Conquest of the Planet of the Bride of the Son of the Return of the Open Bar

[The Good Reverend Roger]

My favorite bartender at Muldowney's died. 

Not sure how, but Judy was awesome. She a feisty woman who never put up with anyone's shit. She was the bartender when Roger and Richter rescued me from the drunk on the Goddamn Industry Professional night.

  I remember her.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I dunno how literal LMNO was being, but the thing is communication is HUGE in a relationship.  If communication channels are blocked or crossed, or whatever, I dunno, it feels troublesome.  Speaking as someone who had a relationship recently fall apart, which definitely had communication issues as a central piece to the overall problem.

I can agree with that.  If you can't communicate then not only is that a problem in itself it means that any other problems that come up don't get addressed, they fester instead and get worse.  Not being able to communicate on one issue doesn't mean you can't communicate on others though.

And to Pentagram, Sure, if you are pissed every 5 minutes then it is probably a shitty relationship, but even the best relationship has issues of some sort.

Happy to disagree.

I'm with P3NT on this one.  I've had a rocky past, but my wife and I have gotten along amazingly well since I've met her.

She doesn't get angry, she gets even.  I don't get angry, because I'm always sort of stunned/concussed around her.

[Pergamos]

I dunno how literal LMNO was being, but the thing is communication is HUGE in a relationship.  If communication channels are blocked or crossed, or whatever, I dunno, it feels troublesome.  Speaking as someone who had a relationship recently fall apart, which definitely had communication issues as a central piece to the overall problem.

I can agree with that.  If you can't communicate then not only is that a problem in itself it means that any other problems that come up don't get addressed, they fester instead and get worse.  Not being able to communicate on one issue doesn't mean you can't communicate on others though.

And to Pentagram, Sure, if you are pissed every 5 minutes then it is probably a shitty relationship, but even the best relationship has issues of some sort.

Happy to disagree.

I'm with P3NT on this one.  I've had a rocky past, but my wife and I have gotten along amazingly well since I've met her.

She doesn't get angry, she gets even.  I don't get angry, because I'm always sort of stunned/concussed around her.

The fact that she gets even means there was something to get even for.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

I dunno how literal LMNO was being, but the thing is communication is HUGE in a relationship.  If communication channels are blocked or crossed, or whatever, I dunno, it feels troublesome.  Speaking as someone who had a relationship recently fall apart, which definitely had communication issues as a central piece to the overall problem.

I can agree with that.  If you can't communicate then not only is that a problem in itself it means that any other problems that come up don't get addressed, they fester instead and get worse.  Not being able to communicate on one issue doesn't mean you can't communicate on others though.

And to Pentagram, Sure, if you are pissed every 5 minutes then it is probably a shitty relationship, but even the best relationship has issues of some sort.

Happy to disagree.

I'm with P3NT on this one.  I've had a rocky past, but my wife and I have gotten along amazingly well since I've met her.

She doesn't get angry, she gets even.  I don't get angry, because I'm always sort of stunned/concussed around her.

The fact that she gets even means there was something to get even for.

Yes, and that something was "Roger is a bit of a dumbass".  Seriously.  I could fuck up a county fair.

[P3nT4gR4m]

Tell me, Roger, after however many failed relationships did you reach a point where you were, like, "Fuck it, I don't need the bullshit. I'm finally in a place where I'm happy enough being single"? Or  words to that effect?

I'm just asking because I had a twofold thing going on that I think cracked the code.

1) I became comfortable in my own skin

2) I raised the bar of what I'd accept in a relationship to a level which was purposefully so ridiculously high as to make a future relationship impossible.

... or so I thought

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Tell me, Roger, after however many failed relationships did you reach a point where you were, like, "Fuck it, I don't need the bullshit. I'm finally in a place where I'm happy enough being single"? Or  words to that effect?

I'm just asking because I had a twofold thing going on that I think cracked the code.

1) I became comfortable in my own skin

2) I raised the bar of what I'd accept in a relationship to a level which was purposefully so ridiculously high as to make a future relationship impossible.

... or so I thought

None, really.  Most of my prior relationships ended more with a bang than a whimper.  You could see it coming, but it wasn't a decision made, rather than an event.

But you are correct.  Until you're happy with yourself, I don't think you can really be happy with someone else.

[Luna]

Tell me, Roger, after however many failed relationships did you reach a point where you were, like, "Fuck it, I don't need the bullshit. I'm finally in a place where I'm happy enough being single"? Or  words to that effect?

I'm just asking because I had a twofold thing going on that I think cracked the code.

1) I became comfortable in my own skin

2) I raised the bar of what I'd accept in a relationship to a level which was purposefully so ridiculously high as to make a future relationship impossible.

... or so I thought

None, really.  Most of my prior relationships ended more with a bang than a whimper.  You could see it coming, but it wasn't a decision made, rather than an event.

But you are correct.  Until you're happy with yourself, I don't think you can really be happy with someone else.

Truth. I spent a while after moving out before I was ready to even THINK about dating (in more than an abstract, "I'm bloody well tired of sleeping alone" kind of way, anyway).  I had a brief attempt (come to think if it, so brief it didn't even really rate mentioning, here), then things clicked with the current SO.  A year, plus, and we haven't had any disagreement bigger than, "No, *I* am buying dinner, tonight, damnit."

[Pope Pixie Pickle]

Last Dark Sun game tonight.

I did however get given the players guide and gm's guide for 2nd ed Legend of The Five Rings!

:happy dance:

[Cardinal Pizza Deliverance.]

Tonight on the way home from work I was hallucinating rain. I knew it WASN'T raining because the car's windshield wipers weren't on and there wasn't anything on the windshield. But I was seeing rain fall anyway. Luckily, I wasn't driving.

Might have also been hallucinating the lightning bugs. But I don't know. Roommate says she's seen them out already. Just not where I was seeing them right then. But she watches the road. I stare off into space like a lunatic.

[Golden Applesauce]

I've crossed the 500mg of caffeine mark in the past 24 hours, and it's 4am local time.

I am WRITING again!

Will post it in OM:F when the rough draft is ready. 

Rough draft is much rougher and longer than I expected, but finally done.

I'm going to crash for a while and then be an F5ing zombie for a day.

[AFK]

So, I think this thing I have with this womanI met awhile ago is reaching some kind of solid ground.  So here's my situation.  She's told her mom about meeting me but I haven't said anything to my folks yet.  I'm a bit superstitious for a Discordian and didn't want to "jinx" anything by saying anything until it felt a little more solid. 


So I'll just blurt this out, I'm dating a black woman.  I shouldn't have to say to my Mom, "oh by the way she's black" right? 

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

So, I think this thing I have with this womanI met awhile ago is reaching some kind of solid ground.  So here's my situation.  She's told her mom about meeting me but I haven't said anything to my folks yet.  I'm a bit superstitious for a Discordian and didn't want to "jinx" anything by saying anything until it felt a little more solid. 


So I'll just blurt this out, I'm dating a black woman.  I shouldn't have to say to my Mom, "oh by the way she's black" right?

Is your mom in Maine, too?

[AFK]

Yes.  My Mom is cool, but she comes from a fairly Conservative family.  I'm most "worried" about my grandfather.  I remember once when I was in college I briefly had a thing with a girl from Bangladesh.  Then I ended up seeing this red head for a few years and he had commented to my mom that he was happy to see me with a white girl.  Granted, an actual meeting with family, if it gets to that point, is a few steps ahead of where we are now.  But still, I figure at some point soon I will need to tell my Mom what's going on now.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Listen, fuckers. Every relationship has some level of friction. If it didn't, it would be a poor excuse for a relationship, with no growth opportunities. What makes it FEEL like a good relationship has no conflict is the level of each party's ability to work through conflicts. Problem-solve. Plus compatibility. Some partners compromise and cooperate do it so seamlessly that it isn't even apparent that there was a conflict.

For the record, I personally consider the pets thing a total dealbreaker. If a guy isn't into dogs, he's not the guy for me, and I wouldn't even consider a partnership in which my would-be "partner" wasn't willing to extend that partnership to caring for children or animals in the household; he could go fuck himself and find somewhere else to live if that were the case. Obviously that's not how everyone feels. I hope everything works out.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Yes.  My Mom is cool, but she comes from a fairly Conservative family.  I'm most "worried" about my grandfather.  I remember once when I was in college I briefly had a thing with a girl from Bangladesh.  Then I ended up seeing this red head for a few years and he had commented to my mom that he was happy to see me with a white girl.  Granted, an actual meeting with family, if it gets to that point, is a few steps ahead of where we are now.  But still, I figure at some point soon I will need to tell my Mom what's going on now.

They can go fuck themselves, why is this even an issue?