Hypothetical question.

[East Coast Hustle]

Put it in realpolitik terms:

What do you have to gain by informing her?

Nothing, as near as I can tell.

What do you have to lose by informing her?

Just a friendship.

[Jasper]

I would want to be told, so I'm going with that. 

But then again, I'm too used to people who prefer honesty and disclosure no matter the cost.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I would want to be told, so I'm going with that. 

But then again, I'm too used to people who prefer honesty and disclosure no matter the cost.

"What an ugly baby."   

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Put it in realpolitik terms:

What do you have to gain by informing her?

Nothing, as near as I can tell.

What do you have to lose by informing her?

Just a friendship.

Yep. Not that we're particularly close these days anyway, but I do like to talk to her here and there. She's living out of state and has a wife (and no, that wasn't the category- her video buddy was a dude) and seems to be settling into the being married thing.

[Jasper]

I would want to be told, so I'm going with that. 

But then again, I'm too used to people who prefer honesty and disclosure no matter the cost.

"What an ugly baby."   

No babies yet, but yeah.  They'd likely take that if it was patently true.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Put it in realpolitik terms:

What do you have to gain by informing her?

Nothing, as near as I can tell.

What do you have to lose by informing her?

Just a friendship.

Yep. Not that we're particularly close these days anyway, but I do like to talk to her here and there. She's living out of state and has a wife (and no, that wasn't the category- her video buddy was a dude) and seems to be settling into the being married thing.

Given that, DO NOT TELL HER.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

I would want to be told, so I'm going with that. 

But then again, I'm too used to people who prefer honesty and disclosure no matter the cost.

Yeah, I would too.

But then again, I would also probably try to make the situation funny by asking, "so what did you think, eh?"

[Elder Iptuous]

hmm, would it have been badwrong to wank to it? i mean, if it was known that it was available without her consent, then yeah.  but if it's not, then...  is it badwrong in the case of any video where it isn't explicitly clear that it is a production piece, and has their full consent?  could be, huh?

so, was it a surreptitious type video, or one that she obviously knew was being made?
also, there's sites that cater specifically to 'revenge vids' of ex-girlfriends.  which is pretty fucked up.

also, i have a feeling that one of the larger name pornstars is a girl that i had a crush on in 2nd grade.  (same name, and i could totally see an age progression of her 2nd grade pic looking like this woman)

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Put it in realpolitik terms:

What do you have to gain by informing her?

Nothing, as near as I can tell.

What do you have to lose by informing her?

Just a friendship.

Yep. Not that we're particularly close these days anyway, but I do like to talk to her here and there. She's living out of state and has a wife (and no, that wasn't the category- her video buddy was a dude) and seems to be settling into the being married thing.

Given that, DO NOT TELL HER.

Yeah- good point. Her missus might end up seeing the email and the link by accident, among other things like putting the whole thing behind her at this point.

[Jasper]

hmm, would it have been badwrong to wank to it? i mean, if it was known that it was available without her consent, then yeah.  but if it's not, then...  is it badwrong in the case of any video where it isn't explicitly clear that it is a production piece, and has their full consent?  could be, huh?

so, was it a surreptitious type video, or one that she obviously knew was being made?
also, there's sites that cater specifically to 'revenge vids' of ex-girlfriends.  which is pretty fucked up.

The rule of consent that I follow is that if consent cannot be determined, then the default is no.

[Jasper]

Put it in realpolitik terms:

What do you have to gain by informing her?

Nothing, as near as I can tell.

What do you have to lose by informing her?

Just a friendship.

Yep. Not that we're particularly close these days anyway, but I do like to talk to her here and there. She's living out of state and has a wife (and no, that wasn't the category- her video buddy was a dude) and seems to be settling into the being married thing.

Given that, DO NOT TELL HER.

Didn't know it could wreck a marriage.  Don't tell.  2nded.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

hmm, would it have been badwrong to wank to it? i mean, if it was known that it was available without her consent, then yeah.  but if it's not, then...  is it badwrong in the case of any video where it isn't explicitly clear that it is a production piece, and has their full consent?  could be, huh?

so, was it a surreptitious type video, or one that she obviously knew was being made?
also, there's sites that cater specifically to 'revenge vids' of ex-girlfriends.  which is pretty fucked up.

also, i have a feeling that one of the larger name pornstars is a girl that i had a crush on in 2nd grade.  (same name, and i could totally see an age progression of her 2nd grade pic looking like this woman)

She knew she was being filmed. It was shot POV style.

It would have been bad to wank because I wanted her and was rejected. It was something I was never meant to see but merely imagine. It would feel like peeping on her. I know what the real thing looks like now.

I think it would be like masturapetion in this specific circumstance.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

It would have been bad to wank because I wanted her and was rejected. It was something I was never meant to see but merely imagine. It would feel like peeping on her. I know what the real thing looks like now.

Yep.  That's one reason lesbian porn has no appeal for me.  They wouldn't want me under any circumstances, so there's no suspension of disbelief.

Which is what really, really puzzles me about the apparent appeal of "barely legal" pron in the 35-65 demographic.  It's fucking disturbing.

[Elder Iptuous]

hmm, would it have been badwrong to wank to it? i mean, if it was known that it was available without her consent, then yeah.  but if it's not, then...  is it badwrong in the case of any video where it isn't explicitly clear that it is a production piece, and has their full consent?  could be, huh?

so, was it a surreptitious type video, or one that she obviously knew was being made?
also, there's sites that cater specifically to 'revenge vids' of ex-girlfriends.  which is pretty fucked up.

The rule of consent that I follow is that if consent cannot be determined, then the default is no.

so the girls in the amateur or 'pro amateur' type stuff (who are generally more attractive, no?) are out, as there would always be question there...
gotta be some big label with the obviously pornstar ladies...

hm... what if twid remembers the video while wanking in the future?    not diligently pushing it out of his mind, or letting it linger a bit too long would be badwrong....

(i'm just spouting here, not trying to be offensive at all.  tell me to stfu, if i am.)

[Nephew Twiddleton]

hmm, would it have been badwrong to wank to it? i mean, if it was known that it was available without her consent, then yeah.  but if it's not, then...  is it badwrong in the case of any video where it isn't explicitly clear that it is a production piece, and has their full consent?  could be, huh?

so, was it a surreptitious type video, or one that she obviously knew was being made?
also, there's sites that cater specifically to 'revenge vids' of ex-girlfriends.  which is pretty fucked up.

The rule of consent that I follow is that if consent cannot be determined, then the default is no.

so the girls in the amateur or 'pro amateur' type stuff (who are generally more attractive, no?) are out, as there would always be question there...
gotta be some big label with the obviously pornstar ladies...

hm... what if twid remembers the video while wanking in the future?    not diligently pushing it out of his mind, or letting it linger a bit too long would be badwrong....

(i'm just spouting here, not trying to be offensive at all.  tell me to stfu, if i am.)

I dunno man, I don't think that I'll be able to fantasize about her at all anymore. It would be weird.