The Richard Nixon school of ballet and the arts / Re: So what's this whole Race and Gender thing all about....« on: Today at 02:38:04 pm »
Right so this was really bothering me for a bit and i thought i'd get this off my chest. I recently had to talk to my dad about this joke he used to make. It would always really bother me and i'm wondering if there might be some racial undertones to it or if i'm being overly sensitive. My dad used to joke that i am "the mailman's son" because i tend to favor my mom's side of the family in terms of looks. My dads side of the family are what you would call Californios- Mexicans that have typically european features, short with dark wavy hair, green eyes, pale skin. My mom's family, with the exception of my mom, look like Indios,- Mexicans with more Native features. All of my uncles are taller, with very curly hair, dark skin, and brown eyes.
This joke wouldnt cut so deep except that my dad has a deep, abiding hate for my mom's family, and if you talk to him for an extended period of time he'll eventually get to his screed about why my mother's family is a bunch of liars cheaters and thieves. So because I, between me and my sisters, look the most like my moms family, it is often said in my family that i am genetically only 25% Alonzo, and my sisters are 50% and 75% Alonzo respectively(cuz you know, genes have surnames, right?) and so between that and the mailman thing, it feels like my dad is saying i'm a lying cheating piece of shit that is probably not his son anyway. All the while, this si a man who paid for my college, lets me live rent-free, and pays me to do odd jobs around the house. When i confronted him about it, he initially laughed it off, but he seems to have dropped that particualr gem from his Dad Joke repetoire. Am i nuts for reading a racial thing into this?
No, not nuts. Sometimes people are carrying prejudices they don't realize they have, and it sounds like that is probably the case with your dad.