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Yeah, it's a red flag. I could've worded it better.

Of course not.
Your bf is exhibiting a symptom though. Which isn't a diagnosis but it's a pain in the ass, I lived with somebody who revied everything.

There are lots of things that can cause that particular symptom. We've already got a good handle on the things that are wrong with our brains, and it's kind of insulting to drop the "narcissist" diagnosis, even as a possibility, on someone you know nothing about.

Sorry. Thought you wanted input.

Yup. Yup. Heya, Kingyak, do you have Juggalo-themed gangs down there?

Around here it's more Toby Keith-themed gangs.

Of course not.
Your bf is exhibiting a symptom though. Which isn't a diagnosis but it's a pain in the ass, I lived with somebody who revied everything.

This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.

Edit: Sorry about so many posts...

Ooooh, I have a  terrible story for you. You don't want to know this, actually. Come to think to it. I'll just say that when I smiled, you could see the stitches.

Basically, you'd better go to the dentist.

My teeth feel better now. Ooh, ooh, what's your story?

I knocked my right front tooth on the edge of my cereal bowl drinking the milk, and it was incredibly painful and sensitive for a couple of days. Then it was less sensitive and I thought it was better. But then, a swelling formed, way up under my right nostril. Turned out that the whack had traumatised the root enough to kill it, and I had to have that tooth root-canaled. And then I got a bone infection and they had to go in through my gum and clean it out, and I had several delightful black stitches in my gum for a couple of weeks.

You couldn't really see them when I smiled though, that was a lie.

I had a capped tooth abscess in the same spot. I felt like the elephant man: "I AM NOT AN ANIMAL..." 
Antibiotics then a root canal from a dentist with fat hairy hands. They always have fat hairy teabagging hands. 

Has anyone registered? If you go in, does it work anything like facebook or is it just a forum?

I try to keep in mind how easy it is for people to re-write or screw up their own memories without realizing it. The Boyfriend has an awesome story about a wedding he went to, and literally not one part of it actually happened the way he remembers.*  Also, I happen to have the kind of shitty memory where I can say something to someone and be asked immediately afterwards what I just said and have no fucking clue. So I guess maybe I'm more forgiving than I ought to be just from being fucked up myself.



*But it's an awesome story, and the groom in question has agreed that it's far more entertaining to tell it that way

That's symptomatic of a disorder.
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html

"The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. It can be trivial (e.g., about what they want for lunch) or it can be serious (e.g., about whether or not they love you). When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! They will contradict FACTS. They will lie to you about things that you did together. They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy. "

We had a similar fucknozzle at university. Thankfully I didn't take his class, but he almost cost several of my friends their degree (or at least, it felt like it at the time) by marking essays as '0' if he detected a single error in referencing.

I believe that the decision was overturned after class rebellion at the fact that referencing was only allowed, by University regulations, to account for 10 per cent of the grade of the paper, but he caused a LOT of stress to a lot of students.

Yes. This crazy woman is like that. Dinged 25% for turning in a paper after class instead of before, unrealistic expectations, delusions of grandeur, poor communication, etc.

SHE'S A MAVRIK

a-ha

http://cnnpressroom.blogs.cnn.com/2012/03/13/cnn-legal-contributor-on-fl-shooting-of-trayvon-martin-stand-your-ground-law-moves-castle-doctrine-to-the-street/

...The police have said Mr. [George] Zimmerman, when he was questioned, indicated that he was acting in self-defense, that [Martin] had attacked him and that he had the right to protect himself with a weapon. And Ashleigh, I have to tell you, Florida is one of about 15 states in the United States that have something called a 'Stand Your Ground' law.... And it's very easy to assert self-defense in Florida. This law was signed by Governor Jeb Bush in 2005, and it changed the law in Florida. It said basically that even if you're outside of your home, if you think you're under attack and you have to protect yourself, you can use deadly physical force if you're in fear. You don't have to run or retreat."

...even if the shooter initiated the contact?

This law is fucking begging for shit like this. You know what also says you don't have to run or retreat? Not having a law saying you have to run or retreat. Or here's a thought--write a homicide statute that includes: "Except in cases of self-defense" without the fucking laundry list of situations where it's cool to waste someone. I'm fairly sure we all know what self-defense is, and I'm quite positive it ain't some sketch-ball Neighborhood Watch fucker rolling up on a "suspicious black teenager" carrying skittles and an iced tea.

--Trip-0, you were wondering about why some laws are vaguely worded?

So all you have to do is have a concealed firearm, start a fight with someone, and you can get away with as many murders as you want?

If you're a white guy in a gated community in a red state, yeah.

What Net said.
Loyalty is great until it degenerates into dysfunction and codependency.

Sounds like you learned already. Well, I might add. 

Yep, not even manipulation 101. Just something to make jerks feel like masterminds until they screw it up. The guys who buy this crap are the ones being manipulated.

Which is actually kind of LAIL. 

Holy fuck, I've seen the apocalypse. 

We have a WINNAR. 
He's an expert on Native American spirituality because he FISHES with one.
Or maybe just read a book by Brooke Medicine Eagle or somebody else on the AIM shitlist.

Alabama isn't as metropolitan or diverse as Florida, so they have an excuse...
No, scratch that. There's NO fucking excuse.