Hitting it hard

[Placid Dingo]

I'm getting frustrated with my own timidity in a number of social situations. I'm really big on getting things done, using my time well etc but am terribly prone to be distracted by shiny things.

I'm trying to make a dedication to hitting things harder. Upping life intensity, making better more social choices and so on. I'm basically starting this thread to hold myself to it and put it on record, 'make it real'.

I have a list of instructions on front of my iPod now mostly based on the theme "if you don't know what to do, talk to someone."

This is to try to hammer it into my head and also to stop myself checking the time every five minutes.

Anyway. That's today.

[rong]

"you will never plow a field by turning it over in your mind"

[Lyris_Nymphetamine]

Title is misleading as this thread has absolutely nothing to do with sex. I am highly disappointed.

[Shibboleet The Annihilator]

Force to socialize, even when you feel awkward. You won't learn anything about socializing if you are never out of your comfort zone.

[East Coast Hustle]

Listen to Shibboleet. He's a one-legged hunchback who is so morbidly obese that his rascal scooter had to be reinforced...and the dude gets TONS of trim.

[Sexecutioner Chao Tight]

I have attention deficit, oooh shiny...

[Placid Dingo]

Yeah I am forcing to. I'm not bad now but I am frustrated with not finding it easier.

But yeah I certainly don't intend to just talk about it. The point of sharing is to try to 1 hold myself to it and 2 get another pair of eyes on it.

Thread has plenty to do with sex, I'm just not being that explicit about it.

[Nast]

Yeah I am forcing to. I'm not bad now but I am frustrated with not finding it easier.

But yeah I certainly don't intend to just talk about it. The point of sharing is to try to 1 hold myself to it and 2 get another pair of eyes on it.

Thread has plenty to do with sex, I'm just not being that explicit about it.

I think that forcing yourself to socialize won't suddenly make you an extroverted person; if you're naturally shy rather than shy because of lack of practice, then I think that interacting with other people will always be tiring to a certain extant. But practicing and pushing your limits is the only way to do it, and as time goes on you'll find it easier and easier.

[Placid Dingo]

One of the reasons I'm mad on myers Briggs is because it helped me understand that I'm not socially retarded; I just recharge through alone time rather than people time, which is generally less common (I think there's a thread round here that indicates it's more common with discordians.

It's st Patties celebrations this weekend though so that should offer some opportunities.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

One of the reasons I'm mad on myers Briggs is because it helped me understand that I'm not socially retarded; I just recharge through alone time rather than people time, which is generally less common (I think there's a thread round here that indicates it's more common with discordians.

It's st Patties celebrations this weekend though so that should offer some opportunities.

If a 4 letter label makes you feel better, then I guess it works for you.

[Placid Dingo]

Blah. I wasn't planning to particularly go into the whole thing. There's only so much stock you put in something like that, but there were things I've seen discussed relevant to my "label" that helped me to kind of get at the reasons behind my behavior motivations etc. I'm not so needing of a label as interested in learning from similar people things that help me understand myself.

Also, it gives me pointers for areas I can try to tweak to meet certain goals, becoming more Judgemental (make a choice) instead of Perceptive (wait and see). So the test helped me to pick up on habits I had. But I don't just "feel better" because im in a particular box.

I do the political test too, which puts me towards left wing and libertarian. I don't go 'woohoo' that's what I can call myself, but I do find it interesting to pinpoint where my ideas, personality or feelings put me in relation to others, and how that information can help me understand myself with more clarity.

I don't feel better because im labelled as "male", but if I didn't realize I was, damn life would be harder.