Fetishes

[LMNO]

Goddamn it, I'm working on 3 hours of sleep here.  I used all my language skills seven hours ago when I wrote today's SME.

Ipt, I know people who have a centaur fetish.

Think about that.  CENTAUR FETISH.  They are sexually aroused by the idea of a mythological creature.

Or people who have rape fetishes/fantasies. 

Or, let's say, someone who constantly jerks off to the idea of anal sex, yet can't currently find a woman who really, really wants it in their ass.



Is fetish.  Is unrealized, yet is fetish.

[Cain]

Anal centaur rape fetish?

[Doktor Howl]

Goddamn it, I'm working on 3 hours of sleep here.  I used all my language skills seven hours ago when I wrote today's SME.

Ipt, I know people who have a centaur fetish.

Think about that.  CENTAUR FETISH.  They are sexually aroused by the idea of a mythological creature.

So, yiff.

[Elder Iptuous]

alright, so fetish in this context just means 'something you find hawt', rather than 'something that you cannot achieve gratification without'?

that seems diluted.
it somehow seems disrespectful to the people that actually put their dignity and more on the line by pursuing these acts/things....

also, the wife and i have a riding crop, and a ping pong paddle.  every so often she likes to get a pink ass.  but, i would hardly call that a fetish, no?
more generally we have a ton of toys of all stripes.  if you include all of those, something gets used more often than not.  does that mean we have a 'toy fetish'?

i guess i just think the term should be more restrictive.
also, i'm just arguing for the fuck of it...

[Dimocritus]

alright, so fetish in this context just means 'something you find hawt', rather than 'something that you cannot achieve gratification without'?

that seems diluted.
it somehow seems disrespectful to the people that actually put their dignity and more on the line by pursuing these acts/things....

also, the wife and i have a riding crop, and a ping pong paddle.  every so often she likes to get a pink ass.  but, i would hardly call that a fetish, no?
more generally we have a ton of toys of all stripes.  if you include all of those, something gets used more often than not.  does that mean we have a 'toy fetish'?

i guess i just think the term should be more restrictive.
also, i'm just arguing for the fuck of it...

From OP:

(discussion open to real clinical fetishes and paraphilias and just little personal kinks and preferences.)

[LMNO]

Clinically, you're right: it is an object you cannot acheive sexual gratification without.

However, that leaves a lot of room between what is physically needed to achieve orgasm, and what is mentally needed to achieve orgasm.

Because we don't have a good word for it, most of us use "fetish" when it deviates from an undefined state of "normal".

Most people define "normal" as heterosexual vaginal penetration with a minimal amount of bodily contortion or supplemental devices.



LMNO
-semantic fetishist.

[Cramulus]

Fetish: "c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression"
   -- this is the dictionary definition

however, its meaning in modern parlance has shifted a bit. If you were on a porn site and clicked on the "fetish" category, you'd probably see BDSM. People do use the word to refer to things which they prefer to get off to. Another definition of "fetish" is "fixation". So it's fair to say that you have a boot fetish if you like kissing sexy boots, even if they're not necessary for you to get off.

[Bruno]

Not technically a fetish, but for some reason I find speech impediments sexxxay.

[Elder Iptuous]

hm.
yes, i'm obviously wrong here.
perhaps, however, there should be some modifier indicative of the actual act or presence of things outside of the accepted norm necessary to get off.
those guys that require giant diapers and their asses being wiped really should get some delineation from those who simply like big butts and cannot lie....

[Doktor Howl]

Not technically a fetish, but for some reason I find speech impediments sexxxay.

Probably the same reason I dig odd facial features.

[Elder Iptuous]

Not technically a fetish, but for some reason I find speech impediments sexxxay.

Probably the same reason I dig odd facial features.

you both had your first sexual experience while watching Sloth in the Goonies?

[Doktor Howl]

Not technically a fetish, but for some reason I find speech impediments sexxxay.

Probably the same reason I dig odd facial features.

you both had your first sexual experience while watching Sloth in the Goonies?

There go my nipples again.

[Eater of Clowns]

I have, I'll admit, some control and power kinks.  I like being in charge and variations thereof - light bondage, choking, power positions, biting.  But somewhat contradictory to that I really need the girl to get off, and I get rapidly closer to climax when she does.  Also there have been a few filthy things said to me that I've been really into.

I don't require this, mind you, and plenty of my sex is vanilla, but these things are good to mix it up.  Also, lingerie does it for me.

Not technically a fetish, but for some reason I find speech impediments sexxxay.

A girl had me close my eyes and gave me a blowjob while she spole to me in a French accent, but it was so awful and so filled with "'ow you say" all the time that I had a hard time not giggling.  It was cute, but I think it's safe to say I don't share this one.

[Z³]

Going by the proper definition, is it even possible to have an orgasm denial fetish?

"I cant get off without not getting off"

[Doktor Howl]

Going by the proper definition, is it even possible to have an orgasm denial fetish?

"I cant get off without not getting off"

That's the tantric spags.