Trying to figure out ways to get it through my husband's brain that it's not viable for me to take the bus here like it was in RI. The East Coast infrastructure is far fucking superior to the West Coast when it comes to public transportation. His argument is, "So, you just plan for that extra hour or two. Big deal." Plus the 20 minutes in Southwestern heat to walk to the bus stop at the top of the hill.
YES BIG DEAL. I am NOT taking a bus for an hour and a half when I can drive there in 10 fucking minutes. He has a motorized bike, he made it in order to commute back and forth to work, but alas, it takes a whole hour instead of a half hour! *gasp* AND HE JUST LEGIT CAN'T HANDLE, but you know, I should take the bus to the light rail, which takes an hour, when the nearest stop is 3 minutes away by car. The bike is also broken. He has the parts to fix it, and has for about a month, but he won't do it, because he's gotten so used to having the car. But you know, now I'm working, and I need it, and he's freaking out.
The only thing I can think of us take the car away and hide it while I'm in South Dakota, and let him fend for himself. I'm sure that bike would get fixed awfully fast.
He should have put the money into the other car, and shipped it here when he had the chance, but nooooooo...It's sitting in the long term lot at the base back east, while he continues to wreck my Subaru by not getting the brakes fixed, and not fixing the soft hose, and not getting oil changes, and then yells at me when I talk about budgeting money to fix it when "he can do it himself." HE WON'T EVEN FIX HIS OWN FUCKING BIKE.
This is getting out of hand, it's not fair to me to have to get up at 5am to take him to work so I can have my damn car.
I have GOT to find a way to get this through his head without resorting to something cruel or drastic, because that's not nice or how marriages work, but he has to experience the inconvenience himself in order to fix the problem. Fucking engineers.