Simple relationship test

[Dildo Argentino]

After a major screeching-match, what does "let's make up" mean in your relationship?

A) Let's forget the whole thing quickly, let's make like it never happened, let's turn a new leaf, well, let's turn several new leaves actually... cuz we lurvz each otherz, really, don't we now?

B) Let's try to figure out what the fuck happened there, exactly why and how we ended up cursing each other's mothers. Let's see if we can spend quite a long time to work out a story we can both agree on that explains why that doesn't threaten our relationship: it is okay to make 1stupid mistakes, etc...

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A): Headed for disaster.

B): There's hope for you yet.

[LMNO]

Are you trying to be an insensitive prick on purpose, or do you just have a knack for it?

[Dildo Argentino]

Are you trying to be an insensitive prick on purpose, or do you just have a knack for it?

My personal experience dictated this, quite recently. I don't see how it is insensitive, as I didn't offer it as a response to anything. I lost a marriage of 13 years to A) (to be quite clear: 'lost' in the sense of 'fucked it up'), and only discovered B) afterwards. It is an important discovery. Thank Eris.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

"Hey, guys, how about you all fall for Holist's shit for a FIFTH time running!  And if you act now, there's 'hope for you yet'!  Be the first fucking DUMBSHIT on your block to fall for Holist's passive-aggressive bullshit!  All the cool kids are doing it!"

[Salty]

Whome?

[The Good Reverend Roger]

So go ahead and take this thread seriously.  When you're done, or shortly thereafter, Holist will be along to tell you why you're WRONG, and why you're a JERK and a MORAL VACUUM but that he STILL LOVES YOU.

Then, if everything goes well, Koolaid will be served in The Jones Lounge.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Are you trying to be an insensitive prick on purpose, or do you just have a knack for it?

Oh, this was in response to Alty.  Sorry, I've been sleeping all day, didn't quite get it.

Holist is an even bigger ass pimple than I thought.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Holist, what on earth makes you think that you're the Dr. Phil of PD? What the fuck is wrong with you?

[Salty]

Are you trying to be an insensitive prick on purpose, or do you just have a knack for it?

Oh, this was in response to Alty.  Sorry, I've been sleeping all day, didn't quite get it.

Holist is an even bigger ass pimple than I thought.

Is it?

Like, supposed to ilicit an emotional reaction out of me?

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Are you trying to be an insensitive prick on purpose, or do you just have a knack for it?

Oh, this was in response to Alty.  Sorry, I've been sleeping all day, didn't quite get it.

Holist is an even bigger ass pimple than I thought.

Is it?

Like, supposed to ilicit an emotional reaction out of me?

Yeah, I think he's using your shitty situation as an opportunity to show everyone how wise in the ways of love he is.

[Dildo Argentino]

Nothing makes me think that. I don't even know who Dr. Phil is. I had a major screeching-session with the wife, sorted it out, and finally (dim-witted and emotionally damaged piece of human that I am) I was able to conceptualise why that sorting out is an actual sorting out, and why a great deal of what I had thought was sorting out that I was in the habit of doing in my previous marriage wasn't. Then I formulated it in this simple form.

As to the question about what is wrong with me, I take that as admonition rather than a genuine question. And just in case it is very slightly a question too: it's a very long and tedious story.

And no, it was most definitely not in response to Alty.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Don't forget, this is also the guy who tried to present himself as some kind of parenting guru last time someone was having trouble with their kid. It's his MO.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Nothing makes me think that. I don't even know who Dr. Phil is. I had a major screeching-session with the wife, sorted it out, and finally (dim-witted and emotionally damaged piece of human that I am) I was able to conceptualise why that sorting out is an actual sorting out, and why a great deal of what I had thought was sorting out that I was in the habit of doing in my previous marriage wasn't. Then I formulated it in this simple form.

As to the question about what is wrong with me, I take that as admonition rather than a genuine question. And just in case it is very slightly a question too: it's a very long and tedious story.

And no, it was most definitely not in response to Alty.

Well then, your timing is shit and if you want anyone to give a fuck about your personal life, you might be better off couching it in terms of your personal life and not in terms of doling out advice from on high.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Nothing makes me think that. I don't even know who Dr. Phil is. I had a major screeching-session with the wife, sorted it out, and finally (dim-witted and emotionally damaged piece of human that I am) I was able to conceptualise why that sorting out is an actual sorting out, and why a great deal of what I had thought was sorting out that I was in the habit of doing in my previous marriage wasn't. Then I formulated it in this simple form.

As to the question about what is wrong with me, I take that as admonition rather than a genuine question. And just in case it is very slightly a question too: it's a very long and tedious story.

And no, it was most definitely not in response to Alty.

I see.

So, Alty's marriage is at the end of the road, more or less.  So you came on to brag about how your supeior communications skills saved the day, and how your marriage got saved, while Alty's has had it.  But it's not about Alty.

It's like Holist and RWHN had a butt-baby that was born knowing how to type.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

Don't forget, this is also the guy who tried to present himself as some kind of parenting guru last time someone was having trouble with their kid. It's his MO.

It wasn't parenting advice, so much as it was "if you don't do it like I do, you're a bad parent.  Especially you single mothers with no man to guide you."