me and Payne are sorted.
I put this notice on FB
Quotehey! My non-rent paying housemate has decided to leave and take his shit with him, but he's got a history of being a bit leary/gobby/potentially violent and my health can't take a confrontation at the moment. So the first thing I need to ask is if he lets us know when he's coming to get his shit (door is on the chain atm) and hand back his key is if there is anyone available to come over and act as a buffer this week (i'm also going to ask my Dad & Mum's hubby) just in case he decides to be a wanker about the whole deal/act as a deterrent. (will make food and tea for volunteers)
Secondly i find out if i've got the new place on friday and if i don't we'll desperately need a new housemate who pays rent and on time and realises bills aren't an abstract concept and doesn't need nagging to do their fair share of the cleaning. First month's rent and deposit will be £485 and bills are about 40 quid a month excluding council tax and the electric meter (includes broadband) If you know someone who wants a small double room in Bitterne let me know! (i'll also need references if I don't know them very well/they are on benefits)
any and all help given will be appreciated.
and I've already got offers of someone to be here in case he gets radge.
That does seem positive. Good luck with the new place.
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 01:03:19 PM
there is a friend of a very good friend who is a feminist that needs a new place to live and works part time.
You may find that to be a problem in the medium run.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on August 27, 2013, 05:22:34 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 01:03:19 PM
there is a friend of a very good friend who is a feminist that needs a new place to live and works part time.
You may find that to be a problem in the medium run.
they are entitled to housing benefit if they work part time, and I can help out with forms and such.
I'd rather have someone with similar values and some kind of part time work going on than an unemployed radge bastard.
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 07:00:12 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on August 27, 2013, 05:22:34 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 01:03:19 PM
there is a friend of a very good friend who is a feminist that needs a new place to live and works part time.
You may find that to be a problem in the medium run.
they are entitled to housing benefit if they work part time, and I can help out with forms and such.
I'd rather have someone with similar values and some kind of part time work going on than an unemployed radge bastard.
Well, I was talking about the values thing, not the employment thing.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on August 27, 2013, 07:01:00 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 07:00:12 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on August 27, 2013, 05:22:34 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 01:03:19 PM
there is a friend of a very good friend who is a feminist that needs a new place to live and works part time.
You may find that to be a problem in the medium run.
they are entitled to housing benefit if they work part time, and I can help out with forms and such.
I'd rather have someone with similar values and some kind of part time work going on than an unemployed radge bastard.
Well, I was talking about the values thing, not the employment thing.
I won't have to explain why rape jokes aren't cool, I won't be scared of a larger person yelling at me/ not understanding of my mental health stuff/ having had a history of putting knives to their partner's throat and, there'll be a level at which I can relax and Payne by extension won't feel like a referee.
there's no guarantee 100% that there won't be issues, I'm not that naive to think it'll be sunshine and unicorn farts but on the upside causal racism and sexism and other bigotries are less likely to wind me the fuck up.
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 07:46:03 PM
I won't have to explain why rape jokes aren't cool, I won't be scared of a larger person yelling at me/ not understanding of my mental health stuff/ having had a history of putting knives to their partner's throat and, there'll be a level at which I can relax and Payne by extension won't feel like a referee.
Those are all big plusses.
What MIGHT be a concern, though, is this: fellow members of a cause compete. They also fall out over trivial differences in their interpretation of the cause.
Doesn't matter what the cause is, either.
But I agree that you are 169% ahead of the prior situation.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on August 27, 2013, 07:50:02 PM
Quote from: Pixie on August 27, 2013, 07:46:03 PM
I won't have to explain why rape jokes aren't cool, I won't be scared of a larger person yelling at me/ not understanding of my mental health stuff/ having had a history of putting knives to their partner's throat and, there'll be a level at which I can relax and Payne by extension won't feel like a referee.
Those are all big plusses.
What MIGHT be a concern, though, is this: fellow members of a cause compete. They also fall out over trivial differences in their interpretation of the cause.
Doesn't matter what the cause is, either.
But I agree that you are 169% ahead of the prior situation.
Yup. And that will in turn make it possible for me to concentrate on actually getting this whole finding a job thing, and I can stop feeling like a waste of air and space, and start saving for a pension and such shit.
I'm pulling for you, Pixie!
Quote from: Surprise Happy Endings Whether You Want Them Or Not on August 27, 2013, 09:37:22 PM
I'm pulling for you, Pixie!
honestly, it's been so long since I had a situation where either outcome is a vast improvement on the current one that i'm waiting for *something* to go tits up.
It's like I've forgotten not-stressed even exists.
:horrormirth:
The gf has left housemate. the gf allegedly cleared out his bank account and ran off with another dude.
no.1 and no.3 aren't shit I can really be mad about. 2 was not on, really (if of course feedtube is not being a lying bastard)
A contrite housemate calls us and says he;'s going to come over and talk to us tonight and Payne stressed that we need advance notice or imma freak out. I got woken up by his key in the lock whilst Payne is out at work and promptly went into meltdown and am hiding in my room. and he fails to understand that if I'm sprung with surprises and lack of communication on any changes of plan I will freak out.. he's still moving out. this is non negotiable. We need to get him back to his mothers somehow, and if that means sticking him on a coach for 40 quid then hey fucking ho, that's how it's going down.
Potential new landlord hasn't checked a single bloody reference. I'll find out more about that tomorrow.
Potential housemate has all their moving costs sorted out but works a while away from here. Not impossible with public transport, and apparently will still cost less than they are paying now.
More news later!
I'm also fuckign knackered because stress is fucking with my sleeeeep
It sounds like you may need an emergency chocolate shipment :horrormirth:
MOAR DRAMA!
Shit head disappeared at some point, and my mates from my Monday Night game, the lovely husband and wife team come over to keep me company and make sure I wasn't alone with the fuck. Apparently his daughter has been taken into the care of the local authority, and is in temporary foster care. He was banned from contacting his ex or else babby would get taken into care.
he speaks to Social services, and mentions that his ex was in a women's refuge. I a this point, leave the room because this is the first time I've officially heard from anyone (despite knowing the skinny a while back) it and I didn't want to be in the same room as him. I let him finish his conversation and Payne starts speaking about the tenancy here.
I wander back into the lounge and something in my brain decides it's time to get candid.
I tell him from the first few days after he moved in when i heard that there was this problem with Social Services that I instantly knew I was going to regret this, and his inability to keep us updated about money and anything, really was fucking with my head. I then start on the business of the refuge, and he denies being an abuser, and I LOSE IT. surprisingly, in a somewhat controlled manner. i tell him my Mum was in a refuge and my dad used to kick the living shit out of her, that as an active feminist THIS SHIT IS WHAT I FUCKING KNOW, and that refuges DO NOT just take people for frivolous reasons, and that his bullshit was exactly that. Bullshit.
I'm going to stay at a friends house on the weekdays and come back on the weekends when payne is here because I am not staying in the house with an abuser, and I need to contact (the quite firm option) potential new housemate as we didn't get the 2 bedroom place we were looking at. he's signed paperwork to say that he is leaving so the tenancy can be changed.
Oh. apparently he had no money to call or warn us he was coming back but had money to buy 2 cans of beer.
fucking selfish man-child.