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Messages - Mesozoic Mister Nigel

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Well....there was a disappointing lack of rage on the email front last night, once I got around to checking them. 

However, the same manager I had a flaming row with has just told me (told, not asked) that I will be doing a 9-5 training session, then a full 12 and a 1/2 hour night shift.

I've not sent my reply yet...but Working Time Regulations hilarity will occur in 15 hours or less.  Unfortunately, there are actually laws which stipulate a consecutive 11 hours break in any 24 hour period.

And yeah, believe me, just walking out is so damn tempting.

That was a hell of a nice try, though. He had to have known you would catch and counter it, I would think... or is he really stupid enough to think you'd let him get away with that?

Could be.  I did do it twice before, but that was literally because it was in the 3 month period I could be dismissed for no reason, and in the second case because I wanted my First Aid certificate updated that bad.

Plus this is the place that literally had someone work two 24 hour shifts on their own (not back to back) last month.  So...

Fucking unreal. School administration, man.

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So I managed to convince my boss to let me have a go at the datasheets.

Now to see if I can actually do it.

Nice!

What are you doing with them?

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Well....there was a disappointing lack of rage on the email front last night, once I got around to checking them. 

However, the same manager I had a flaming row with has just told me (told, not asked) that I will be doing a 9-5 training session, then a full 12 and a 1/2 hour night shift.

I've not sent my reply yet...but Working Time Regulations hilarity will occur in 15 hours or less.  Unfortunately, there are actually laws which stipulate a consecutive 11 hours break in any 24 hour period.

And yeah, believe me, just walking out is so damn tempting.

That was a hell of a nice try, though. He had to have known you would catch and counter it, I would think... or is he really stupid enough to think you'd let him get away with that?

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Someone should really tell him Stefan Molyneux has the shitty Youtube philosophy market cornered already.

 :lulz: :love:

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I found out today AlbinoBlackSheep still exists, and The Ultimate Showdown (of Ultimate Destiny) is still being hosted on it. 

I showed it to the monkey and the entire way through watching the look on his face was "what even is happening right now what is life wtf."

I wish I could have gotten a picture of it, it was priceless.

 :lulz: That's a pretty good introduction to the internet.

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Nigel: I could understand if you were answering the question that the OP brings up, which is "Am I being Selfish?"

The answer is yes. You are demanding that someone who is trying to plan their future refrain from discussing commitment until after they commit. So, basically, you want her to not explore options or make plans until she has FIRST decided that she is 100% committed to you no matter what the circumstances. At age 19. And you are having an adorable little meltdown and insisting that every single person in this thread is simply misreading, ignoring, or misinterpreting what you have written.

Selfish, childish, spoiled, bratty, unreasonable, controlling, patronizing, assholish; whichever adjective you prefer, they all apply here.

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You didn't get the answer you wanted. :lol:

No, I got one that was based on reading only portions of what I wrote without the context that I outlined in the thread. I'm not going to sit here and be told how I feel about someone else. I shouldn't have to quote myself from earlier in the thread to refute your argument.

So go derail someone else's thread. Otherwise, change the title of this thread to "Walls and Walls of CATS."

Sorry, you're right; what you wrote totally is totally different from what everyone in this thread read and responded to. I'll change the title, since I can totally do that, and then I will proceed to never, ever comment on your posts because your tantrums are not hilarious at all.

 :lol:

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Maybe it's all those white nationalists, afraid because it's the 21st century and there are black people and stuff, and everyone else is depressed because they have to put up with the aforementioned yahoos?

This is actually a completely reasonable explanation.

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You didn't get the answer you wanted. :lol:

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What are you talking about? I talk shit all the time  :lulz:

Seriously though, she's talking about building her life, and she wants you in it, so why the long face? She's not pretending anything from what you've said, she's got things she wants and she's communicating that with you. If you want those things too, awesome. If you're convinced this is the train to breakup town and she's deluding herself, well then break up and be sad about it. (And I definitely will not give you shit about being sad about it, breakups suck ass)

For the same reason I can't expect her to abandon her career for me, it would be unfair to expect me to abandon mine for her. There is simply a very large chance that I won't be able to move out with her if that time comes. She can want commitment AND the job all she wants, and I would love it more than anything if she could have both. But one simply can't happen until the opportunity for the other has been taken, or has passed. She has other priorities, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Fernando Poo, the takeaway I'm getting from literally everything you have said is this:

YOU AREN'T THAT INTO HER.

You are simply not that into this relationship. Own it and stop trying to come up with a way to make this somehow her fault.

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Manipulative, head-gamey, childish bullshit. She should dump him and go pursue her career, and find an adult to marry in a few years after her career is established.

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Marriage is not about sacrificing your life for someone else.

This is absolutely true, but I am unsure a marriage can last if the family isn't the first priority.

Sure, once commitments have been made and plans have been hashed out for how both parties want to build their life together, that has to carry weight. They're not there yet, though, this is the negotiation phase. She's 19 and trying to start her career, and for some reason likes this chump enough to hope that he'll be there with her. And he's bitching that their relationship as TEENAGERS isn't enough for her to abandon her dream job over, like he ate some True Wuv bullshit and hasn't vomited it back up yet.

And also this.

He is also being supremely hypocritical, as essentially he is saying that he isn't committed enough to the relationship to go with her, but is mad at her for being willing to leave him behind if he refuses to go. It's some childish bullshit.

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I don't see anything wrong with her career being the top priority, and if you won't or can't move then letting go of the relationship. I don't see anything wrong with saying that she would prefer if you came along and had all this commitment stuff with her there. Marriage is not about sacrificing your life for someone else.

I agree with most of this. However, I don't see how it's fair to marry someone you wouldn't make your first priority. It's ok to want the commitment where the new job would be. It's a whole other thing to talk about those things knowing you'd give up the consideration if it wasn't possible for the other person to move with you.

I don't want to hear about permanent commitments from the other person in the relationship if it's obvious that they aren't as committed as I am, or aren't completely dedicated to such commitments. As you said, there's nothing at all wrong with having other commitments. I just don't wanna hear about something as important and permanent as marriage and kids if it's not the most important thing to you. Because that's the only way things like that work. You can't have a marriage or kids if your priorities are not those things. She can find those priorities later in life if she wants, after her other priorities are achieved. But I'm not going to be lied to about someone's commitment level. I'm not going to be told we're going to be together forever if they don't mean that 100%.

It sounds like you want her to prioritize you over her career.

It also sounds like you refuse to prioritize her over your career.

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I don't understand why Oregon is always the unhappiest and most depressed state on any of these lists. It's NICE here, FFS.  :lol:

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Well, it's hard to make a living off of shitty poetry.

Or was he writing a novel?  I can never remember.

I think he had some really, really bad Youtube video philosophy scheme going on.

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