The Fascist Virus: Defeat

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Navkat, people react badly to you because you come off as aggressive, passive-aggressive, abrasively opinionated, and underinformed. If you really think you should be able to state your underinformed opinion as categorical fact in an aggressive maner without being challenged, you are not only in the wrong place here, but most likely in the wrong place anywhere you go, because unless you are able to find some sycophants who will eat up your ignorance with gratitude, most people won't put up with it.

I know some wonderful people from Mobile, BTW. I doubt you'd get along with them, though.

[Faust]

I think I just vomited. But it was vomit going into me and through my eyes.
Heres to a great first post. would be great to see some more discussion of it.

[navkat]

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

I know some wonderful people from Mobile, BTW. I doubt you'd get along with them, though.

IRONY.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

It's a shame if you're really too stupid to parse that statement... however, that is increasingly seeming to be the case.

I know some wonderful people from Mobile, BTW. I doubt you'd get along with them, though.

IRONY.

Nope. Not at all. You're just apparently too dense to understand, so I will spell it out for you; the reason you cannot find people to befriend and relate to is not the fault of your location, it is the fault of your personality. There are awesome people EVERYWHERE. My impression is that they most likely would not like you, because you, young lady, are an abrasive twit.

If you're going to be abrasive, it works in your favor to not be a twit.

[navkat]

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

It's a shame if you're really too stupid to parse that statement... however, that is increasingly seeming to be the case.

I know some wonderful people from Mobile, BTW. I doubt you'd get along with them, though.

IRONY.

Nope. Not at all. You're just apparently too dense to understand, so I will spell it out for you; the reason you cannot find people to befriend and relate to is not the fault of your location, it is the fault of your personality. There are awesome people EVERYWHERE. My impression is that they most likely would not like you, because you, young lady, are an abrasive twit.

If you're going to be abrasive, it works in your favor to not be a twit.

Just helping me out, right? A little friendly advice?

No offense taken.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

No, not really friendly. More like, frustrated and fed up.

[navkat]

No, not really friendly. More like, frustrated and fed up.

Okay, so we can be done analyzing me now, right?

[Cainad (dec.)]

It's not an analysis of you. Nigel is making observations about your posting behavior. Analysis would probably involve trying to understand the underlying motive(s) for your behavior. Nobody cares about those.

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

hurr

[navkat]

It's not an analysis of you. Nigel is making observations about your posting behavior. Analysis would probably involve trying to understand the underlying motive(s) for your behavior. Nobody cares about those.

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

hurr

Doesn't passive agressiveness require aggression and therefore: intent?  If I say "I've outgrown a, b and c" and I mean exactly that, if someone else decides to take that as a thinly-veiled attack anyway, that's not my problem.

I'm telling you I did not intend that as a back-handed insult and she's telling me I did whether I realize it or not. I beg pardon, but I don't think that's her place to say.

Also: "coming off as abrasive" and veiled aggression are two separate things entirely. It's absolutely true that I unintentionally come off as abrasive sometimes. I catch it when I can and apologize when I'm wrong. Sometimes I just have to eat my foot and deal with the consequences. As do we all.

Now, we can go on for another two pages nitpicking my words and looking for flaws to prove what she thinks I meant, or we can accept my explanation, believe me when I say I meant it in earnest, and move on.

I choose b please.

Thank you.

[Cainad (dec.)]

It's not an analysis of you. Nigel is making observations about your posting behavior. Analysis would probably involve trying to understand the underlying motive(s) for your behavior. Nobody cares about those.

I didn't tell you what was going on in your head. I told you that what you said was passive-aggressive, whether you intended it to be or not. Ask your therapist. Ask anyone with a grasp of language.

Um, what?

hurr

Doesn't passive agressiveness require aggression and therefore: intent?  If I say "I've outgrown a, b and c" and I mean exactly that, if someone else decides to take that as a thinly-veiled attack anyway, that's not my problem.

I'm telling you I did not intend that as a back-handed insult and she's telling me I did whether I realize it or not. I beg pardon, but I don't think that's her place to say.

Also: "coming off as abrasive" and veiled aggression are two separate things entirely. It's absolutely true that I unintentionally come off as abrasive sometimes. I catch it when I can and apologize when I'm wrong. Sometimes I just have to eat my foot and deal with the consequences. As do we all.

Now, we can go on for another two pages nitpicking my words and looking for flaws to prove what she thinks I meant, or we can accept my explanation, believe me when I say I meant it in earnest, and move on.

I choose b please.

Thank you.

No.

The passive-aggressiveness is part of the reason why you come off as abrasive.

[navkat]

Wow. Just wow.

Let me get this straight: If Cain says "If you think __ you are seriously deluded" Or
(something to the effect of) "Why don't you read some REAL history books instead of reciting right-wing talking points"
and I feel a little insulted by that, that's me taking it the wrong way when he's trying to educate me.

When Nigel superfluously throws out the uncalled for statement: "I have some friends in Mobile, but I doubt they'd like you." That's just her making observations.

But when I say "I've outgrown the desire to play the internet one-upmanship game," and someone gets all butthurt over it and I'm kind enough to explain profusely that "no, I really did mean that in earnest. I don't think it makes me superior, I'm just personally bored with it," and she refuses to believe that I meant it at face-value, that's aggression.

Okay, got it.

[fomenter]

    you are on passive aggressive boulevard it's a one way street..

[navkat]

  you are on passive aggressive boulevard it's a one way street..

[rubickspoop]

but is there any point to my discussing this? or am I going to get yelled at again and told I've read the wrong books, gone to the wrong schools and discussed this with scholars who are not qualified to draw lines of comparison?

If that's the case, I'll close all dissenting argument, go back to my little hole and be happy to let you be the pd.com authority on the subject hereafter.

Navkat, you've been digging yourself into a deeper hole since you're second post, which I have been kind enough to put in a little quote box. YOU turned it from a discussion into an argument in this one post. You have proceeded to either insult or argue with anyone who has stated something that you didn't believe. This causes a downward spiral where people start to piss on you right back, and then your sliding down a slippery one-way street to oblivion.

In other words, you started it.

[navkat]

you started it.

Now there's the first goddamned thing that makes sense in this thread since Cain's original post.