(I wrote this last year about my friend The Enucleator.)
She is not malicious. She is not calculating, she is not manipulative. She is not unreasonable. She is not making things up. She is not crying because she is trying to make you feel bad, she is crying because she feels bad.
Look at her. She looks like a girl. A woman, but we call ourselves girls. A mother. She is hard as iron, tough as nails. She endures like a mesa, bends like a fir in strong winds, stands upright after the storm. She is soft; she has curves, warm breasts, smooth arms, a nape on her neck that is made to be nuzzled. She is pretty. She has lips for kissing, eyes that can call for silence or snap and rage or fill with tears.
And she cries. A lot. More than she thinks she cries, because girls are made for crying. Crying and loving and holding people. And her heart is a soft, soft tender girl's heart. As strong as she is, as tough as she is, her hard hard heart softens at a moment's notice, and lets in the biggest baddest wolves as long as they talk gentle, move slow, and tell her the right stories. Because girls aren't made to be suspicious, aren't wagers of war or hostage negotiators. And it's too bad, because the hostages are our own hearts, our very tender not-lying-when-they-cry hearts.
Girls are amazing. There is no code; we are deceptively simple. We will tell you, in plain simple words, what we want. Love me. Be there when you say you're going to be there. Tell me what you want from me. If you listen, you can hear it. Don't complicate us; we aren't speaking in tongues. Don't pretend you don't understand. Don't pretend you never heard us. Just listen.
Just listen, and remember that inside the girl you are looking at is a girl's tender heart. Try not to hurt it. And when you have it, remember that she isn't very good at guarding her heart, so that will be up to you. That's a thing a man is good at.
aw nigel...if I weren't medicated that would have made me cry. :cry:
:mittens:
Very nice!!
Quote from: Nigel on October 06, 2008, 05:20:38 PM
There is no code; we are deceptively simple. We will tell you, in plain simple words, what we want. Love me. Be there when you say you're going to be there. Tell me what you want from me. If you listen, you can hear it. Don't complicate us; we aren't speaking in tongues. Don't pretend you don't understand. Don't pretend you never heard us. Just listen.
Very nice, Nigel.
I would argue, though, that the above quote is not true of all women, any more than it is true of all men. I've known a few women in my time that were definitely being cryptic on purpose.
Of course all people are different, but when I wrote it I was thinking about my friend, and of course my generalizations are based on the women I know.
Good enough.
Anyway, I did like it.
this gets :mittens:
Nigel, I really like this. :)
Very nice Nigel!!
Thank you! :D
I was moved.
:mittens:
I thought I was going to feel something, but then I didn't.
Probably just a loose connection on my end.
This is the sweetest thing I've seen on this board EVER.
:mittens:
Quote from: Nigel on October 06, 2008, 05:20:38 PMJust listen, and remember that inside the girl you are looking at is a girl's tender heart. Try not to hurt it. And when you have it, remember that she isn't very good at guarding her heart, so that will be up to you. That's a thing a man is good at.
.. and you better believe it ;-)
wonderful piece, Nigel!
:mrgreen:
wow.
Heh.
Quote from: RunsWithScissors on October 09, 2008, 11:49:46 AM
This is the sweetest thing I've seen on this board EVER.
:mittens:
Truf.
Nigel, normal mittens don't do this justice, so you get:
(http://i104.photobucket.com/albums/m175/morgiechops/kitmit.gif)
:)
I dunno if I do better than the cat.
But here are my mittens anyway. :mittens:
This made me "Aw".
(http://i453.photobucket.com/albums/qq251/Zenpeanut/hippo_bump.jpg)
Because it makes me feel so much better even when my I feel shitty.
I think that you give men far too much credit. Most of us, when seeing a woman cry, are confused and want to leave. Emotion, especially non-violent emotion, is an alien concept. Most of the people that I know (and I am speaking of the males)have a narrow view of the world. Their existance revolves around what affects them. Soft hearts and tears are viewed with suspicion. Few these days can see the truth in sincerity. It is a sad thing, and we lose our humanity for it.
Excellent writing, by the way.
I see what you wrote nigel. More importantly i try not to take advantage. You make me smile with my heart
Awww :) Thanks for the bump, too.
Quote from: Faithless on March 08, 2009, 07:31:49 AM
I think that you give men far too much credit. Most of us, when seeing a woman cry, are confused and want to leave. Emotion, especially non-violent emotion, is an alien concept. Most of the people that I know (and I am speaking of the males)have a narrow view of the world. Their existance revolves around what affects them. Soft hearts and tears are viewed with suspicion. Few these days can see the truth in sincerity. It is a sad thing, and we lose our humanity for it.
Excellent writing, by the way.
I strenuously object.
Seconded.
There's a real difference between being a sexually mature biological male and being a "real man"
Probably the same with women too
Quote from: LMNO redux on March 09, 2009, 04:10:24 PM
Quote from: Faithless on March 08, 2009, 07:31:49 AM
I think that you give men far too much credit. Most of us, when seeing a woman cry, are confused and want to leave. Emotion, especially non-violent emotion, is an alien concept. Most of the people that I know (and I am speaking of the males)have a narrow view of the world. Their existance revolves around what affects them. Soft hearts and tears are viewed with suspicion. Few these days can see the truth in sincerity. It is a sad thing, and we lose our humanity for it.
Excellent writing, by the way.
I strenuously object.
Yeah, I couldn't really respond to that. :|
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2009, 06:26:05 PM
Quote from: LMNO redux on March 09, 2009, 04:10:24 PM
Quote from: Faithless on March 08, 2009, 07:31:49 AM
I think that you give men far too much credit. Most of us, when seeing a woman cry, are confused and want to leave. Emotion, especially non-violent emotion, is an alien concept. Most of the people that I know (and I am speaking of the males)have a narrow view of the world. Their existance revolves around what affects them. Soft hearts and tears are viewed with suspicion. Few these days can see the truth in sincerity. It is a sad thing, and we lose our humanity for it.
Excellent writing, by the way.
I strenuously object.
Yeah, I couldn't really respond to that. :|
Understandably.
Quote from: Faithless on March 08, 2009, 07:31:49 AM
I think that you give men far too much credit. Most of us, when seeing a woman cry, are confused and want to leave. Emotion, especially non-violent emotion, is an alien concept. Most of the people that I know (and I am speaking of the males)have a narrow view of the world. Their existance revolves around what affects them. Soft hearts and tears are viewed with suspicion. Few these days can see the truth in sincerity. It is a sad thing, and we lose our humanity for it.
Excellent writing, by the way.
Thanks for promoting regressive stereotypes, ass.
So, nB, do you believe idealism is more useful than pragmatism?
I don't see the pragmatism here. Faithless and I are both being idealists.Pragmatically, I doubt it matters.
You think its unlikely that, realistically, a lot of men do behave in the manner Faithless described?
I also believe, realistically, that a lot of men do not, and that less would if they were not constantly bombarded with expectations. I have known plenty of guys who would act stereotypically macho around other guys, but would become considerably more sensitive in a comfortable situation where they knew they would not be judged. Bear in mind, I'm not trying to argue that "all men are as sensitive as women", just that statement made regarding all men, or men in general, are almost never accurate.
Do you also believe that there are people who read Raymond Chandler mysteries then go out to solve murders?
Quote from: nostalgicBadger on March 18, 2009, 09:00:07 PM
I also believe, realistically, that a lot of men do not, and that less would if they were not constantly bombarded with expectations. I have known plenty of guys who would act stereotypically macho around other guys, but would become considerably more sensitive in a comfortable situation where they knew they would not be judged. Bear in mind, I'm not trying to argue that "all men are as sensitive as women", just that statement made regarding all men, or men in general, are almost never accurate.
I would not make the mistake of generalizing all men into any catagory. That would be wrong. What I was referring to is the general insensitivity of the average human male. As a member of the aforementioned, I observe those around me, almost anywhere that I go. My statement was a reflection of what I have seen. It is unfortunate that most males tend to be as I described, but I do not by any means mean all of them.
Quote from: nostalgicBadger on March 18, 2009, 09:00:07 PM
I also believe, realistically, that a lot of men do not, and that less would if they were not constantly bombarded with expectations.
Male crying about male crying fail.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on April 05, 2009, 12:36:14 AM
Quote from: nostalgicBadger on March 18, 2009, 09:00:07 PM
I also believe, realistically, that a lot of men do not, and that less would if they were not constantly bombarded with expectations.
Male crying about male crying fail.
It could be worse, and you don't need my help to imagine it.
Quote from: Faithless on April 05, 2009, 12:39:45 AM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on April 05, 2009, 12:36:14 AM
Quote from: nostalgicBadger on March 18, 2009, 09:00:07 PM
I also believe, realistically, that a lot of men do not, and that less would if they were not constantly bombarded with expectations.
Male crying about male crying fail.
It could be worse, and you don't need my help to imagine it.
Oh, trust me...Nostaglic Badger WILL get worse.
Welp, another good thread shitted-up. Good job everyone.
Quote from: BADGE OF HONOR on April 05, 2009, 02:08:46 AM
Welp, another good thread shitted-up. Good job everyone.
It's just one more service we offer. :)
I liked it. Yes, not all girls are this way or all guys that way, but it would apply to many.
Unfortunately, the guys who really need to read this kind of thing usually don't read this kind of thing.
Oh indeed.
Excellent, Nigel. Found this via Sheered's bump and I liked it a lot. I would add a pair of mittens, but you've got more than you probably know what to do with. :)
Thanks! :)
AW nigel! i missed this the first time around.
i pictured my bride during the whole reading. :)
Quote from: Burns on May 20, 2009, 05:46:45 AM
AW nigel! i missed this the first time around.
i pictured my bride during the whole reading. :)
:) This pleases me because it makes me feel like I did it right.
Quote from: Burns on May 20, 2009, 05:46:45 AM
AW nigel! i missed this the first time around.
i pictured my bride during the whole reading. :)
That's sweet. And quite a coincidence. When I read it, I also pictured your bride. :mrgreen:
Siriusly, that's cool. Good for you, and good for her. :)
Quote from: Sheered Völva on May 20, 2009, 04:03:08 PM
Quote from: Burns on May 20, 2009, 05:46:45 AM
AW nigel! i missed this the first time around.
i pictured my bride during the whole reading. :)
That's sweet. And quite a coincidence. When I read it, I also pictured your bride. :mrgreen:
Siriusly, that's cool. Good for you, and good for her. :)
wouldn't suprise me as we like enjoy the many different flavors of ice cream.