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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 14, 2017, 08:30:35 am »
You'd think this shit would stop surprising me eventually, but once again something I loved so dearly has become something that just reminds me of my biggest failure.

So. Peace out, PD. It's been a wild ride these last 13 years. We had some times, huh?

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 13, 2017, 06:08:51 am »
ECH, I wanted to add that if I ever come across like a jerk because I disagree or contradict you about something, in the matter of child custody and coparenting in particular, I just want you to know that I am 100% in your corner and anything I say regarding this is because I want you and your kid to have the best possible outcome.

No worries, I understand that I am not in an objective head space about this shit right now and I actually really appreciate you being a voice of reason especially since you have experience with this shit. So thank you!

I just worry that it's easy to cross the line from venting about a shitty situation to sounding like some goddamn MRA asshole and I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't even remotely veering into that territory. I'll support that child above and beyond what's just necessary whether a court tells me to or not, but I'm a primate and I prefer the illusion of control y'know?

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 11, 2017, 07:40:36 pm »
Didn't someone also send some of Roger's stuff to his former boss?

I'd hate to think we should all start scrubbing our posts.

I'm assuming it's the same person. There can't be 2 separate people that butthurt and awful.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 11, 2017, 06:23:37 pm »
And yeah, I get that ultimately I am responsible for the consequences of my own actions. Thing is, the "actions" this is presumably a consequence of never actually happened in real life the way they did in the narrated version. That was the one thing I took artistic license with because when I wrote it the real way it seemed like a chunk of moralistic dissonance in an otherwise perfectly noir-ish real-life story.

Joke's on me and I can't stop laughing.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 11, 2017, 06:19:24 pm »
Nah, at least my kid's mom is a great mom. But I feel like if she's gonna put herself in a position where she has to do school full time and work to pay bills that I'm better equipped to do most of the childcare right now. Also the part where I want things to remain amicable and for us both to be involved in the kid's life daily or almost-daily and I'm TERRIFIED that she's planning to move out of state when the school year is over.

As for the mole, well, if I can't follow the trail of crumbs I'll just nuke my shit from orbit and never log in again. Too little, too late, since it's apparently already cost me my family and my child a stable loving 2 parent home. So I hope you feel really good about yourself, whoever you are.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 11, 2017, 05:59:39 pm »
In related news, it turns out that somebody here has either been forwarding things I have written here to my child's mother or has been linking her to pages with my content.

:lulz:

Somebody is gonna get to see what "full potato" looks like.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 11, 2017, 05:47:59 pm »
No matter what people's principles are when they come to other people, everybody makes exceptions for themselves. Everybody believes that they are, and deserve to be, treated like the exception.

I assume that's directed at me, I think I may not have made myself understood very well. I don't view myself as any sort of exception, I view WA's way of dealing with this stuff in the legal system as antiquated and inflexible. I'd be going for full custody if I were in a state where I had a fighting chance at it, and not out of spite or butthurt but because I really just want what's best for my child and think I am currently in a better situation to provide that for her financially and emotionally.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 10, 2017, 06:04:15 pm »
I do, but the reality is that no matter what I'll be the one spending nearly 100% of the money on the kid's day-to-day living expenses even if she's only with me 3 days of the week. And I've been completely financially supporting her and babymamma since she was born. Got no problem with that. But I shouldn't have to pay for rent and bills of someone who's decided to voluntarily break up a family unit and put themselves in a financially precarious position. If she can't keep a roof over her own head she's always welcome in my home, but I'm more than willing to have full custody of the kid so fuck equating her questionable choices with my child's necessities. Basically, I'm willing to spend every last penny supporting that kid but I'm not trying to have the state tell me to cut a monthly check for babymamma support.

I get why the system is set up the way it is, but there's no reason it can't be flexible enough to recognize the difference between me and some deadbeat shitweasel.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 10, 2017, 04:11:46 pm »
It's cool that you've been able to talk with a lawyer about this stuff. I've had to suck it up and not see my children very often because I haven't been able to afford one.

Instead I've been channeling my rage into learning software engineering and web technologies. Within a few years I'm going to have full custody of both kids and their mothers are going to suddenly know how I've felt for years.

I'm going to continue to try the diplomatic route so there will be a long email trail of evidence when I finally can afford to bring the motherfuckin ruckus. Best of luck man. I really hope things work out better for you than they did for me.

I'm fortunate to have a friend in the field, but he's not in my immediate area so the advice is free but that's all I get. I'll have to find a local shyster and pony up some scrill if it comes to that.

Sucks you got boned. Good on you for staying reasonable and taking the care to compile a paper trail.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 10, 2017, 04:09:01 pm »
Women are made of much sterner stuff than we are.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 09, 2017, 08:52:00 pm »
I'll try not to bristle at the implication that I didn't already look into this. My information came from a practitioner of family law, but thanks for your input. The joint parenting plan still carries a designation of primary residential parent and secondary residential parent and even though both are considered legal custodial parents there are some important differences. I've been advised that I should not completely discount the "nuclear option", which would be to rent a room in Oregon for a month, take her there, and preemptively file in Oregon. I'm not inclined to do it, but the fact that an attorney familiar with case law in both states seems to think it's a reasonable option is telling.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 09, 2017, 07:44:22 pm »
Also, if it goes to court the state will sue me for child support by default because baby girl is on state health care. I'm perfectly willing to spend every last penny I have on my child but I don't at all like the idea of being required to just cut a check with no say as to how it's spent. I understand there are plenty of shitheads out there for whom such requirements are necessary for the child's well being. I am not one of them, and though her mom is a great mother, she doesn't always have long-term big picture stuff in focus as well as I do. If the state gets involved they won't, for example, allow some of my child support to be put into an interest-bearing account for the purpose of being maybe able to afford a few years of Montessori school at the start of her educational career.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 09, 2017, 07:17:49 pm »
Dpends on your definition of "ultimately", I guess. Some day we'll all be stardust again, so yes.

But in the short term, maybe not so much. I fear I may soon need a custody lawyer, and if you're a father in WA that's not a good spot to be in, legally speaking.

Oh, no. :( I thought WA was a coparenting state like Oregon is. I'm sorry to hear about that.

There's no actual joint custody in WA, they have you do a "parenting plan" that the court signs off on and even though you are both legally custodial parents the state designates one parent as the primary and one as the secondary. She'll be the primary by default and the primary can legally move out of state with the child with virtually no legal recourse for me. I will not have that same right. Oregon is MUCH more equitable in such matters.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 09, 2017, 08:49:25 am »
Dpends on your definition of "ultimately", I guess. Some day we'll all be stardust again, so yes.

But in the short term, maybe not so much. I fear I may soon need a custody lawyer, and if you're a father in WA that's not a good spot to be in, legally speaking.

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The Secrets Forum / Re: Open Bar: Fake News, Fake Bar
« on: February 08, 2017, 07:16:05 pm »
To be honest, I'd go back and finish him off myself in exchange for the rest of the day never happening so it's hard to be stoked about it.

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