FML and WTF am I supposed to do?

[Juana]

I feel like I've been a good parent to my parents after all.

There is no sixteen year old who should ever have to say this, and that you feel that this is a victory day is a sign you're kinda fucked up - you should probably talk to someone about it because few people come out of situations like this one without issues, even though it sounds like you're a pretty strong guy.

I know it'll hurt and it'll be hard, but kick him out. He sounds like a lost cause. And I can see you being the family accountant backfiring on you hard in terms of you being able to move out or go study abroad because they'll guilt you into staying.

[the last yatto]

He could always emblezze enough money to make it worth his wild then run off

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Wow, shit.

You shouldn't be in a position where you're handling the family finances. Fuck.

Your dad should move out. Period. This sounds all kinds of fucked and I hope you make it through OK. You should not have to be responsible for your parents at 16, yet they have put you in a position where you are.

If it's any consolation, a guy I have known for nearly 20 years was in a very similar situation at your age, and has grown up to have a very normal life. You just have to be able to extricate yourself when you are able, OK? And not let your fear of their inability keep you there taking care of things they should be perfectly capable of, as adults.

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Dalekk, I think you should listen carefully to the people giving you advice, here and elsewhere, and then listen carefully to yourself.

Trust yourself to make the best decisions about this and then own the choices you have made.

[the last yatto]

Family can be a strong bond and often we tell ourselfs, so and so is really ok
Except that one thing


Shame that one thing is a snuff porn fetish

[Triple Zero]

Wow, shit.

You shouldn't be in a position where you're handling the family finances. Fuck.

Your dad should move out. Period. This sounds all kinds of fucked and I hope you make it through OK. You should not have to be responsible for your parents at 16, yet they have put you in a position where you are.

If it's any consolation, a guy I have known for nearly 20 years was in a very similar situation at your age, and has grown up to have a very normal life. You just have to be able to extricate yourself when you are able, OK? And not let your fear of their inability keep you there taking care of things they should be perfectly capable of, as adults.

I put off reading this thread for a long time, but kept getting back to it. So now I read it.

Damn Dalekk, that is a really really shitty situation, and I'm sorry for you that you're in it.

Reading the responses, I myself kept thinking, "but wait, this is his family you're talking about, his parents even, it's not a bad thing to want to be there for your parents, is it?" -- But then, maybe that works different when you're just 16, and also I really have no experiences with fucked up situations like these, and I know that a whole bunch of people giving advice in this thread have been in some fucked up situation or other and probably know better than me.

And for some reason, if Nigel says "Your dad should move out. Period.", I believe that's the right thing to do. I dunno, I'd trust her judgement in these matters.

Furthermore, Lysergic's idea about talking this over with your School Councillor or "Trust Person" or whatever I dunno, a social worker maybe, anyone, sounds really good. You should not have to face a mess like this on your own. Even just someone to talk to, that listens and gives an outside perspective. Just hope you find a good one. If not, try another one. That's my advice, it's not an exact science, and some professional help connects better with certain people or situations than others.

Oh and about the weed, if he's got schizophrenia, he's NOT allowed to have weed EVER again. Remember that research thing where they suspect weed could trigger schizophrenia in people that have not (yet) developed it, but the odds are really small and such? Well if he already has schizophrenia, the odds are much higher (possibly even 100%) that it will trigger an attack (a psychosis) and make his condition worse. I've seen that happen and it's not pretty for anyone involved.